Parents trying to ground me even tho I am 18??

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I went out clubbing for the first time the other day and I kept my parents up to date with where I was and my dad said to come home with my friends so I did and got in at 4am. He then said that I'm never allowed to go out that late again and he is lucky I am not grounding. I am about to start Uni and it is freshers week and he is not going to let me out. It is not just clubbing he won't let me go our local pub which literally everyone my age goes to and every time I want to go out even just for a meal he interrogates me and moans at me. However this time last year when I didn't go out at all he yelled at me about that. I don't know what to do and I am living at home for Uni, my dad is really strict and overprotective and will not see sense what do I do????
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I’m living at home for uni too and for situations like this I’m so glad my dad is barely home coz he’s either always working or travelling. (Sorry not helpful)
Try and compromise e.g keep a “curfew” or do some extra work at home idk tbh but parents always will worry if kids get home at like 4am
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I’m living at home for uni too and for situations like this I’m so glad my dad is barely home coz he’s either always working or travelling. (Sorry not helpful)
Try and compromise e.g keep a “curfew” or do some extra work at home idk tbh but parents always will worry if kids get home at like 4am
I kept them update where I am and he told me to just come home whenever my friends did, I just feel like I am missing out on life experience as my dad is overprotective and cannot get a grip
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I kept them update where I am and he told me to just come home whenever my friends did, I just feel like I am missing out on life experience as my dad is overprotective and cannot get a grip
I understand tbh. The only reason I’m not moving out is because I live like 10 minutes away from my uni. Is there no way you could move out?
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Try talking to him and just explain to him your a adult now and he needs to let you go and have a life
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Try talking to him and just explain to him your a adult now and he needs to let you go and have a life
He doesn't really do the whole acting like an adult and having a conversation, he just tells me he is the adult and that's that, none of my friends have this problem and it is frustrating af
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Unfortunately, his house, his rules.

If you want adult independence, the first stage is to move out like an adult.
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I feel like as long as you are living with your dad you should respect his rules. No parent wants to see their child coming home at 4 in the morning 😕
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Are you male or female. You need to discuss it with him. Say your piece respectfully then ignore his reactions if he carries on the way he is. Enjoy yourself, life is too short 🤜
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lol well I'm 24 and I still have a curfew
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Okay and?

If you live under his roof you gotta abide by his rules. Him grounding you for that isn’t exactly unreasonable either.

If you really hate it compromise with an agreed upon curfew.
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I think grounding you at 18 is ridiculous but he does have the right to set some rules. I would try to move out ASAP. Why did you decide to live at home for uni?
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Say youbare sorry and dont be stupid again. Its your fault entirely make sure ur back at the right time
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lol well I'm 24 and I still have a curfew

what's your curfew?
are you male or female?
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I get your dad's point in this tbf - my brother and I have gone out while I'm home from uni and no matter what they say your parents will be awake worrying about if you get in safe or not, and they won't sleep properly. Were you noisy when you got in? If you woke them up I can, again, see why he would be annoyed - if he has work to go to in the morning, he won't appreciate being woken up at 4am. I know you're 18 but if you're living at home you have to live by their rules
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When you live at your parents house and you come that late they get worried.

But like the other guy said as long as you're living under their roof, you live under their rules. Don't like it ? Get a job and move out or you should of picked a non local university.
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Could you stay with friends after a night out, and just make sure your Dad knows where you'll be?
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