How long you should know someone for untill you get married Watch

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There's no real right or wrong answer, just when a couple are both comfortable and ready to take the next step.
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(Original post by suzie_h)
My other bro proposed to his gf on their 1st anniversary after having never lived with each other.
Are they married yet? Because otherwise how can you know if it's working out yet? The question of the OP is about marriage, not proposal.
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Personally, a year seems too soon. I'd probably be looking at 5+ years, including living together, so we know we're truly compatible and ready for the commitment.
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(Original post by *pitseleh*)
What are those meant to be?
Five Phases of a Romantic Relationship:

1. Attraction
- You see someone across a room, at a bar, wherever...and you find yourself strongly physically attracted to them.

2. Honeymoon
- Key phase where you build up a good head of steam to last the rest of the phases. Also called the Idealized Positive Tranference phase. Idealized or perfect partner in your mind, positive attributes transferred onto your partner.

3. Reality
- Two parts; early reality happens the very first time you think 'There's something about this person that bothers me'. Late reality happens when you think 'Can I really make it with this person?'

4. Commitment
- When you decide this is the only person for you right now. Space issues come up...money...

5. Marriage
- Sign a piece of paper, move in together.

http://www.videojug.com/interview/th...a-relationship
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(Original post by Angelil)
Are they married yet? Because otherwise how can you know if it's working out yet? The question of the OP is about marriage, not proposal.
No he proposed to her a couple of weeks ago, i never said it wasn't working out, obv i didnt read the first thing well, god :rolleyes:
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My friend waited a year, they've been together nearly 2 years and she's just had their first baby =]

But they were 28 and 26, so a bit of a difference to most people.

I'd say at least 3 years though.
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(Original post by cuddles x)
this is a very weird question i know ... but i was talking to a mate and we were talking about how long you would have to being going out with your partner before you decided to get married.

my mate said one year...if you know them for one year and your happy and together and right age to get married then they should ... becuase if you dont get married and just date for over a few years you loose some connection...

however i think you should know the other person for way longer like 4years - i dont know why i think that i just do ... i mean im not going to marry someone after one year of knowing them.
i know people that known people for 7 years before they have gotton married ..

what do you think? on average how long would you have to know the other person for ? x
If it just feels right then you'll know
Saying that, it might feel right, but then you get to know them, and hate their guts :P
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(Original post by strawberry)
Five Phases of a Romantic Relationship:

1. Attraction
- You see someone across a room, at a bar, wherever...and you find yourself strongly physically attracted to them.

2. Honeymoon
- Key phase where you build up a good head of steam to last the rest of the phases. Also called the Idealized Positive Tranference phase. Idealized or perfect partner in your mind, positive attributes transferred onto your partner.

3. Reality
- Two parts; early reality happens the very first time you think 'There's something about this person that bothers me'. Late reality happens when you think 'Can I really make it with this person?'

4. Commitment
- When you decide this is the only person for you right now. Space issues come up...money...

5. Marriage
- Sign a piece of paper, move in together.

http://www.videojug.com/interview/th...a-relationship
Ah, we're on the 4th stage then (myself and my other half, I mean).

Though we did live together for a while, heh - but that was because it was convenient, not because we particularly wanted to live together at the time. So that doesn't count.
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(Original post by cuddles x)
this is a very weird question i know ... but i was talking to a mate and we were talking about how long you would have to being going out with your partner before you decided to get married.

my mate said one year...if you know them for one year and your happy and together and right age to get married then they should ... becuase if you dont get married and just date for over a few years you loose some connection...

however i think you should know the other person for way longer like 4years - i dont know why i think that i just do ... i mean im not going to marry someone after one year of knowing them.
i know people that known people for 7 years before they have gotton married ..

what do you think? on average how long would you have to know the other person for ? x
FOREVER.
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For some reason, I've always thought 2 years. I don't know why, but it just seems like if you've been with someone for 2 years you'd probably know them well enough and be sure that you really loved them enough to marry them.

But it really depends. If you're with someone all the time, maybe you'd be ready after a year, if it's a long-distance relationship and you don't see them much, maybe 5 years. it all depends!

I don't think I'd want to marry someone after less than a year or two, as romantic as the whole notion is - I'd want to be sure.
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