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We've been dating for a month now and things are going well but I since it's the first time I've gotten a boyfriend and his first time having a girlfriend I'm quite nervous of ruining anything.

Would it be weird to ask him what his love language is and tell him mine (which I don't know yet) so that we both continue to feel loved?

My friends say that I'm being to clingy and overthinking it too much. I'm really worried that I might put him off since my friends said that since he's quite stoic he'll most likely be put off and get bored of me.

Any advice? I just want to know if I should ask him for his love language and tell him mine?
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Eh. What are you even expecting him to say? I've been dating since I was 14 (almost half my life ago) and if someone asked me that I'd just stare blankly at them and ask "what?"
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Eh. What are you even expecting him to say? I've been dating since I was 14 (almost half my life ago) and if someone asked me that I'd just stare blankly at them and ask "what?"
That's what I'd expect him to say too. I wanted to know what his love language was so that I can show him love in a way that he feels love too, if that makes sense?
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As you don't know your own love language either, why not suggest you both take the test, as a fun thing?
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...what?
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...what?
There's this concept called love languages, basically an idea that love is expressed in five main distinct ways and each person has an expression they favour
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(Original post by Anonymous)
We've been dating for a month now and things are going well but I since it's the first time I've gotten a boyfriend and his first time having a girlfriend I'm quite nervous of ruining anything.

Would it be weird to ask him what his love language is and tell him mine (which I don't know yet) so that we both continue to feel loved?

My friends say that I'm being to clingy and overthinking it too much. I'm really worried that I might put him off since my friends said that since he's quite stoic he'll most likely be put off and get bored of me.

Any advice? I just want to know if I should ask him for his love language and tell him mine?
Sorry, but what even is a love language? Why do you need this in order to love each other? I've been with my fiance over 2 years and neither one of us has heard of this language, and we both feel very loved and appreciated in our relationship.
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As you don't know your own love language either, why not suggest you both take the test, as a fun thing?
That's a great idea! Thanks!
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Sorry, but what even is a love language? Why do you need this in order to love each other? I've been with my fiance over 2 years and neither one of us has heard of this language, and we both feel very loved and appreciated in our relationship.
We don't need it to love each but I just thought that it would be nice to know what makes him feel the most loved.
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Sorry, but what even is a love language? Why do you need this in order to love each other? I've been with my fiance over 2 years and neither one of us has heard of this language, and we both feel very loved and appreciated in our relationship.
after nearly six years i do not have a clue what a love language is either. asking specific questions about someones likes works just as well
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how serious are you? personally if i were dating someone for a month and they even whispered the word love i'd run asap.

if you stay together long enough, you'll know his love language without discussing it; it'll show through behaviour and arguments. you may even already know it
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The only language of love I know is French :sexface:

No, but seriously OP. Can you give a detailed explanation of what a love language actually is, because most people don’t seem to have a clue.
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I've never heard of a love language before. Just speak normally.
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We don't need it to love each but I just thought that it would be nice to know what makes him feel the most loved.
You could just ask him what things he likes in a relationship. Still have no clue what this "language" is.
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Weird
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There's this concept called love languages, basically an idea that love is expressed in five main distinct ways and each person has an expression they favour
>mfw there's an explanation already in the thread ^^^
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after nearly six years i do not have a clue what a love language is either. asking specific questions about someones likes works just as well
(Original post by Plantagenet Crown)

No, but seriously OP. Can you give a detailed explanation of what a love language actually is, because most people don’t seem to have a clue.
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Sorry, but what even is a love language?
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>mfw there's an explanation already in the thread ^^^
Still don’t know what that means, it’s too vague.
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Still don’t know what that means, it’s too vague.
A love language is a way of expressing love, for example through giving gifts or spending quality time with someone. Someone's "love language" is the way of expression they prefer in their relationships
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Lmao im not surprised that people on here have never heard of the concept of love language
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Lmao im not surprised that people on here have never heard of the concept of love language
How come?
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