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I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
You can always go to the parties and not drink, if you don't find them enjoyable then you can easily leave. Societies will be good ways to meet friends and there will be plenty to choose from
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push yourself out of your comfort zone or you will always be an introvert
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push yourself out of your comfort zone or you will always be an introvert
What’s wrong with being an introvert?
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
That sounds just like my plan!

I cant be bothered for dealing with hangovers and people who have no control over themselves. Not in line with my faith either really.
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
If you don't like clubbing, then don't go- as long as you're not being judgy about the people who do, then people won't hold it against you. If you go out clubbing and so on, then you'll make friends- but with people who like going out to clubs/pubs and parties, so you'll end up having to go to more events you don't enjoy.

It might take you longer to find your "tribe" than some people at uni, but you're better off sticking to doing things you enjoy!

That said, people do change a lot at uni, and I wouldn't turn down new experiences because you think you won't like them. It can be a good idea to try everything at least once or twice- you don't have to drink, and you don't have to stay out til 2am, you can always leave early!
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If you don't like clubbing, then don't go- as long as you're not being judgy about the people who do, then people won't hold it against you. If you go out clubbing and so on, then you'll make friends- but with people who like going out to clubs/pubs and parties, so you'll end up having to go to more events you don't enjoy.

It might take you longer to find your "tribe" than some people at uni, but you're better off sticking to doing things you enjoy!

That said, people do change a lot at uni, and I wouldn't turn down new experiences because you think you won't like them. It can be a good idea to try everything at least once or twice- you don't have to drink, and you don't have to stay out til 2am, you can always leave early!
Thanks for the advice!
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A third of the population are introverts.

What SarcAndSpark said.
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Introversion isnt admirable so follow anon #1 advice
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friend
I never went to any of those parties though i did goto a few clubs with ppl from my accommodation, but i dont like clubbing so i stopped going. If u live in a student accommodation just introduce yourself and ask ppl what theyre into. I asked quite a few ppl if they played any games n stuff cuz i wanted to have friends to play who ill also see often irl. Took me a day to find one and more after that. Just make sure ur not really introverted at first and make conversations about hobbies as such, ppl tend to befriend someone who likes the same as them. Thats how i found my current flatmates.
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push yourself out of your comfort zone or you will always be an introvert
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Absolutely dumbfounded at these comments. I also feel sad for you both because you may have been criticised or even reprimanded for showing introvert qualities.

Just know this: it's OK to be an introvert. Many people are and it's awesome.
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Absolutely dumbfounded at these comments. I also feel sad for you both because you may have been criticised or even reprimanded for showing introvert qualities.

Just know this: it's OK to be an introvert. Many people are and it's awesome.
I'm just talking from my experience. When I used to be introverted my life wasn't great, compared to now where I'm more outgoing
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
Hey!

What I'd recommend is for you to make an effort during fresher's week to do go out with people from halls or do stuff that they're doing. But, you don't have to commit to anything. Just show that you're making the effort etc. :fluffy: After an hour or so, if you feel tired then feel free to go back home or do your own thing.
I think whatever you do the most important thing during fresher's week is to just chat to as many people as possible and to make an effort to spend time with them. But, whatever you do, don't do anything that'll make you uncomfortable. And, remember to have fun.

I never really went out late during fresher's. I went to the student Union in the evening with some friends I had made and after 2-3 hours, I'd go home. I also made a lot of friends on my course who were similar to me - people who enjoyed quiet nights in watching movies or doing some gaming etc.
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I'm just talking from my experience. When I used to be introverted my life wasn't great, compared to now where I'm more outgoing
I'm really sorry your life wasn't great before.

I'd say I was an ambivert/introvert. As of late, I've been staying home a lot and gaming in the evenings. Whenever I game, I usually have friends online and we game together all the while being on a group call via Discord/Skype. I've been close friends with my gaming group for about 4-5 years now (since 2nd year of university). There's 5 of us - one is a doctor, one works in IB, one's an Accountant, one's a project manager and there's me who's doing further study.

We're all quite introverted yet we're pretty happy. We game most weekday evenings and mornings/afternoons on weekends. We're by no means shut-ins either. I studied languages and love travelling and have worked abroad. We all have plenty of friends who we meet up with for lunch or dinners.

Being an introvert just means you get tired among people and often prefer some alone time to recharge. I also enjoy spending time in-doors but some introverts love the outdoors and nature.
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I'm really sorry your life wasn't great before.

