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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
I think whether you do or don't end it is entirely dependant on how confident you feel that your relationship is strong enough to make it through long distance, and how much you want to make it work with him. If you feel that the bond between you two is strong enough to make it through, then that kind of relationship can last any distance, but equally, if you feel that you would feel happier and more free going into university single, then maybe that is the right decision for you.

I wish you all the best in working this out! xx
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Is it cod you feel that being single won’t get classed as cheating, good idea
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You have to really want to be together if you’re in a long distance relationship and you don’t. Move on.
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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
Long distance relationships don't work out, I've seen it on TSR a lot. Big up, just cut it off now and save the hassle of hurting his as well as your feelings.
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Sounds like you want to end it anyway. You want to go to uni and have fun. Just admit it to yourself, end it and go there with your moral compass intact. May seem like I am being blunt and harsh, but it's infinitely better than going and cheating on him.
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Why would you want to end it? No critical reason is apparent to me.

Long-distance relationships are still valid as long as both ends are taking their bond seriously even while absent from each other.

You also said he's insisting on carrying on with the relationship; I can sense his loyality, and you would not feel "trapped" if you sincerely love and care about him.
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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
See....if you truly were committed to wanting to be in a relationship with him. You wouldn't even be giving the thought to breaking up regardless of how far the uni is. I get that being apart from someone is hard but that is what puts the relationship to the test. And yeah, if the distance does become a problem, then yes the relationship is not to be.
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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
I'm going into 3rd year at uni and all the people in long-distance relationships I know from 1st year have broken up and got with someone at uni. You both have to be really committed to make it work and it seems like you're not
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(Original post by Jang Gwangnam)
Long distance relationships don't work out, I've seen it on TSR a lot. Big up, just cut it off now and save the hassle of hurting his as well as your feelings.
I have a few friends who are now married to their pre-uni boy/girlfriends - you can't generalise.
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im confused im off to uni long way from my bf and I feel kinda trapped if I go there in a relationship while most of my friends are going single having already broken up, I have talked to him but he insists we should make a go of it even though it will be nearly impossible as neither of us drive and it will cost a fortune to see each other, help should I just end it?
Me and my girlfriend are long distance. You can make it work. Try looking into megabuses as they’re cheap and can easily be booked. Distance is hard but it means you’re in a relationship because you WANT that and not jus out of the convenience of being close together. It lets you build trust and can make you value each other even more
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The fact that you are wondering this means you should.
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(Original post by Muttley79)
I have a few friends who are now married to their pre-uni boy/girlfriends - you can't generalise.
True you can't really generalise, but in her case I was under the impression she's already lost feelings for the lad seeing how she's thinking about going single anyway cuz of uni.
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If you want to smash other guys in uni then break up with him. You don't seem very keen on the idea so you might as well end it.
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You obviously don’t love him, if u do u won’t be even posting this question here. If you love him you’ll stay with him no matter
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We all just assumed we could not keep the teenage relationships of high school in high school, as we diaspora'd out in a multitude of directions to our uni placements. Even with relatively close unis. So that was our high school attitude ~ everybody became a ****buddy we just said cheerio to.
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