Discouraged with my self Watch
A male model had his photo used repeatedly and he was very upset about it. It had impacted badly on his relationship and he felt bad that his image was being used to dupe people.
I have also been catfished. In the end I would call people out about it and they would send me their real photo. Their dishonesty appals me. I met another guy on a dating site who was so appalled at the catfishers he was planning to leave the site. We both left together and he even showed me how to do this and make sure the payments were cancelled.
You need to think about the very real pain you are causing others if you intend to continue with this rather selfish so called hobby
You must take the same approach to the man that you are still catfishing. Write an email/text or however you contact him and tell him the truth and apologise.
You will feel so much better. Imagine being able to look at yourself in the mirror as someone who has faced up to those things and put them right, You will feel fantastic and a huge sense of relief. Then you need to work on yourself and find out why you did it and how to feel better about those aspects.
To add to your theme...
I know you may feel unfulfilled looking at the photos of this girl but who’s to say she had the perfect life?
I used to be married to a doctor who looked like a famous pop star. In actual fact he was a cruel person who treated me abominably. So badly,in fact, that I feel much happier on my own.
If you are cat fishing out of boredom, op, try helping others instead. It’s amazing how great that makes you feel. And when you need someone, the friends you make will be there for you in your time of need
Focus on your new life, maybe have a new hairstyle etc and reinvent yourself into the new person you want to be.
I often quote on threads here on the student room about the dangers of internet dating.
Even if you had met these guys irl you may have got a nasty shock. I was definitely underwhelmed when I did.
Then there are also scammers trying to relieve you of your money. Luckily I had done a lot of research into internet dating so was on my guard
As for social media, remember that what you see of other peoples’ lives is the very best - they choose and pose for their images, but what you know of your own life is just as it is - unfiltered, unposed and just out of bed.
Even those girls don’t look like those girls all day every day! Filters, posing, taking dozens of photos and choosing the best ones takes care of skin breakouts, flabby bits, bad hair days, and small eyes.
Decide to be the best that you can be rather than a bad imitation of someone else’s fake Insta images!
Feel free to pm me
I used to catfish It started in 2016 (in roblox tho) when I was playing a game and a nice guy started to talk to me and wanted to be frI ends so i made up a boys name and age. Then in 2017 I was playing a game and a girl started talking and I did the same thing. She wanted to see a pic so I just used Google images. I have removed her now and pretended I was hacked because I knew I couldn't do it anymore I'm 13 now and I just wanted friends when I was 10/11 because I didn't have many and I still don't but I know I can't fake who I am. She asked me to be her boyfriend as well and I said yes but she was probably a catfish as well because her life always seemed dramatic
Feel free to pm me
Anon2049 I’m glad you stopped catfishing is not something you want to get addicted to yea maybe that girl is a catfish did you delete her . I been addicted to catfishing since 2014 ever since I went on this app and friend told me to download . it really does hurt people feelings cause they think the person is real and it turned out to be all a lie . Your really young be careful of the internet stuff . I can relate I barely have a handful of friends . I always wanted to be around the popular ppl or the type of person to be cool . It didn’t happen that way for me and I’m beginning to see why it’s too pressure to be that way. It’s better to be yourself
And yes I deleted her I think she was a catfish tho cos even if I didn't message her for an hour or 2 she would come with crying faces and saying she missed me. I mainly stopped cos I didn't know how long to carry on with the girl for and I just removed her and she's friend ed me a few times but I've declined. But I felt guilty at first but I wouldn't be able to explain.
I am happier with out catfishing cos now I don't have to pretend in someone else or use a lot of time to message and stuff.
Anon2049 I was bullied and teased all through out school until I went to high school the bullying stopped although I was still getting teased .. your right it’s better being yourself and not being popular being popular doesn’t seem easy at all . Yea I can’t wait until I stop catfishing this one person I’m just afraid to tell the truth and it feels like I’m still holding on . I want to be happier not having to lie about who I am .
All through primary I was bullied and teased I'm now at high school going into year 9 and I still got teased (I have a disability where I struggle with walking far and stuff and earlier this year this girl who i thought was my friend added me to a group with her friends and they started saying where's your scooter but as in the mobility scooter and I don't even have one and they were asking for a race and I didn't want one and they started saying oh your scared but I told my mum about that though and no one else knows except the girls the school and my crush and he actually stUck by me) and I don't have many real friends like I have and 'friend' who is only my friend when she wants I think out of my year I only have my crush as a friend and then I have 2 friends in year 11 and a friend in year 13 but they are gonna leave the end of the year.
But when I started catfishing I thought it was best to have loads of friends and be popular in but now I know it's OK not to be a popular kid in school and it's fine not to have many friends cos once you leave school being popular at school won't even matter. Are you boyfriend and girlfriend with the person your catfishing? Or just talking? Idk why I said yes to the girl to be her boyfriend cos im a girl and not lesbian. And just removing her was the only way to go but thinking back she was probably catfishing me anyway.
I was too, and I’m here to tell you that things will get better.
Just enjoy your youth, rather than worrying about whether or not you’re popular.
When you get to my age, you’re worrying about the bills instead!!
Take a step back and think about what you like doing; have fun trying out different styles, hair; make up.
You are unique so show the world just how special you are,