For the first time in 2 years I seen my boyfriend with a shirt off, and I got uncomf? Watch

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Hey guys, I feel really **** for saying this and I don’t know why it’s bothering me!
I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years- and in that time I have NEVER seen him without a shirt off. He always wears long sleeves, we have sex with the lights on and always clothed.
I always felt like there was something missing in our relationship. Until now, I know what is.
For the first time, I seen it off because I begged him to take it off. I mean sitting there for 5 minutes begging him.
He finally did I feel so ****ing **** for feeling the way I do. He is overweight (I already knew this in a way, but clothing can hide a lot) and I can see his skin because of how hairy he is. - this is a major turn off for me.
2 years. I’m not saying I feel lied to, but 2 years and I finally see all of him.
I feel uncomfortable after seeing it because my attraction has dimmed. - he is not interested in exercing so forget asking if we can start eating healthier and working out together
He won’t remove his hair either; this was a conversation on a different day.
What do I do?? I feel so ****
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Anonymous #1
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Sorry ** I meant we have sex with the lights off **
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Sataris
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This has got me wondering whether there actually are any couples who have had sex for that long and haven't seen each other naked
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You obviously must’ve gotten a feel for his body atleast so I’m not sure why you’re so surprised. It’s weird how quick people can go from 1 to 0 over little things.
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Why should he put up with uncomfortable itching because you want him to remove the hair? If you don’t fancy him, then end it for his sake. I find your attitude a bit disgusting to be honest - no wonder he was so reluctant to remove his top. Just leave him and stop bullying him.
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It sounds like you're not actually attracted to him. Do him a favour and break up with him.

You aren't comfortable with his weight or hair, and he shouldn't have to change for your preference.
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Honestly I don’t get why guys get agggrsice on threads like this when majority of the time if the girl they’re dating was unattractive to them they would be as shallow.

Initial Physical attraction is important in a relationship and tbh the weight thing is concerning.

If he’s overweight, he needs to lose weight not for you but his health too.

I would say break up cos he’s not comparatively with ur standards and it’s unfair for him to continue to invest in a relationship where someone isn’t really attracted to him.

There’s nothing wrong with finding someone not attractive idk why ppl make it a big deal no here.

“So shallow” when they themselves have at least some physical standards too.

But break up, not just for you but for him. Ur wasting both ur times.
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It’s just sad that most relationships nowadays only work due to physical attraction and sex. But I mean what can you do about it anyway. If you don’t feel attracted anymore, just breakup with him and move on 🤷*♂️
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Sorry ** I meant we have sex with the lights off **
If you are not trolling then this is odd. You both must have body and intimacy issues. Why did you allow this for 2 years? did you have your clothes on as well? If you dont like him then dump him
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Asking for myself but if someone does have a lot of hair down there (arse crack etc) how would they get rid of it
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Asking for myself but if someone does have a lot of hair down there (arse crack etc) how would they get rid of it
Nair cream, waxing? google it?
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Asking for myself but if someone does have a lot of hair down there (arse crack etc) how would they get rid of it
Back sack and crack - wax it or go for permanent hair removal
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Honestly I don’t get why guys get agggrsice on threads like this when majority of the time if the girl they’re dating was unattractive to them they would be as shallow.

Initial Physical attraction is important in a relationship and tbh the weight thing is concerning.

If he’s overweight, he needs to lose weight not for you but his health too.

I would say break up cos he’s not comparatively with ur standards and it’s unfair for him to continue to invest in a relationship where someone isn’t really attracted to him.

There’s nothing wrong with finding someone not attractive idk why ppl make it a big deal no here.

“So shallow” when they themselves have at least some physical standards too.

But break up, not just for you but for him. Ur wasting both ur times.
The OP must have know that he was overweight and she must have had more than an inkling that he was hairy. She said that she feels like he lied to her. Honestly, she sounds like a narcissistic nightmare. Please dump him for his own good.
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(Original post by Rohit_Rocks10)
It’s just sad that most relationships nowadays only work due to physical attraction and sex. But I mean what can you do about it anyway. If you don’t feel attracted anymore, just breakup with him and move on 🤷*♂️
Nowadays

its literally always been the case
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