What aspects of your parents relationship would you not want in your relationship?

The absence of a relationship.

so i was reading an article called Does your parents relationship affect your love life ? and i was wondering if there was any aspects of your parents relationship that you would not want in your own relationship?

they split up when i was 5 so i wouldnt want that if we had kids.

so i was reading an article called Does your parents relationship affect your love life ? and i was wondering if there was any aspects of your parents relationship that you would not want in your own relationship?

they split up when i was 5 so i wouldnt want that if we had kids.

so i was reading an article called Does your parents relationship affect your love life ? and i was wondering if there was any aspects of your parents relationship that you would not want in your own relationship?

they split up when i was 5 so i wouldnt want that if we had kids.

My parents were always violent and verbally aggressive to each other due to their conflicts of interests and overall personalities. In fact there has been a point in my life where I've seen my father trying to strangle my mother on Christmas Day (the day of all days) because he couldn't get what he wanted financially (as he has an extreme gambling problem and wanted to 'borrow' more money from her). This gave me no choice but to call the police and now he has a caution.

Ever since that incident this has been the reason why I've struggled to connect with someone because I obviously don't want to become like that.

Sexism and control

My dad would never help with the chores

My parents split when I was 4 so I really have no memory of their relationship, but I can make judgements based on what I know about them. My dad is very negative and very much "my way is the correct way". He sulks if people don't do things the way he wants. I can imagine this contributed to his divorce. I don't want this.

As for my mum, she has habits of twisting what people say and making herself out to be the victim and then she gets annoyed. Just the other day, my brother and I were at her house for dinner and we commented about how small her kitchen is (she lives in a studio). She got annoyed because apparently that meant her cooking was bad. I can see how this could have led to unnecessary arguments in a relationship. Also, she doesn't have patience when asking someone to do a task. If she asked me to do a household chore at some point that day, if I didn't immediately jump up to do it, she would do it and then shout at me for being lazy. She could ask me at 7am to do something and if I haven't done it by 7:10 then she gets angry.

I'm glad that my relationship isn't like that. We communicate and we consider what we get upset over before starting a fight. We're good at listening to each other and understanding our feelings before we get upset with one another. Hopefully we will have a long and happy life together unlike my parents.