Social anxiety at uni, isolated and alone Watch
Sorry you’re suffering like this. I have a milder form of social anxiety and the only way I have to beat it is to try and not care what others think of me. I sometimes set myself small tasks, like force myself to talk to strangers. I find a lot of people are so not know how to socialise outside their own circles. This doesn’t stop me from trying to be included, I’ve become more immune to the ignorant people. I think everyone has an element of social anxiety, yours seems to be consuming your life. Get some counselling and take small steps forward. You’re an equal to everyone else! Go and introduce yourself to your housemates, think of what the worse thing could happen? It probably won’t be as bad as you’re imagining, small steps build confidence. Definitely get some support through uni. Don’t be scared of others opinion of you!
I can understand this as well. Some options: 1) try to be in the kitchen / common area when your housemates arrive. It is much easier if they are the one coming into the room. Be on your laptop...mumble out a 'hi' when they come in. Even better would be to introduce yourself properly. 2) look for a club where you might find some similar people. A chess club / maths club / computer games club...whatever interest you might have. Then turn up for a club night and wait for someone to talk to you. At least if you are in the situation, you might not have to initiate the conversation...easier to react. 3) See if there is a psychologist / guidance counceller. Perhaps they can assign you a 'buddy'...who could make introductions for you socially. 4) Put up an ad on gumtree / elsewhere online. Advertise for someone to hang out with...prob loads of people looking for that even if not quite as extreme as your situation....or advertise for something you are interested in...or for a skill exchange...or to give cheap grinds to a 1st yr student. I moved to London and put an ad up on gumtree to meet foreign students to practice Spanish. I met about 10/12 people through that ad. One is now my girlfriend. The point is, it is easier to meet someone when there is an agreed purpose - e.g. to practice Spanish - but later these are they type of people who you could end up hanging out with.