What do you think of a guy saying that he wants to have sex with you before marriage Watch

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So there’s a few guys I’ve met online. They’ve all said that they wanna have sex before they get married. The thing is I’ve got a past where I’ve had sex with guys who didn’t stick around. I’ve got trust issues. Also, as an Asian Muslim girl, it’s normal in our culture to wait so it would be similar to an arranged marriage but they want to have sex before, is this a clear sign that they just wanna get in ur pants?
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I think it depends really if he wants to have sex with you like now and you don't know him that well then yeah he wants in your pants, but if its just some time before marriage then not necessary, for some people a good sex life is important for a successful marriage so he may want to make sure your the one. But that said it depends on how long you know him, if he is constantly like oh sleep with me that's a real red flag. If like after a long time then that's different.
Having said that online guys saying they want to sleep with you usually translates to pants -_-
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(Original post by Jahana)
So there’s a few guys I’ve met online. They’ve all said that they wanna have sex before they get married. The thing is I’ve got a past where I’ve had sex with guys who didn’t stick around. I’ve got trust issues. Also, as an Asian Muslim girl, it’s normal in our culture to wait so it would be similar to an arranged marriage but they want to have sex before, is this a clear sign that they just wanna get in ur pants?
Not that hard.
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Even non-Muslim boys know the boundaries that a Muslim girl is willing to take
Also, you've commited zina?
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You really shoudnt have allowed yourself to be persuaded by them as you have committed zina now but theres always room for forgiveness. So just don't chat to these guys because they will take advantage of you
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Yes wait untill you're married!
You've fallen into Zina girl!
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waiting to have sex is not an arranged marriage.

you need to decide your own boundaries and not be dependent on theirs.

i won't tell you what you should do, except do not settle. what is your heart telling you to do?
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The only security you got that they'll actually stick around is a ring on your finger.

Basically you want a committed guy? Is that what it is
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I'd think, "thank ****". No sex before marriage would be a dealbreaker for me.

Someone expressing that they don't want to wait for marriage doesn't mean they only want to get in your pants. It just means they consider sex important in a relationship. It's not a bad thing to be upfront about what you're looking for. If you're not on the same page then you know not to go any further with that person.
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(Original post by Jahana)
So there’s a few guys I’ve met online. They’ve all said that they wanna have sex before they get married. The thing is I’ve got a past where I’ve had sex with guys who didn’t stick around. I’ve got trust issues. Also, as an Asian Muslim girl, it’s normal in our culture to wait so it would be similar to an arranged marriage but they want to have sex before, is this a clear sign that they just wanna get in ur pants?
In my opinion, you gotta try before you buy. Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. My partner stuck around after we had sex, and we're getting married next year. Not all guys are the same.
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just tell them you won't have sex and they can find another girl if they want sex
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Don't most people have sex before marriage nowadays?
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Don't most people have sex before marriage nowadays?
yeah but if for religious reasons you can't your partner should respect that
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You need to make sure they know your beliefs as early as possible, because it's not the belief of the majority.
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Ben Dover.
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(Original post by Jahana)
So there’s a few guys I’ve met online. They’ve all said that they wanna have sex before they get married. The thing is I’ve got a past where I’ve had sex with guys who didn’t stick around. I’ve got trust issues. Also, as an Asian Muslim girl, it’s normal in our culture to wait so it would be similar to an arranged marriage but they want to have sex before, is this a clear sign that they just wanna get in ur pants?
Why you doing zina though why don’t you give a sh*t about your religion. It’s just pointless
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You can have four wives in that religion so it can't preach about morals.
Cmon, at least be brave enough to come off anon and say that
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Cmon, at least be brave enough to come off anon and say that
Do you think anon #2 is scared of you?
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Cmon, at least be brave enough to come off anon and say that
Looool I was gonna say
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