Need relationship advice Watch
Well, not easy... Imo, he is either putting you in the 'friendzone' or just is not ready for something 'serious' between you two, and is stalling/delaying... But just because you're inexperienced, don't let that be a reason why you act differently... if someone is really interested in you, then they'll be interested in the real you... I don't think you should stop yourself from saying certain things etc, because if he likes you, he shouldn't mind..
Yeah I feel like maybe he is unsure if he wants anythinh serious, as he's joked about "not being able to commit to anything" before 🙄 Do you think there is anything I can do to either show him I don't want to be strung along or to not be stupid and let myself appear too available and easy?
The thing is, if he doesn't want to let you get closer to him, there isn't much you can do, otherwise you may seem desperate... Maybe try and take it easy, and see what he'll do about that? :/
I kinda feel like he was pretty open about himself when we went for coffee. It FELT like a date, he was asking me stuff about myself and revealing stuff about himself I didn't even ask for. I felt like that coffee date had been a turning point, a "gane changer" if you will. But I just don't know how you can go without texting someone at least once a week (im not saying i want him to text me everyday, not at all!) But little things just to show he cares/thinks of me would be nice...And I know I haven't texted him either, but I don't want to constantly initiate. I'm just confused I just wish I could ask what he wants from this/me, but I feel like it would be too forward considering we're not even proper dating
I understand.. hmm... The coffee date did sound like a big part of all this, but the weird thing is that his behaviour isn't consistent with the coffee date... complicated... I think whether you're a great or awful texter, if you care about the other person, you'll at least try with those texts, but it seems like he doesn't care or even wants to text with you, especially you mentioning only you initiate
Yeah but he hasn't put in effort - as hard as it is to hear, you are clearly on the backburner. If he had been trying for 6 months then fair but he clearly hasn't otherwise you would know about it. Personally I think it is toxic for you and he doesn't care enough so move on... try and find someone else who will show you that this isn't the way forward.