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Hi everyone! Just after some advice here,

I am now a 2nd year Nursing Student and am finding that I am still struggling with uni life.

I often find myself homesick, but because of my course, I can rarely go home, phoning my parents can make it worse, and seeing all of my friends seemingly being fine makes it worse and makes me question if there is something wrong with me? I somewhat regret moving away from home, and always find myself looking for job adverts when I qualify for hospitals closer to home. Moving to a uni closer now is not really an option.

I have just moved into a student house with people I used to speak to (prior to Christmas when I signed the contract) however, now, I don't really speak to them and keep myself to myself in my room. I keep looking at alternative accommodations for thrid year which I don't think is helping as I need to get through this year in the house first.
I don't have any hobbies/clubs and the only friends I have are from my course. I have one friend who goes to a different uni in the same city as me, but I feel like I burden her because I always want to see her and I know she has her own friends. I don't like going clubbing/going out that much but my friends do so I find it hard to socialise in that way.

I have noticed I have no energy to cook, have lost my appetite, don't really care about anything at the moment, find myself using work/uni as an excuse to not socialise and see other people, and constantly thinking about what it would have been like at another uni.

I can't really speak to my parents about this as they have no idea. they know I don't struggle with the academic side of uni and think that I am having an amazing time.

Just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has experienced the same thing, any advice to get through these next two years?

Thanks
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi everyone! Just after some advice here,

I am now a 2nd year Nursing Student and am finding that I am still struggling with uni life.

I often find myself homesick, but because of my course, I can rarely go home, phoning my parents can make it worse, and seeing all of my friends seemingly being fine makes it worse and makes me question if there is something wrong with me? I somewhat regret moving away from home, and always find myself looking for job adverts when I qualify for hospitals closer to home. Moving to a uni closer now is not really an option.

I have just moved into a student house with people I used to speak to (prior to Christmas when I signed the contract) however, now, I don't really speak to them and keep myself to myself in my room. I keep looking at alternative accommodations for thrid year which I don't think is helping as I need to get through this year in the house first.
I don't have any hobbies/clubs and the only friends I have are from my course. I have one friend who goes to a different uni in the same city as me, but I feel like I burden her because I always want to see her and I know she has her own friends. I don't like going clubbing/going out that much but my friends do so I find it hard to socialise in that way.

I have noticed I have no energy to cook, have lost my appetite, don't really care about anything at the moment, find myself using work/uni as an excuse to not socialise and see other people, and constantly thinking about what it would have been like at another uni.

I can't really speak to my parents about this as they have no idea. they know I don't struggle with the academic side of uni and think that I am having an amazing time.

Just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has experienced the same thing, any advice to get through these next two years?

Thanks
Hi,
Really sorry to hear about that.
I'm starting nursing this year and I am probably your parents' age.
First, there is nothing wrong with you. Everybody reacts different for changes and moving away from home to study is huge change. When I was your age and moved away from my home I was the happiest person ever but my home was a war-zone.
Have you tried the wellbeing centre at your Uni? They might help you.
What happened with the people you just moved with? Why are you not talking? is there any possibility to get a place on your own. It's different to talk to people at Uni than actually live with them. I would probably go mad in shared accommodation. Can you talk to your personal tutor and ask if you can take some time off to go home see family.
Please let your parent know how you feel. You are everything to them and they should know what's going on. Maybe together you can make some plan.
And there is one more thing, this studies are only 3 years. You are already in second year. 2 more years and you will have your degree and will be able to work wherever you want. Just try to think positively. Good luck
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You've got yourself into a self-defeating and downward moving spiral.

This needs to broken.

Let's start here. Can't speak to the people you share a house with? What does that mean exactly?
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Hi everyone! Just after some advice here,

I am now a 2nd year Nursing Student and am finding that I am still struggling with uni life.

I often find myself homesick, but because of my course, I can rarely go home, phoning my parents can make it worse, and seeing all of my friends seemingly being fine makes it worse and makes me question if there is something wrong with me? I somewhat regret moving away from home, and always find myself looking for job adverts when I qualify for hospitals closer to home. Moving to a uni closer now is not really an option.

I have just moved into a student house with people I used to speak to (prior to Christmas when I signed the contract) however, now, I don't really speak to them and keep myself to myself in my room. I keep looking at alternative accommodations for thrid year which I don't think is helping as I need to get through this year in the house first.
I don't have any hobbies/clubs and the only friends I have are from my course. I have one friend who goes to a different uni in the same city as me, but I feel like I burden her because I always want to see her and I know she has her own friends. I don't like going clubbing/going out that much but my friends do so I find it hard to socialise in that way.

I have noticed I have no energy to cook, have lost my appetite, don't really care about anything at the moment, find myself using work/uni as an excuse to not socialise and see other people, and constantly thinking about what it would have been like at another uni.

I can't really speak to my parents about this as they have no idea. they know I don't struggle with the academic side of uni and think that I am having an amazing time.

Just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has experienced the same thing, any advice to get through these next two years?

Thanks
Even though it may be daunting, you need to go and speak to student support at your university. Even if you can't verbalise what's been going on, you could show them this post to let them know. A course like nursing with placements etc. can get incredibly overwhelming, so you need to address that feeling ASAP.

You also need to try to socialise with your housemates more. Self-isolating isn't going to make them more appealing/friendly, so you need to take the step to be the friendly one. You can do this gradually by simply spending more time in the communal areas and less in your room.
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Im starting 2nd year in October and I'm worried that I will not make or have any friends. My first year of uni last year was terrible, my experience was so bad i ended up with one friend hanging by a thread. She is going to be having her second child this year so I can guarantee that she won't be as in lessons much. I don't know if my uni will do a similar event to 'freshers fair' for second years. Im so lonely, I don't know what todo. Any help would be beneficial. Thanks
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