I'd say I was an ambivert/introvert. As of late, I've been staying home a lot and gaming in the evenings. Whenever I game, I usually have friends online and we game together all the while being on a group call via Discord/Skype. I've been close friends with my gaming group for about 4-5 years now (since 2nd year of university). There's 5 of us - one is a doctor, one works in IB, one's an Accountant, one's a project manager and there's me who's doing further study.

We're all quite introverted yet we're pretty happy. We game most weekday evenings and mornings/afternoons on weekends. We're by no means shut-ins either. I studied languages and love travelling and have worked abroad. We all have plenty of friends who we meet up for lunch or dinners with.

Being introvert just means you get tired among people and often prefer some alone time to recharge. I also enjoy spending time in-doors but some introverts love the outdoors and nature.
This to an extent is literally me. However, I've found myself falling in love with my University and its culture and so I'm definitely doing things outside of gaming in the evenings for example. Actually, that's not entirely true as I still tend to do that, but I tend to do more with the rest of my day before then, e.g. go out volunteering, socialising with friends, playing sport, etc...

I feel that if I went to any other University, I wouldn't have been able to come out of my shell as much as I have done reflecting on first year.
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I'm really sorry your life wasn't great before.

I'd say I was an ambivert/introvert. As of late, I've been staying home a lot and gaming in the evenings. Whenever I game, I usually have friends online and we game together all the while being on a group call via Discord/Skype. I've been close friends with my gaming group for about 4-5 years now (since 2nd year of university). There's 5 of us - one is a doctor, one works in IB, one's an Accountant, one's a project manager and there's me who's doing further study.

We're all quite introverted yet we're pretty happy. We game most weekday evenings and mornings/afternoons on weekends. We're by no means shut-ins either. I studied languages and love travelling and have worked abroad. We all have plenty of friends who we meet up for lunch or dinners with.

Being introvert just means you get tired among people and often prefer some alone time to recharge. I also enjoy spending time in-doors but some introverts love the outdoors and nature.
That’s very similar to me! I’ve had a discord gaming group for a few years now although we’ve lost touch recently, I used to play with them every evening!
I still want to throw myself into uni ‘day’ life fully I just want to be able to still have a space every evening where I can wind down and game with my boyfriend and hopefully some new friends I will meet at uni.
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
I'm also going to penryn (hopefully) and am facing the same dilemma. I'm wondering if I should just skip the freshers events even though I'm worried about being totally isolated lmfao. but from the responses of most others it seems like sticking to daytime stuff should be fine
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I'm also going to penryn (hopefully) and am facing the same dilemma. I'm wondering if I should just skip the freshers events even though I'm worried about being totally isolated lmfao. but from the responses of most others it seems like sticking to daytime stuff should be fine
Wanna meet up during freshers? XP PM me
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Hey,

I am going to uni hopefully this September and as results day is looming I've been getting quite nervous watching 'Fresher' videos etc. and I was wondering, how can I make the most out of my uni experience when I am quite a quiet introvert, who feels most comfortable playing video games in the evenings and going to bed relatively early?
The good thing is that I am hopefully going to the Penryn campus of Exeter uni and so I know I will be surrounded be many opportunities such as going out on wildlife watches and society taster sessions etc. in fresher's week that are definitely more my type of thing.
However, I know there are still parties and clubbing being organised as Freshers events and I think that if everyone in my flat goes but I am super, super not keen on going, will that make it a lot harder to connect with the people I am living with?
I don't really want to drink at all at uni, as at the moment I only drink a little cider or something once in a while, and I really do not like alcohol/the sensation of getting tipsy.
I also don't particularly want to stay up very late until 2 in the morning being out - after a while of talking to new people I know I will feel very drained and I won't find it fun just standing small talking or club dancing (I am super awkward at dancing) and I also just want to get in bed most days after 11 tbh.

So the question is, should I force myself to go to these parties/events at Freshers or just stick with going to the society stuff I am much more looking forwards to during the day? Will I miss out a lot if I don't go to any/many parties, and will I find it harder to make friends?
I am an introvert so I would advice you to stick with going to the society stuff because parties and events wont be fun for you.You will feel alone even in group of friends as an introvert so you will try to act differently not yourself so as to join the group.By going to the society stuff you will stay your true self and enjoy your time without any anxiety
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I'm a huge introvert. During freshers week I hardly went out, but instead went to pre drinks and parties hosted by people I don't know (my housemates at the time knew a few people already, so invited me along, and with others we walked in to the wrong party lol). I made many friends from just doing this, and I honestly felt like I didn't miss anything or felt left left out (since everyone I knew were got very drunk).

Most people won't remember what happened during nights out in freshers, apart from a few significant events. If you genuinely feel very uncomfortable doing something, don't do it.
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