This Young Lad I Live With. Disturbing Issues Watch
I live in a shared house with the landlord and his 2 kids. Last year his wife died and the kids lost their mother. The younger kid is male and is 10 years old. He has some serious issues that I will move onto in a second.
The farther drinks constantly every day. He don't really take any interest in his kids and lets them do as the please. The daughter is 13 and has a baby!
Anyway the young kid has recently been found drawing pictures of his dead mom. He seen her the day she died. She died of cancer and basically died in this house. I have not seen the pictures, my girlfriend has, and she said they are perfect portraits and are disturbing to look at.
The drawings where found because a friend of their family was playing the XBox in his room with him and the young lad said this:
"Don't leave me, I am lonley and scared. I am scared of what I will do when nobody is about".
Nobody is sure what he meant by this, but they think he is talking about killing himself or someone else. He does have anger issues and is always fighting it a school.
The current state of the family is a joke and the poor kid gets no support at all. His dad is an absolute ******. He don't cook for him unless he is eating and will usually leave him to cook noodles and frozen food (pies, chips etc) for breakfast in the morning.
There is nothing I can do to help. I have no right to but in and offer advice and if I did I would get abuse from the dad. The dad, even after being told about his sons issues, does not seem to care.
Poor child. His dad will be dead soon as he is drinking real heavy. (I just lost my uncle at 40 to alcohol abuse).
I was thinking about phoning the social services but how do I phone them without making it look as if someone in the house has grassed him up?
Imagine how much the mother would be upset watching over them all. You need to take some action as the father seems like he's way too deep in alcohol abuse to care or even see sense so it's now up to someone else to make sure the children at least get a chance of a good life.
Let me know how it goes. xx
However you can't just blame the dad. Looking from his point of view he's just lost his wife and if his wife did all the work looking after the family. You can't expect him to suddenly know how to look after the children. But it is irresponsible for him to get heavily drunk and throw away his future and the future of his kids.
that's heart wrenching.
To be honest, the drawings are the least of your problems. Its the alcoholic father that I worry about! My mother died when I was seven, at home, which I saw, and I don't see how him drawing a picture of his mum is any worse than looking at a photo. However, i would definately recommend talking to social services about the dad, especailly since there is a baby in the house...
There are lots of things I could list to put the farther down. The fact that he made his 13 year old pregnant daughter tidy the house every day, even on the day she gave birth. He also punched her in the face while she was holding her sisters baby. This was about 7 months ago.
He strangled his older daughter in the back garden the week his wife died. He blamed her for his wife dying because that same week her baby was born. He now says that the baby killed his wife and took her place so he hates his Gandson.
He makes the 2 kids clean the house every day. He shouts real bad at them and when he is drunk he will call his younger daughter a ****.
Anyway, I feel sorry for the whole family. It cannot be easy but the farther should pick himself up and show an example. He has kids for heavens sake, he can't just do what he does, he has a role to play regardless of whatever is going on around him.
The poor kid hasn't had a new pair of clothes since his mom was alive. He goes to school in clothes that don't fit him.
I am going to call SS in a bit.
Anyway, good luck and I hope the familly can get along better in the future.
Please please ring them. They need help desperately. Would you and ur gf not be able to move out incase the father did guess it was u who called SS?
Another thing that might be helpful to do as well as contacting social services is to let the school know what is going on. This way they will hopefully be able to support the boy and they will have a reason for his acting out.
Finally you could just try and talk to him. Not about anything deep just hang around with him maybe play football with him or something. Just make sure he knows that you are there to support him. You obviously don't have to do this if it is something that you won't feel comfortable with but could help him until things get more sorted.
The authorities have a duty of care since the Victoria Climbie incident and alerting someone will get the ball rolling. They are no longer allowed to drop it
please keep us all updated.