Who else finds that talking about their problems doesn't help? Watch
Sharing difficult times creates bonds between humans. Having someone listen to your problems theoretically:
a) Makes you feel cared for
b) Enables you to solve them if the listener is mature and can look at it in an objective way
However this is only a short term solution. In the long run only solving the problem (or not caring about it any more) will help. For example if you’re frustrated at not being able to find a gf/bf (a common problem I get complaints about) the only solution is to find one or train yourself to not bother. Otherwise you keep thinking about/repeating the same thing...
op you are very much correct.
talking about your problems doesn't help, solving them does.
unfortunately, the majority of people just want to talk about things and they have zero interest in solving their problems.
I find it easier to write down my thoughts/feelings in a journal and refer back to it to track my mood/progress.
Maybe that will help if anyone else finds it difficult to talk...