Possible TW but I'm after genuine advice so I would appreciate anyone who can offer any helpful input.
Before I explain, I want to say that I was going to post openly and I may open up later on and say who I am but I feel the need to post anonymously as I'm still not comfortable with things and it's all a bit crazy atm....
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Ok so I have a long history of MH and one of the worst bits is having multiple "favourite people" (FP) and when I was in hospital, this was my psychologist. Leading up to my discharge, I was appointed a care coordinator (first time ever being under CMHT) - I didn't trust her and felt like I was cheating on the psychologist just by engaging with her - if you don't understand this don't worry it;s really hard to explain!
Anyway skip forward a couple of months of being out - my care coordinator is my FP - I think about her all day and all night and feel like she will always be there to help with things (unhealthy relationships and boundaries are a nightmare as you will see).
Four weeks ago I was referred to start psychology with a clinical psychologist (different from the hospital one). I told her from the outset that I don't trust her and it took three sessions just to make eye contact. My third session I was on a high and was really productive. I left there last Tuesday (27/08) and due to yet another crisis, I overdosed again on the 30th resulting in A&E admission overnight and usual MH assessment.
Fast forward to this Tuesday (3rd) I had the 4th psychology appointment. I asked to leave early because things were not great and she decided I wasn't ready for psychology (apparently most people with bpd etc. take up to 1 year before they are ready) but then she proceeded to get me to agree that i'd keep myself safe until I see my care coordinator (tomorrow).....A mission in itself.
Anyway so now you've got the history, let me explain my predicament....
After being told psychology was being cancelled, I sent an angry disassociation fuelled email to my care coordinator saying...
"it’s pointlessly continuing with CMHT. I’ve been to psychology this morning and it’s been decided to be stopped until I’m more stable. This always happens - when i need the help the most, people pull away even though I’m trying to do my best. It gets difficult and I get left to get on with it -apparently I’ve got to keep working with you but that’s not fair to put the pressure on you; instead of sharing the pressure out between people you’re now going to come and face the full brunt of it each time. That’s just not fair and I refuse to be a part of it. If I’m going to keep screwing up then I’ll do it myself and then everyone else can feel better knowing they didn’t cause it when they weren’t even doing that in the first place. Please don’t come on Friday or the Friday after that and cancel any uni appointment you have - thank you"
This is the bit I struggle with - I'd rather keep putting my own health at risk through repeated OD's (5 since June alone) than risk what I perceive to be hurting my care coordinator. I won't lie, as part of it you fantasize about "what could be" and in my eyes she can't do ANYTHING wrong as she is on a pedestal but it also means I don't want to discuss it with her or anyone in case I put the relationship in jeopardy and I lose her.... It's so frigging hard!
I have a psychiatrist appointment coming up (first one after discharge) - it's been recommended that I be given mood stabilisers to try and calm down the overthinking and level me out a bit but we'll see.
Anyway so I want to know your thoughts; whether you think it might get better; have you experienced similar; what do you recommend I try if anything?