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I have been with my boyfriend a year now and he is 18. Our sex life has never been a worry and it has always been exciting. For the past couple months the sexual spark is no longer there, he is still amazing, makes me laugh and looks after me. However slowly we have been having sex less and everytime I do try something he is always “too tired” “playing a game” “in the middle of a tv show”. Before he diddnt care about those things and now they are more important than me. We are having sex once a week now, if that and we used to have it every couple of days or more. When I mention this to him he gets defensive saying “how can u be moody with me for this” or “I never do that”. It really upsets me and makes me feel ugly and stupid. He doesn’t want to kiss me and pushed my hands away when I try touch his body. Then whenever we do have sex I feel like he doesn’t want to at first and we don’t even kiss before or anything. It feels like the romance is just gone and I don’t know what to do? Is this normal?
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I have been with my boyfriend a year now and he is 18. Our sex life has never been a worry and it has always been exciting. For the past couple months the sexual spark is no longer there, he is still amazing, makes me laugh and looks after me. However slowly we have been having sex less and everytime I do try something he is always “too tired” “playing a game” “in the middle of a tv show”. Before he diddnt care about those things and now they are more important than me. We are having sex once a week now, if that and we used to have it every couple of days or more. When I mention this to him he gets defensive saying “how can u be moody with me for this” or “I never do that”. It really upsets me and makes me feel ugly and stupid. He doesn’t want to kiss me and pushed my hands away when I try touch his body. Then whenever we do have sex I feel like he doesn’t want to at first and we don’t even kiss before or anything. It feels like the romance is just gone and I don’t know what to do? Is this normal?
Seems like he's f*cking someone else now
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Seems like he's f*cking someone else now
He’s not that type of guy. Plus he’s with me all the time and I know he wouldn’t do that. But honestly it was a thought that crossed my mind
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Have you actually talked to your boyfriend about this? Do that.
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Have you actually talked to your boyfriend about this? Do that.
Yes I talk to him about it when it upsets me and he gets defensive saying he does want to have sex and that he’s just tired. But he doesn’t understand that it upsets me and he gets defencive
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I kid you not *please read this carefully*.Have you ever heard of this thing called NOFAP?Basically what i'm trying to say that if your boyfriend has a pornography addiction (or even just watches pornography here and then)then he may be desensitised towards sex(he finds more pleasure watching 2 people have it instead of doing it - it is not your fault it's his .Watching pornography can even be addicting as cocaine and harms an individual's dopamine system (the motivation hormone/pleasure hormone).So basically watching porn or even master baiting can desensitise one and has major side effects.Research the nofap subreddit .Many relationships have crumbled because of PMO(porn,masterbaition and orgasm) so he may find no pleasure in day to day life apart from pmo and intoxicants.The best solution is that he becomes a man and stop commiting to this drug.Go on youtube , research nofap and find this channel called gabe dawg (this guy will help coach your boyfriend about nofap and research semen retention and semen is a vital essence if you keep wasting it you will become lazy.Tell him to read the muti orgasmic man so that he can conserve the seed of life whilst still having pleasurebut this is all assuming he watches pornography (if not then i am sorry for this long post and all the typos) and this post is heavily weird for western society hence why western society has more corrupt people with vice being prominent
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I kid you not *please read this carefully*.Have you ever heard of this thing called NOFAP?Basically what i'm trying to say that if your boyfriend has a pornography addiction (or even just watches pornography here and then)then he may be desensitised towards sex(he finds more pleasure watching 2 people have it instead of doing it - it is not your fault it's his .Watching pornography can even be addicting as cocaine and harms an individual's dopamine system (the motivation hormone/pleasure hormone).So basically watching porn or even master baiting can desensitise one and has major side effects.Research the nofap subreddit .Many relationships have crumbled because of PMO(porn,masterbaition and orgasm) so he may find no pleasure in day to day life apart from pmo and intoxicants.The best solution is that he becomes a man and stop commiting to this drug.Go on youtube , research nofap and find this channel called gabe dawg (this guy will help coach your boyfriend about nofap and research semen retention and semen is a vital essence if you keep wasting it you will become lazy.Tell him to read the muti orgasmic man so that he can conserve the seed of life whilst still having pleasurebut this is all assuming he watches pornography (if not then i am sorry for this long post and all the typos) and this post is heavily weird for western society hence why western society has more corrupt people with vice being prominent
Honestly don’t think it’s that as he shares a room with his 2 younger brothers so don’t think he has the privacy to watch porn very often aha
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Sounds like he's depressed.
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He just wants new pussy maybe? If there no more sexual desire in him.
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Honestly don’t think it’s that as he shares a room with his 2 younger brothers so don’t think he has the privacy to watch porn very often aha
Oh?

Probably just a vitamin d deficiency then...
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Oh?

Probably just a vitamin d deficiency then...
Loooool :lol:

The funny thing is that this could be true. :lol:
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Some unhelpful advice, so far. I agree you maybe should consider he may be getting it elsewhere, but it doesn't sound like it. I also don't believe the mad people who claim masturbation is harmful, it's just an extension of almost everyone's sex life. Don't worry about that.

You're a year in to your relationship. Things are bound to settle down as you get over the honeymoon period of ripping your clothes off and doing it until things are sore. That is not sustainable long term. Consider if anything else could be affecting things; depression, stress, lack of sleep, poor diet, put on weight, medication, money worries etc.

It's common in relationships for things to go in cycles, and you will likely find you do go back to having it more frequently. If you've tried talking about it and he's gotten defensive (and ruled out other causes), then maybe try a few new ideas to bring the spark back. Some sexy underwear, (or even go out with none), sex toys, surprise sex, night away, sexy pictures etc can bring the spark back. Whatever you are comfortable with.

In a busy life you both have to put effort in, sometimes that does mean scheduling sex, and as I get older I'm ok with that.
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Just find another one
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As Apachecow has quite rightly said, the honeymoon period is over.
Your relationship is now moving into the phase where you take each other's good points for granted and notice their negative points a lot.

The reduction in sex combined with him playing a lot of video games and watching a lot of TV are pointing to incompatibility in 3 key areas
1 sexual incompatibility. At the age of 18 he should be rutting like a stag.
2 possible incompatibility in your approach to money. Are you an ambitious go getter? It sounds like he's the unambitious couch potato type? Mind you, it wouldn't take much to be more ambitious than your current boyfriend (from what you've told us).
3 incompatible to your basic approach to raising children. Imagine him as a dad. Coming home from work (or not working at all) and sitting in the living room watching TV, or in the study playing video games. Every night. Would you be happier with someone that did things with you and the children? Such as eating together round a table with the TV off. Playing games and sports together. Going on excursions and evenings out.

Incompatibility in any of these 3 key areas is a show stopper.
Time for you to start searching for someone more compatible?
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Hon, just give him some space. There are times when you just don't feel like doing it. Stay with him, care for him and give him some time.
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It's obvious isn't it!
He's realised he prefers co*k!
Because he's gay
You were the test subject just to see if he liked pus*y
Does he go to the "gym" lots
Check his phone
I bet he has Grindr on there and is suk*n and fu*in other dudes in gay saunas or older guys flats.
Get rid of him. He's obvs gay or bi. There are loads of guys on grindr who are married or have gfs! Usually blk/pak/asian/ lads.
Sorry to break the bad news but at that age as someone has said he should be shag*in you senseless every day! so he's either fuk*n around with other pus*y but more likely he's a secret co*k suc*er!
Just out of interest, have you ever thought this?
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