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Hi,
I'm entering my second year next week but I'm really dreading it. I've somehow managed to make no friends at uni...

Freshers was great, thought I'd made a friendship group but that turned out not to be the case. I'd message them a few months later, and they made lame excuses like 'we're not going out tonight' only to see on social media later that day, they were at the club.

I just don't know what I am doing wrong. I'm not unlikeable, I have lots of friends back home and it sucks seeing everyone around me enjoying life. It makes me so depressed and anxious and sometimes I even think whether uni is worth it.

What can I do entering second year? I can't bear the thought of another lonely year but how can I make friends now everyone is settled into their own friendship groups? I was considering joining societies but they seem so cliquey and I feel so awkward going to a social on my own. People usually attend with a friend, so I'd look so weird.

Why has this happened to me? Any stories of anyone who had an awful first year experience but it got better in the second year?
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Hi,

I had a similar issue in college. Try strike up convos with random ppl when ur just sitting with them you’d be surprised, one nice conversation I had with someone led to her introducing me to her entire friendship group and a few months later u wouldn’t know we all met recently. Little things make a difference so just keep moving, and also it is annoying going for socials alone but believe me you won’t regret it.

Hope this helps
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi,
I'm entering my second year next week but I'm really dreading it. I've somehow managed to make no friends at uni...

Freshers was great, thought I'd made a friendship group but that turned out not to be the case. I'd message them a few months later, and they made lame excuses like 'we're not going out tonight' only to see on social media later that day, they were at the club.

I just don't know what I am doing wrong. I'm not unlikeable, I have lots of friends back home and it sucks seeing everyone around me enjoying life. It makes me so depressed and anxious and sometimes I even think whether uni is worth it.

What can I do entering second year? I can't bear the thought of another lonely year but how can I make friends now everyone is settled into their own friendship groups? I was considering joining societies but they seem so cliquey and I feel so awkward going to a social on my own. People usually attend with a friend, so I'd look so weird.

Why has this happened to me? Any stories of anyone who had an awful first year experience but it got better in the second year?
Try to meet different people by trying new things like joining new societies or volunteering at university. University is a large place - you won't have met everyone in your year and there will be people who suit you character more out there - you just need to find them! You may find if your course is a large class that your group will be split up into smaller classes based on module choices and various seminar classes - this will give you an opportunity to talk to and work with different course mates you wouldn't have in first year. Also, don't be afraid to talk to new first year students - you can make friends in other years too. Go into things with an open mind and don't let preconceived thoughts affect your actions - a lot of people attend socials alone for the first time and friendship groups can change over time during university. There is no reason to say that they will not accept you!
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