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Me and my boyfriend are moving away for uni, he’s going to Birmingham and I’m going to Leicester (1hr away) and I’m wondering if anyone has any tips for how to make it work with the distance. All the posts I’ve seen keep saying just to break up as it won’t work, but I want to stay together. Is it possible for it to work with the distance while at uni and does anyone have any helpful tips?
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It can work as long as you both want it to, you need to be able to communicate with each other and honestly it isnt that bad. There is video calls and occasionally you will visit as well as going hole doing sem breaks. Dont worry about it too much as that will tear a hole in your relationship
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Me and my boyfriend are moving away for uni, he’s going to Birmingham and I’m going to Leicester (1hr away) and I’m wondering if anyone has any tips for how to make it work with the distance. All the posts I’ve seen keep saying just to break up as it won’t work, but I want to stay together. Is it possible for it to work with the distance while at uni and does anyone have any helpful tips?
It's possible if you're both committed to the relationship and it's already a strong one. An hour distance isn't too far away so make sure you regularly see each other when you get the chance. Also be realistic about how much your relationship can withstand.
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I'm currently in a LDR myself and it is not as hard as some people make it out to be. The best suggestions I have are:
- plan ahead when you're going to see each other. Especially where you'll both be at uni and will be needing to study etc, making spontaneous plans won't be particularly easy so plan ahead days when you'll see each other. That's not to say that you can't see each other at other times, it just means that you have days when you know you'll be seeing each other and so it won't go for months and months without you seeing each other.
- communication is important. Where you will not be seeing each other as often, it's important to make sure that you communicate with each other. That's not to say that you have to talk every day, but maybe just check in with each other every few days (you can text, call, facetime, whatever works for you really)
- remember that you both have your own lives. It is important to remember that you will both be going to uni, so you will be experiencing new things, making new friends, etc. You want to make sure that you look after your own social life with other people outside of your relationship as well as maintaining a healthy relationship. Don't spend all of your free time with each other, make sure that you socialise with other people to. Your experiences at university are just as important as your relationship so make sure that it is not your only focus.
- you need to make sure that you trust each other. As I said before, you will both be making new friends and having new experiences, you need to ensure that a level of trust is there meaning that neither of you are going to be getting overly jealous of the other person if they are hanging out with other friends or whatever.

Long story short, it is more than possible to make a long distance relationship work, it is just worth sitting down and having a serious discussion about it before it happens and making sure you are both on the same page about things. Good luck 😁
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Me and my boyfriend are moving away for uni, he’s going to Birmingham and I’m going to Leicester (1hr away) and I’m wondering if anyone has any tips for how to make it work with the distance. All the posts I’ve seen keep saying just to break up as it won’t work, but I want to stay together. Is it possible for it to work with the distance while at uni and does anyone have any helpful tips?
Too many people throw in the towel as soon as they are apart, if you both want it to work then you both need to put the effort in and communicate regularly with each other, and above all be honest
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Trust is key in any LDR relationship.
Checking in on a person to see how their day is going / what they've been up to is good.
The odd skype call (split screen and watch a movie is a good thing to do) can be very welcoming.
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