Why do people stare at me? Is it my way of dressing or how I look? PLEASE HELP! Watch
I wear black skinny jeans and military boots and band t shirts most of the time. Sometimes I’ll just wear a regular white t shirt with jeans and converse. I wear eyeliner but it isn’t super dramatic or dark, just on the top, sort of cat eye. I also wear some bb cream so my makeup isn’t dramatic compared to the girls at my school for sure lol. I have dark hair with bangs and it’s straight, sort of medium length. I’m 5’7” and sometimes 5’8.5” in my military shoes. Is it my height? My mum says I’m tall however I do not tower over anyone, in fact without my shoes I feel shorter than most people. So I’m assuming it’s my looks but I need advice ok. Do I sound strange looking? Please be honest. By the way I describe myself, do I sound strange by the way I look? I could go more into detail about my looks if it’s really needed.
I have social anxiety so I don’t usually have my head up and I have maladaptive daydreaming as well. But when I have my head up it makes my anxiety worse because if I see someone looking at me it triggers me to look down. I don’t usually look at people due to that reason. Because when I look up people are staring at me. Sometimes people smile, sometimes they just stare. I can’t keep eye contact so I just look away. I’ve tried having my head up and walking with confidence and I still get stares. Most of them are smiles during this time. Which I guess comes with confidence. Again I’m not the only one who notices it, my friends and family mention that people stare at me as well. You see I can’t tell if they’re good or bad stares, I have a hard time with social cues. Sometimes it’s smiles sometimes it’s just plain staring. Usually the women smile and the men just stare and if I look at them they won’t stop.
Let other people stare away. They can window shop all they like. But only a selected few get to handle the merchandise - metaphorically speaking.
There is nothing wrong with you. There's a lot that's right. And there's a few things about you that are different to most (but certainly not all people). Those differences are OK. They're a part of what you are.
Also - could be the band shirts they're staring at! I wear merch to show off sometimes. It's nice to see people taking an interest.
First of all.. why does it matter and why does it bother you? Who cares if you get stared at, everyone experiences it at-least one point in their life regardless. Just go about your day and don't let it stick to you, or you're just going to be more cautious than ever whenever your out in public.