My Boyfriend is Too Big Watch

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this is my first time starting a discussion i have no clue if it should be here or not - sorry!
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here it goes, i apologise if it’s too much detail idk the social rules of this place ):

there is a 6 year age gap between my boyfriend and i
there is also a significant height gap - i am 5 foot 4 and a gymnast and he is 6 foot 7 (and yes he is a basketball player)
to fulfil the expectation- his height does very much reflect his penis size. he is between 9 and 10 inches. as much as i am grateful for how much there is to worship and love, when it comes to penetrative sex it hurts every time.
being petite doesn’t help but i’m scared that he’s genuinely just too big for me. i can take him but quite often it does result in me bleeding a little. the majority of the time i’m just overwhelmed with pleasure, but other times he can’t even enter

my questions are
is this normal? has anyone else been in a similar situation? is the bleeding anything more than small tears? how the hell do i make it less painful? how can i make it easier for him to enter?
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JTfoxlove
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i) Firstly talk to him. That's a very large penis and does require a but of thought not to hurt most partners.
ii) Associating penetration with pain may naturally make your body tighten up and your vagina create less lubricant; resulting in a self-fulfilling prophesy.
iii) Make sure you are warmed up and use lube.
iv) Make sure he is gentle and remember that he doesn't need to go fully inside you relatively shallow thrusts will work for both of you. For most males the sensitive part of the penis is the 'head' so depth isn't that big a deal sensation wise.
v) Some guys have watched far too much pornography and don't seem to recognise that jackhammer like a lunatic is not normal, enjoyable, sexy or required.
vi) Bleeding isn't uncommon but is not a good thing. Use lube and care to reduce the chances. You could also talk to your doctor if the problem persists.
vii) Some positions are better than others.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
this is my first time starting a discussion i have no clue if it should be here or not - sorry!
so
here it goes, i apologise if it’s too much detail idk the social rules of this place ):

there is a 6 year age gap between my boyfriend and i
there is also a significant height gap - i am 5 foot 4 and a gymnast and he is 6 foot 7 (and yes he is a basketball player)
to fulfil the expectation- his height does very much reflect his penis size. he is between 9 and 10 inches. as much as i am grateful for how much there is to worship and love, when it comes to penetrative sex it hurts every time.
being petite doesn’t help but i’m scared that he’s genuinely just too big for me. i can take him but quite often it does result in me bleeding a little. the majority of the time i’m just overwhelmed with pleasure, but other times he can’t even enter

my questions are
is this normal? has anyone else been in a similar situation? is the bleeding anything more than small tears? how the hell do i make it less painful? how can i make it easier for him to enter?
Make sure you engage in enough foreplay to help your body stay relaxed and lubricated enough. Don't be afraid to use lube if you need to. Definitely talk to him about it because he needs to know how to use his penis in a way that is pleasurable for both of you but without causing you pain. It may be a case of experimenting and trying out different things, but you'll get there in the end.
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(Original post by JTfoxlove)
i) Firstly talk to him. That's a very large penis and does require a but of thought not to hurt most partners.
ii) Associating penetration with pain may naturally make your body tighten up and your vagina create less lubricant; resulting in a self-fulfilling prophesy.
iii) Make sure you are warmed up and use lube.
iv) Make sure he is gentle and remember that he doesn't need to go fully inside you relatively shallow thrusts will work for both of you. For most males the sensitive part of the penis is the 'head' so depth isn't that big a deal sensation wise.
v) Some guys have watched far too much pornography and don't seem to recognise that jackhammer like a lunatic is not normal, enjoyable, sexy or required.
vi) Bleeding isn't uncommon but is not a good thing. Use lube and care to reduce the chances. You could also talk to your doctor if the problem persists.
vii) Some positions are better than others.
thank you so much!! this is so helpful - i was really embarrassed about posting this even anonymously. do you have any suggestions of what might be better positions than others?
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(Original post by DrawTheLine)
Make sure you engage in enough foreplay to help your body stay relaxed and lubricated enough. Don't be afraid to use lube if you need to. Definitely talk to him about it because he needs to know how to use his penis in a way that is pleasurable for both of you but without causing you pain. It may be a case of experimenting and trying out different things, but you'll get there in the end.
this is so helpful thank you - i just get worried to say something because i don’t wanna hurt his feelings if that makes sense? like he gets really upset when he hurts me i just feel so guilty complaining
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My advice would be lube, lots of lube. Try you being on top - that way you are in control of depth and speed. Either with him laid on his back or sitting on a chair/sofa.
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My advice would be lube, lots of lube. Try you being on top - that way you are in control of depth and speed. Either with him laid on his back or sitting on a chair/sofa.
bought, as you advised, lots and lots of lube. i had him sit up on a sofa and tried being on top for the first time, kinda hurt at first as usual but it was so much better, pain went away really quick and.. i actually enjoyed it! thank you so so much
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Genuinely happy for you! Go have great sex
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