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How can I tell my girlfriend to tell her ex to stop contacting her or block him?

He’s been in touch several times with her, and she just doesn’t tell him to stop contacting him. She hasn’t even blocked him.

She has told him about me, but I don’t think that makes a big deal of difference.

I know next to nothing about their relationship.

I feel like the fact she hasn’t told him to stop or hasn’t even blocked him, means she’s leaving the door open.

I don’t even know whether I should tell her to stop answering him or to block him?

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Reply 1
I would probably ask her to block him if I was in that situation but do whatever you think is right.
Reply 2
Original post by SIP2006
I would probably ask her to block him if I was in that situation but do whatever you think is right.

That’s what I feel I must do too, but what concerns me is that she hasn’t done it herself, or at the very least told him to stop.


They aren’t friends, they haven’t spoken in years, but she’s left the door open for him to get in touch again.
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
He’s been in touch several times with her, and she just doesn’t tell him to stop contacting him. She hasn’t even blocked him.

She has told him about me, but I don’t think that makes a big deal of difference.

I know next to nothing about their relationship.

I feel like the fact she hasn’t told him to stop or hasn’t even blocked him, means she’s leaving the door open.

I don’t even know whether I should tell her to stop answering him or to block him?

you have no right to. it's none of your business.
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
That’s what I feel I must do too, but what concerns me is that she hasn’t done it herself, or at the very least told him to stop.


They aren’t friends, they haven’t spoken in years, but she’s left the door open for him to get in touch again.

You should tell her your thoughts on the situation and tell her your concerns.
Reply 5
Original post by Ciel.
you have no right to. it's none of your business.


She’s my girlfriend, how is it none of my business??
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
She’s my girlfriend, how is it none of my business??


it's her choice if she wants to keep in touch with him, stop being a control freak.
Reply 7
Original post by Ciel.
it's her choice if she wants to keep in touch with him, stop being a control freak.

They aren’t friends, he ditched her without telling her anything years ago, they haven’t spoken for all that time, and she’s not making it clear that she doesn’t want him to contact her.

How do you think you would feel about it?
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
They aren’t friends, he ditched her without telling her anything years ago, they haven’t spoken for all that time, and she’s not making it clear that she doesn’t want him to contact her.

How do you think you would feel about it?

because she obviously does want him to contact her.
and i wouldn't care.
Reply 9
Original post by Ciel.
because she obviously does want him to contact her.
and i wouldn't care.

Well there lies the issue. His intentions are clear to me, and they should be to her. If what you’re saying is true, that it’s obvious she wants him to contact her, it’s a big problem and that she still has feelings for him.
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
Well there lies the issue. His intentions are clear to me, and they should be to her. If what you’re saying is true, that it’s obvious she wants him to contact her, it’s a big problem and that she still has feelings for him.

i'm not her, but that seems to be the case. unless she's one of the overly-kind people who don't have the ability to say no to people
Original post by Anonymous
Well there lies the issue. His intentions are clear to me, and they should be to her. If what you’re saying is true, that it’s obvious she wants him to contact her, it’s a big problem and that she still has feelings for him.

Some massive assumptions there.

She is entitled to speak to anyone - maybe she's hoping for him to say 'sorry'? However, she's with you and not blocking him doesn't mean she cares about him.

Just focus on YOUR relationship now not her past
Some people remain friends after breaking up, maybe they’re just friends which isn’t crazy. Maybe trust her? And if she does do something then leave her then she clearly isn’t for you or into you. Also what’s the content of their conversations if you know?
Original post by Anonymous
He’s been in touch several times with her, and she just doesn’t tell him to stop contacting him. She hasn’t even blocked him.

She has told him about me, but I don’t think that makes a big deal of difference.

I know next to nothing about their relationship.

I feel like the fact she hasn’t told him to stop or hasn’t even blocked him, means she’s leaving the door open.

I don’t even know whether I should tell her to stop answering him or to block him?


I think you can ask her about the situation and if handled carefully then how it makes you feel plus you would prefer she didnt.

That said I dont think its for you to decide who she can and cannot speak to.
You can decide whether you wish to stay with her or not.
Original post by ImAGiraffe
Some people remain friends after breaking up, maybe they’re just friends which isn’t crazy. Maybe trust her? And if she does do something then leave her then she clearly isn’t for you or into you. Also what’s the content of their conversations if you know?

They’re not friends. He’s trying to get back with her.
It’s best out in the open. You can’t tell/instruct her to do anything. You might have to face the music 🎶 and learn that she really does rate him over your relationship with her.
damn what's with TSR always saying "it's her choice, don't be a control freak blah blah blah"
switch the roles and it'd been "dump his ass" or something.

Honestly, you're in a relationship, so it's understandable u think this way.
Have you tried communicating with her about how you feel?
You keep mentioning 'Blocking' like it's some expected or required thing...a lot people consider it a bit petty and only use it in instances of abuse. If you're in the dark about her relationship with him or commitment to you, you need to ask, trying to dictate who your partner can talk to generally doesn't work out. If anything it probably encourages people to seek an escape or supportive other man...
Express your concern, but don't tell her what to do. What she does is up to her.
You can't stop her talking to who she wants to. If she didn't want to reply to him, she wouldn't. If you're unhappy with her talking to her ex, you clearly have insecurity issues that need to be addressed. Honestly, your feelings are the problem here, not the fact that she is messaging this guy.

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