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So lonely I just need a hug :(

I haven't had any proper physical contact with another person in so long. My parents aren't the loving/huggy kind of people. I want a boyfriend so he can hug me and make me feel wanted and safe, but I'm so miserable right now I'm not in the kind of place to attract anyone. I find myself wanting to contact my ex and asking for a hug, but that would be so pathetic. :frown:

I can't sleep right now cos I feel so sad. That's why I'm up this late.

I don't feel that a life without a person to love me is worth living.
Reply 1
:hugs: is all I can do and I know exactly how you feel. Maybe hug some random in the street?
Reply 2
:hugs: aw. everyone feels lonely from time to time. it will pass. until then, wrap yourself up in your duvet, feel the warmth and forget the world. hel, even hug your pillow if you have to :wink: its what i do :redface: and get some sleep!!
Reply 3
nexttime
:hugs: aw. everyone feels lonely from time to time. it will pass. until then, wrap yourself up in your duvet, feel the warmth and forget the world. hel, even hug your pillow if you have to :wink: its what i do :redface: and get some sleep!!


:hugs: i agree with what said above... everyone feels like that sometimes
what about your friends? friends are always good for a mahoosive hug x
:hugs:

There yah go :smile:
Go find the free hugs campaign :biggrin:

-hug-
Reply 6
I know how you feel...I say go get a big friend hug! and smile.
i know exactly how you feel. sometimes i just cry tonnes because i feel so lonely and just want a hug! go to college or uni or work or anything and hug one of your friends, or hug all of your friends! days like that i go into college and go right up to my one frined who gives me huge hugs and picks me up and spins me round, and then i just hug all my friends i see and talk to everyone :smile:
Reply 9
Everyone needs a hug sometimes..
:ciao: :hugs:

:smile:
Reply 10
Hug! :smile:

It'll all be good in the end.
:hugs:
Reply 12
I know how you feel... do what I do and turn up at random friends houses. If you start wailing and having a one way indistinguishable convo "*sob*... sajgeuyautfyu auys *insert name of ex here* jkhdfjhsf bastard!! djksdfsdjjkldsjkds chocolate gone sajsdjhsdfjhdsjhd hollyoaks sajhfdjdfsjhds harry potter shjsahjdsajhds yoghurt" or something similar, they'll usually offer you a hug just to make you shut up.

And don't contact your ex. Just don't do it! Jump some random in the street and hug them senseless before you resort to the ex. It'll get better soon!
Anonymous
I haven't had any proper physical contact with another person in so long. My parents aren't the loving/huggy kind of people. I want a boyfriend so he can hug me and make me feel wanted and safe, but I'm so miserable right now I'm not in the kind of place to attract anyone. I find myself wanting to contact my ex and asking for a hug, but that would be so pathetic. :frown:

I can't sleep right now cos I feel so sad. That's why I'm up this late.

I don't feel that a life without a person to love me is worth living.


I know this may sound ridiculous but I feel exactly the same - I've never had a girlfriend and just crave physical contact with a girl. I know it's not exactly the same situation but I WAS up until 5.00 this morning feeling depressed about it.

But it is worth living - if you're not in the kind of place to attract anyone then do you have friends you can just ask for a hug? If they're your friends they should be more than happy to oblige...and as for your life, if you can't find anyone (which I'm sure you will soon enough) then try distracting yourself with work/tv/etc. I know it sounds stupid but it's what I've been doing every lonely day for the past year!!!

And if you want proof I'm not making this up I think I made some posts at about 4.00 or 4.30 this morning so you can check that if you want, heh.


I hope it gets better for you!

(hug)
Reply 14
That feeling is very familiar to me. It's not like I could just hug one of my friends though because most of them are male. I just don't think I'd get any comfort from hugging another man.
Reply 15
Psyk
That feeling is very familiar to me. It's not like I could just hug one of my friends though because most of them are male. I just don't think I'd get any comfort from hugging another man.


You shoud try it then. guy love is a beautiful thing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL4L4Uv5rf0
Of note, is the part at 2:25.
Reply 16
I'm feeling pretty worthless today, I think we all have days where we need a hug :frown:

I'm sure you are very lovable OP so don't get down. Don't stoop so low to contact your ex!
I know exactly how you feel. I haven't got the 'huggy' sort of mates either so it's not like I've got anyone to snuggle with. It does get you down but I've found that doing things to take your mind off it works - the longer you spend in your bed, thinking about it, stewing over it the worse you're gonna feel. So, get out of the house and do something with your time.
Reply 18
Anonymous
I haven't had any proper physical contact with another person in so long. My parents aren't the loving/huggy kind of people. I want a boyfriend so he can hug me and make me feel wanted and safe, but I'm so miserable right now I'm not in the kind of place to attract anyone.


I know that feeling. Intensely - felt it a lot during the ages of 15 and 19...

All I can say is that it will pass. But may take some time to do so.

Best advice would be to hug friends you feel comfortable hugging (some of my friends were "huggable", others weren't if that makes sense?).
Also find something you enjoy doing and focus on that to try and take your mind of it.

*huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugs tightly*
Your life is worth so much! I found this post, searching “I haven’t been hugged in years”. I never had parents or much family. I’m a male who makes a good living and I take care of many pets. Im athletic, good looking and very love able. I have many friends and people like me. But I haven’t been hugged in many years. It’s honestly killing me. I just want to feel a warming, long, affectionate hug. So to you’re question, your life is very worth living. I affect to many lost souls, yet mine is never healed. But I know my life has purpose and meaning as does yours !!! I really need a hug and so do you. We will get it. But don’t think because you don’t have it, it means you aren’t someone ! You’re a beautiful soul and you’ll find it soon enough