Softballgirl124
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#1
Report Thread starter 2 weeks ago
#1
Okay so here it comes. Am i lesbian if i get turned on by lesbian porn but every time I think about doing it in irl I got anxious/that gross me out? And actually when I watch lesbian porn and try use my hand my muscles tense little bit and I feel really uncomfortable still somehow i feel pleasure doing it but mentally i wanna cry. I have never had crush on girl and if I think about future I see myself with a man. And yes I do get turned on by mans and I think having sex with them makes me more comfortable. I am just questioning because sometimes when I touch myself i reach pleasure more faster when I watch lesbian but at the same time my mind is again anxious. With the boys I do get turned on and my mind is so much more calming so I enjoy that with mentally stage too. I have ocd too so I think that it can play with me too but idk. Please help me!
0
reply
JTfoxlove
Badges: 12
Rep:
?
#2
Report 2 weeks ago
#2
No lots of 'straight' females look at lesbian porn (and males at gay or pornography where the male is receiving pleasure).

This can be for a number of reasons and may take elements for any of these:

1. Mainstream pornography tends to be male centred and so the female actor is presented in unrepresentative ways that can be so fake they are off-putting or deeply unsettling as they focus on submission and subjugation. If it seems fake to you or offensive then it's going to be a turn off. In contrast lesbian porn tends to represent women in a more representative way where everything is a little less fake and aggressive.

Likewise the male actors in mainstream pornography tend to not be representative of normal males (I'd suggest they are either old and ugly or young and muscled, almost alway dominant with no romance - where are the normal everyday guys? The geeks? The shy guy? The romantic?)

2. There's also an association factor - you associate female genitalia naturally with pleasure. Pornography focusing on your body parts that you have makes it easier to understand the pleasure that is derived from what is going on. A better sexual association factor leads to the material being more arousing and lesbian porn focuses more on female pleasure.

3. What you fantasies about more often than not has no bearing on what you'd like to experience in real life or do with a partner. Fantasies can be way out there - having sex with a vampire in outer space is just as valid or likely as having lesbian encounter for someone who doesn't want to. Likewise non-consensual fantasies are common and in no way means the individual who has these fantasies would want to have this experience.

Pornography, has mudded the waters as it can create a physical and real life sensual experience of the fantasy... it's still just a fantasy though - so again doesn't necessarily represent what you want in real life or to experience with a partner.

4. The arousal factor may be about taboo breaking rather than the topic of the pornography. It's a turn on to be a master of sexuality and to break taboos - so in some cases looking at or engaging in activity which breaks a taboo is the sexual turn-on rather than the activity itself.

5. Don't fence yourself in. Sexuality is always fluid, it's always changing. Perhaps you're in your lesbians and the female body is sexy phase (they and it is), then it'll be (insert sexual activity here).

So try not to worry about it - it's perfectly normal and doesn't mean that you are or must become a lesbian.
I'm not wild about pornography but if you as an adult want it as part of your life make sure you position it in a positive way.
So keep this in perspective, don't overthink it and don't fence yourself in.
Last edited by JTfoxlove; 2 weeks ago
1
reply
mgi
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#3
Report 1 week ago
#3
(Original post by Softballgirl124)
Okay so here it comes. Am i lesbian if i get turned on by lesbian porn but every time I think about doing it in irl I got anxious/that gross me out? And actually when I watch lesbian porn and try use my hand my muscles tense little bit and I feel really uncomfortable still somehow i feel pleasure doing it but mentally i wanna cry. I have never had crush on girl and if I think about future I see myself with a man. And yes I do get turned on by mans and I think having sex with them makes me more comfortable. I am just questioning because sometimes when I touch myself i reach pleasure more faster when I watch lesbian but at the same time my mind is again anxious. With the boys I do get turned on and my mind is so much more calming so I enjoy that with mentally stage too. I have ocd too so I think that it can play with me too but idk. Please help me!
Maybe you are just bisexual?
0
reply
Softballgirl124
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#4
Report Thread starter 1 week ago
#4
(Original post by mgi)
Maybe you are just bisexual?
I dont think i am because i feel uncomfortable if I think doing something with a girl in real life. Plus now i know that I suffer for hocd so yeah but thank you for answering!
0
reply
Anonymous #1
#5
Report 1 week ago
#5
I like to have some sexy fun with girls as non relationship with no strings attached.
Its refreshing to to be able to have some of this woman to women contact while enjoying fun.
I watch lots of lesbians videos to and I think it is fine to do so, its actually good to feel your own body and experiment with things and one thing lead to another with yourself,
You still young girl at heart with years ahead to decide on what you want from life as either with a girl or settled down with a man and kids etc. I'm the same as you but older and yet never had serious thing with men but one day I still want things like a man and kids perhaps.
0
reply
mgi
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#6
Report 1 week ago
#6
(Original post by Softballgirl124)
I dont think i am because i feel uncomfortable if I think doing something with a girl in real life. Plus now i know that I suffer for hocd so yeah but thank you for answering!
Ok. But i hope you are getting help with dealing with Ocd?
Last edited by mgi; 1 week ago
0
reply
Allyson90
Badges: 8
Rep:
?
#7
Report 1 week ago
#7
(Original post by Softballgirl124)
Okay so here it comes. Am i lesbian if i get turned on by lesbian porn but every time I think about doing it in irl I got anxious/that gross me out? And actually when I watch lesbian porn and try use my hand my muscles tense little bit and I feel really uncomfortable still somehow i feel pleasure doing it but mentally i wanna cry. I have never had crush on girl and if I think about future I see myself with a man. And yes I do get turned on by mans and I think having sex with them makes me more comfortable. I am just questioning because sometimes when I touch myself i reach pleasure more faster when I watch lesbian but at the same time my mind is again anxious. With the boys I do get turned on and my mind is so much more calming so I enjoy that with mentally stage too. I have ocd too so I think that it can play with me too but idk. Please help me!
Hiya
You can give it a go with experimenting with girls and if you feel like taking things further with the girls then do so ok,
You can worry about men at a later date if you still feel you want to be in a relationship with men only,
You can choose which one you prefer and don't let anyone else push you into making a decision that you will not be comfortable with ok.

Touching yourself is natural thing to do and if you are comfortable doing this then take things further with touching your whole body including your private areas and see how you feel about this, and image of you have another woman sharing this experience with you, perhaps you will understand things better and help you decide if you prefer to sleep and do things with woman.
You must try out this first, take it easy and talk to other women and tell them how you feel about this situation and take it from there.
Watching lesbian videos don't necessarily mean you are a lesbian, you only become a lesbian ok if you start having relationship with them many times.

If you getting turned down with the boys then perhaps you should try and get another girl to start things off.

Nothing to be ashamed of ok.

And hopefully you are getting help with your health issues as well.
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Back
to top
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Are you attending a Global Climate Strike?

Yes, I'm striking (39)
7.59%
No, but I wanted to/I support the cause (299)
58.17%
No (176)
34.24%

Watched Threads

View All