Losing my virginity (boys only)

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Im 17 and I'm straight, but still questioning. I get turned on by guys and girls, but I only get turned on by certain type of males and romantically I don't even like them. I like girls romantically and physically, but the thing is I only get turned on by females by porn and sometimes physically. I only see males as friends. I have been feeling some girls in sixth form and there is this girl that I think likes me. We always lock eyes an the way she talks with me, makes me think she does. I want to enter relationships with girls, but my only anxiety is I wont get turned on during sex. Whenever a female gets close to me, I always push them away. Is there any advice you could give to me, because I'm scared.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im 17 and I'm straight, but still questioning. I get turned on by guys and girls, but I only get turned on by certain type of males and romantically I don't even like them. I like girls romantically and physically, but the thing is I only get turned on by females by porn and sometimes physically. I only see males as friends. I have been feeling some girls in sixth form and there is this girl that I think likes me. We always lock eyes an the way she talks with me, makes me think she does. I want to enter relationships with girls, but my only anxiety is I wont get turned on during sex. Whenever a female gets close to me, I always push them away. Is there any advice you could give to me, because I'm scared.
First things first: Whether your strait or gay or bi or whatever, no one cares I promise. It may be scary being this confused, but there’s no need to label it at all. Just take it as it comes and see how you feel along the way.

Okay now: i think for you the most important thing is being comfortable with whoever you choose to loose your virginity too. Your anxiety seems to be the main barrier, so you clearly need to be comfortable with this girl and know she won’t judge you whatever happens. When that anxiety goes, you’ll find it a lot easier.

You’re not the only one, in fact I’d say you’re in the majority. It would be weird if you WERNT experiencing anxiety about your first time. It’s totally normal and just take it slow and get to know her first a bit more, until you feel comfortable enough with her take the next step.

Good luck babe xx
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Im 17 and I'm straight, but still questioning. I get turned on by guys and girls, but I only get turned on by certain type of males and romantically I don't even like them. I like girls romantically and physically, but the thing is I only get turned on by females by porn and sometimes physically. I only see males as friends. I have been feeling some girls in sixth form and there is this girl that I think likes me. We always lock eyes an the way she talks with me, makes me think she does. I want to enter relationships with girls, but my only anxiety is I wont get turned on during sex. Whenever a female gets close to me, I always push them away. Is there any advice you could give to me, because I'm scared.
Are you a guy?

it will be fine.
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Just because you enter a relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex.

If you enter a relationship and the other person pressures you for sex and you're still unsure/don't want it, don't do it. If the other person is being mean about it, it's not worth it.

Take your time with it, I promise there's no rush.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im 17 and I'm straight, but still questioning. I get turned on by guys and girls, but I only get turned on by certain type of males and romantically I don't even like them. I like girls romantically and physically, but the thing is I only get turned on by females by porn and sometimes physically. I only see males as friends. I have been feeling some girls in sixth form and there is this girl that I think likes me. We always lock eyes an the way she talks with me, makes me think she does. I want to enter relationships with girls, but my only anxiety is I wont get turned on during sex. Whenever a female gets close to me, I always push them away. Is there any advice you could give to me, because I'm scared.
I probably know who you are if you tell me the sixth form you go to
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(Original post by TheOnlyIzzy)
First things first: Whether your strait or gay or bi or whatever, no one cares I promise. It may be scary being this confused, but there’s no need to label it at all. Just take it as it comes and see how you feel along the way.

Okay now: i think for you the most important thing is being comfortable with whoever you choose to loose your virginity too. Your anxiety seems to be the main barrier, so you clearly need to be comfortable with this girl and know she won’t judge you whatever happens. When that anxiety goes, you’ll find it a lot easier.

You’re not the only one, in fact I’d say you’re in the majority. It would be weird if you WERNT experiencing anxiety about your first time. It’s totally normal and just take it slow and get to know her first a bit more, until you feel comfortable enough with her take the next step.

Good luck babe xx
Thanks because when I see pictures of half-naked girls I don't get turned on I get scared, but I somewhat get turned on by lesbian porn. I really want a girlfriend so I will follow this advice Thanks x.
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Anonymous #1
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Just because you enter a relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex.

If you enter a relationship and the other person pressures you for sex and you're still unsure/don't want it, don't do it. If the other person is being mean about it, it's not worth it.

Take your time with it, I promise there's no rush.
I feel like there will be pressure to do do so and I will not appear manly if I dont.
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I feel like there will be pressure to do do so and I will not appear manly if I dont.
Nothing is more manly than sticking to your morals and not being peer pressured into doing things, especially those you don't want to do.
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