Clubbing with social anxiety Watch

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So scared, I said I’m going out tonight with my university flatmates but I’m shy and never party... I’m at university and this is my second day, one of my flatmates is blasting out loud music and I’m terrified in my room. I don’t drink alcohol, I’ve tried but I’m just not a fan, but this flatmate has so much alcohol with him! That’s fine of course but I’m scared he might judge me if I say i don’t drink, what if he tries to pressure me into drinking? My flat is going to this club and I don’t know how I’ll manage... I said I’d go, I have tried so hard not look antisocial. But this might be a bit much for me. People everywhere, crowds, drunk creepy guys, people kissing and stuff... I will not fit in at all! I can’t say I won’t go, first impressions count. If I say I changed my mind that would be like social suicide. This is freshers week... I have to go but I’m scared help!
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Don't feel pressured into drinking or clubbing. If you don't want to go you don't have to, and its uni, they won't judge you for not going (and if they do they are jerks you don't need in your life)

There should be plenty of fresher events that don't revolve around drinking or clubbing too
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Above made a good point. Also think about your goals from this

Are you trying to lose/reduce your social anxiety? Doing things like going out of your comfort zone (clubbing, maybe not drinking) gradually and consistently can see decent results.

If you’re trying to make friends? You can make friends from societies and course etc. There are people that don’t get along with flatmates but have lifelong relations with society mates.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So scared, I said I’m going out tonight with my university flatmates but I’m shy and never party... I’m at university and this is my second day, one of my flatmates is blasting out loud music and I’m terrified in my room. I don’t drink alcohol, I’ve tried but I’m just not a fan, but this flatmate has so much alcohol with him! That’s fine of course but I’m scared he might judge me if I say i don’t drink, what if he tries to pressure me into drinking? My flat is going to this club and I don’t know how I’ll manage... I said I’d go, I have tried so hard not look antisocial. But this might be a bit much for me. People everywhere, crowds, drunk creepy guys, people kissing and stuff... I will not fit in at all! I can’t say I won’t go, first impressions count. If I say I changed my mind that would be like social suicide. This is freshers week... I have to go but I’m scared help!
So I went to the club and surprised myself, it was actually really fun and for someone with social anxiety I was pretty open! It wasn’t too crowded, I just danced in a circle with some of my flatmates and to start with it was really awkward dancing but by the end I just let go and had a great time. The songs were good so I was singing along, it was so loud I didn’t have to talk to anyone so that was great, I just danced, sang and hadn’t fun. I’m glad I tried this and plucked up the courage to go, for the first time I actually didn’t feel really awkward and isolated. I felt more myself, so I guess I quite like clubbing now!
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So I went to the club and surprised myself, it was actually really fun and for someone with social anxiety I was pretty open! It wasn’t too crowded, I just danced in a circle with some of my flatmates and to start with it was really awkward dancing but by the end I just let go and had a great time. The songs were good so I was singing along, it was so loud I didn’t have to talk to anyone so that was great, I just danced, sang and hadn’t fun. I’m glad I tried this and plucked up the courage to go, for the first time I actually didn’t feel really awkward and isolated. I felt more myself, so I guess I quite like clubbing now!
I was gonna say, social anxiety was never really an issue with clubbing for me, because it doesn't strike me as a particularly social activity. But hey, maybe I'm doing it wrong :rolleyes:
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This was posted 3 hours ago? How did you manage to go clubbing? Glad it went well though
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This was posted 3 hours ago? How did you manage to go clubbing? Glad it went well though
Not from the UK, presumably.
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Just go and drink tbh, what's the worst thing that can happen? Just take this chance and be a little social, if you drink you will feel more social.
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So I went to the club and surprised myself, it was actually really fun and for someone with social anxiety I was pretty open! It wasn’t too crowded, I just danced in a circle with some of my flatmates and to start with it was really awkward dancing but by the end I just let go and had a great time. The songs were good so I was singing along, it was so loud I didn’t have to talk to anyone so that was great, I just danced, sang and hadn’t fun. I’m glad I tried this and plucked up the courage to go, for the first time I actually didn’t feel really awkward and isolated. I felt more myself, so I guess I quite like clubbing now!
I also have social anxiety, it especially torments me when I'm about to do something involving people... however, similarly to your situation, after the activity begins, I'm becoming more relaxed and I'm gradually breaking this ice within me. I still don't hang out with each and every one. I need to have a circle of common interests and simply feel comfortable around others, then I can reveal my cheerful and sociable side. As an introvert, you can also peacefully coexist among extroverts. It's just essential that socializing doesn't bring you negative emotions, if it does, then you're simply not with Your company. University life can completely transform you.
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I also have social anxiety, it especially torments me when I'm about to do something involving people... however, similarly to your situation, after the activity begins, I'm becoming more relaxed and I'm gradually breaking this ice within me. I still don't hang out with each and every one. I need to have a circle of common interests and simply feel comfortable around others, then I can reveal my cheerful and sociable side. As an introvert, you can also peacefully coexist among extroverts. It's just essential that socializing doesn't bring you negative emotions, if it does, then you're simply not with Your company. University life can completely transform you.
Yeah I formed a little circle with a few flatmates and just stuck with them at the club, and after a while I really did manage to show some of my more sociable cheerful side! Still extremely shy around everyone but clubbing is actually helping me break the ice. Before the club I was shaking I was so scared, but when I got there all the anxiety just faded and I gradually became more and more comfortable just dancing and enjoying the atmosphere. There’s another club tonight and I’m terrified once again, but I know when I get there I’ll probably be fine like last time, social anxiety just makes me overthink everything to the extreme but when reality hits in I’m fine! Tonight should be fun but there’s still anxiety, I can’t wait to just get there so the fear will just disappear tbh.
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