I dont get "turned on" from kissing my bf Watch

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I'm not the biggest kissing fan, but I've still kind of enjoyed it in the past. However, with my bf it feels like a chore and I feel sick doing it. He is an okay looking guy and a good kisser, so I don't know what it is

On top of that, I can go ages without having sex with him and when I do I usually get bored. TMI but he is also good at sex and role playing and all that stuff, so it's nothing to do with his abilities. I just prefer cuddling etc.

He's starting to get annoyed at me and insecure, which is understandable. What should I do?
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Have a conversation with him, tell him all of this; otherwise he's going to think it's something wrong he's doing. From what you've described, it just sounds like you may be asexual or verging on that, which is absolutely normal and is fine, but a conversation with him is vital.
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Time to get a new boyfriend.
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End the relationship. You two clearly aren't compatible.
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(Original post by Oli9050)
Have a conversation with him, tell him all of this; otherwise he's going to think it's something wrong he's doing. From what you've described, it just sounds like you may be asexual or verging on that, which is absolutely normal and is fine, but a conversation with him is vital.
Thank you, will do
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I'm not the biggest kissing fan, but I've still kind of enjoyed it in the past. However, with my bf it feels like a chore and I feel sick doing it. He is an okay looking guy and a good kisser, so I don't know what it is

On top of that, I can go ages without having sex with him and when I do I usually get bored. TMI but he is also good at sex and role playing and all that stuff, so it's nothing to do with his abilities. I just prefer cuddling etc.

He's starting to get annoyed at me and insecure, which is understandable. What should I do?
Since i rarely buy this aesexual rubbish i am going to say that since you have enjoyed it in the past but feel sick now, you are simply not attracted to your boyfriend sexually. With regards to sex you say he is good but you get bored which intimates that he is not bringing you to orgasm beforehand.

Either teach him how to bring you to orgasm and get over the lack of attraction or break up with him. Hell, you might even consider a website like Fetlife if you have had this problem before, it is entirely possible you are kinkier than you think.
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Maybe you’re asexual?
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(Original post by Oli9050)
Have a conversation with him, tell him all of this; otherwise he's going to think it's something wrong he's doing. From what you've described, it just sounds like you may be asexual or verging on that, which is absolutely normal and is fine, but a conversation with him is vital.
Doesn’t mean they are asexual, just means she might not find him attractive
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Since i rarely buy this aesexual rubbish i am going to say that since you have enjoyed it in the past but feel sick now, you are simply not attracted to your boyfriend sexually. With regards to sex you say he is good but you get bored which intimates that he is not bringing you to orgasm beforehand.

Either teach him how to bring you to orgasm and get over the lack of attraction or break up with him. Hell, you might even consider a website like Fetlife if you have had this problem before, it is entirely possible you are kinkier than you think.
Asexuals can still enjoy sex with someone however it likely isn't the answer here, but dismissing the possibility is quite insulting.

And it isn't Aesexual, there isn't an e.
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Asexuals can still enjoy sex with someone however it likely isn't the answer her, but dismissing the possibility is quite insulting.
It’s not really
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It’s not really
Between the thread yesterday and calling asexuality rubbish here it is getting insulting. I don't think OP is ace but that doesn't mean anyone has to be rude about possible sexualities.
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Between the thread yesterday and calling asexuality rubbish here it is getting insulting. I don't think OP is ace but that doesn't mean anyone has to be rude about possible sexualities.
I’m not getting rude, OP just doesn’t feel sexually attracted to someone anymore, that doesn’t mean they are asexual
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I’m not getting rude, OP just doesn’t feel sexually attracted to someone anymore, that doesn’t mean they are asexual
I didn’t say you were being rude it was the other person. I agree that this doesn’t sound like asexuality for OP.
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I didn’t say you were being rude it was the other person. I agree that this doesn’t sound like asexuality for OP.
Oh ok
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