I have this friend and I want him gone (we’ll call him Jake). I met him at the beginning of first year at university, he’d done a foundation the previous year and was now in Year One with me. After two weeks of me meeting him, he said that he liked me. I was startled and didn’t know him very well, so I told him I didn’t know. He said okay. A week later, he told me again, I said I still wasn’t sure. A week later, he told me again which really put me off, so I said I wasn’t interested. Fast forward four months, it was never brought up again and me and my friends are deciding on our accommodation for next year. I end up deciding to live with a girl (I’ll call her Sarah), along with Jake and a couple of Sarah’s friends. After I pay the deposit, Jake tells me that he still likes me, and had never stopped liking me. I’m freaked out by this point. He let me book the flat, full well knowing I was unaware that he still liked me. He’d only known me a month when I rejected him, and it had been four months since and that’s plenty of time to get over someone he didn’t even know very well in the first place, plus I’m nothing special. Then there was the time he stayed over in my flat. I told him to go and sleep on the couch in the living room, but he kept insisting on sleeping on the floor in my room even after I’d told him no multiple times. I ended up putting my foot down, saying that he either slept on the couch or he gets out. He ended up sleeping on the couch, telling me that I was “ruining things.” Also, one time, we had a slight disagreement – very minor to the point that I thought we were over it – and he kept trying to ring me at two in the morning even after I’d said no because my flatmates were asleep. He instead sent me long messages, saying that I “deflect all the time” and ignore his messages, all because I didn’t answer one of his texts for ten minutes bc I was in the shower. He kept saying that my anxiety frustrated him, even though he’s the reason for the majority of it in the first place. He’s done other creepy things, like cry after not spending five days alone with me (he’d still seen me in those five days, just with our group of friends)and say that he felt like he was pushing me away which freaked me out a lot and made me keep my distance from him. Then there’s the worst thing he’s done. One time, I had Jake and two of my friends round my flat. As I mentioned earlier, I have anxiety, which I’m trying to improve by seeing my counsellor, so, after being around people for a while, I tend to get very overwhelmed and need space. I had been with my friends for over 10 hours and was starting to get antsy, amplified by the fact that we had been in my room, in my space. I tried to get them to leave but they weren’t getting the message. I could feel myself getting anxious, shaky and sweaty. I started to feel hot and sick and I could feel a panic attack coming. It had been two hours since I tried to get them to leave, and one of my friends finally noticed. He quickly ushered Jake and the other friend out and I had a panic attack that lasted two hours. It turns out, the entire time, Jake knew I was uncomfortable and that I was going to have a panic attack, but didn’t say anything because he was mad at me “over a small thing” (he never told me what it was, only that he was mad). I ended up confronting him about all this, and he apologised and said he understood. I didn’t believe him, and I was right to. I left the flat I was supposed to be living in, telling Sarah everything and apologising to her bc now she was stuck with him as he’d paid the deposit. I didn’t see Jake for a month, and it was great, my anxiety had decreased a lot and I was generally happier. I never let him into my room again. Fast forward to present day and he still messages me every day without fail. I’m now going to be living in a completely different apartment complex with my best friend. Recently, I put a picture up on Instagram of me and my friends from home saying that I missed them and enjoyed seeing them as I hadn’t seen them in six months. Jake then messaged me asking if I was worried that he was gonna say that he still liked me (which I thought was an odd way of phrasing it) and that whenever he shows “affection” for me *shudders* I don’t reciprocate it. I told him to stop questioning my every movement and to stop guilting me into doing things as he’d been abandoned by his friends in foundation year and often used that to make me feel bad for him. I recently found out why he’d been abandoned. I knew that there were rumours about him but I never knew what they were bc he never told me. Turns out, he had a girlfriend last year and that he’d s*xually assaulted her. He also let himself into her flat, went into her room and sat on the end of her bed and watched her sleep (RED FLAG for the ‘insisting on sleeping on the floor’ in my room thing). Now I’m terrified. He also sends me snapchats where he isn’t wearing anything (I never see anything below the waist but the thought of him not wearing anything makes me feel sick). I want to just block him and be done with it but I’m terrified of him trying to do something creepy to me or bumping into him on campus and he just isn’t getting the message. I have multiple friends who want to beat him up but even then I still don’t feel safe. I’m scared.