How long you should know someone for untill you get married Watch
With my current boyfriend we have only been together for ten months and while we have discussed the idea of marriage it is still in the one day we will hopefully do that stage. I think I would need to be with a guy for at least a couple of years before I would consider marriage and probably have lived with them for a bit too. I would also probably want to be 24+
We're both about to head into Uni so maybe a while after uni is over (4 or so years together?) it will happen but who knows!
In a way I think that having a long-term relationship at this age (18) and trying to make it work is a real test. Going though such a stressful time (exams, changes socially and personally, important decisions) puts strains on the relationship. Especially if you're going to separate universities. Some people will get through it together, some people will struggle.
It all depends on the people though. I think it is best to leave it at least a year or so though...I'd want to know the person inside out before marriage =]
take 2 couples tat i know of
one got married after 6 months
the other are gettingmarried this autumn, after 12 years
My brother has known his gf about 7 months and they are getting married soon, it just depends on the couple.
Plus, all of the examples from our parents' generation fail to acknowledge that times were very different then - far fewer people went to university, for a start, and many people were financially independent sooner.
I couldn't say how long, becasue you don't know. It could be 1 year, 5 months, months, 10 years. But you can never say.
there's no set time, but like someone posted in another thread, there are five phases of a relationship...and you shouldn't get married until you've gone through all five.
5 years at least. You can't rush something so serious.
That's not to say it works for everyone - or even most people - just that sometimes, "early" marriages work out very well.
(attraction; honeymoon; reality; commitment; marriage)
That link was given earlier in this thread, I think. However, I find the above link slightly flawed in that a) what authority does this guy have exactly and b) not every successful relationship has to culminate in marriage/civil partnership, and many couples who do marry end up divorcing...
But on the whole it has some useful things to say.
Ellen - wrt your parents, that's great news My parents are similar - they will have been married for 30 years next year. However, I think times back then were very different - fewer people went to university and were thus out working, meaning they were financially independent sooner, and that getting married was a more viable possibility at a younger age for those in long-term relationships (my parents were 19 and 20). I honestly think such examples of young and subsequently long-lasting marriages are the exception, rather than the rule, and are very much dependent upon the time in which they took place.
Plus, of the examples you give, one of the marriages is still a pretty young marriage (four years - my aunt and uncle divorced pretty acrimoniously after 10 years). So I'd still be slightly sceptical...sorry
- CV Helper