Do I reach out after this. Urgent advice needed. Please... Watch
We have known each other years and we became really close, after 6 months or so I started developing feelings for him, he lived abroad then moved to the U.K and we met via mutual friends. He is the polar opposite to me, I was amazed he gave me the time of day truth be told. But some how things developed and we built up a friendship.
When we first added each other on Facebook I had a look at his profile to see if he maybe might be into dudes, I saw so many posts from previous friends about him, the usual derogatory comments. All seemingly questioning his sexuality, though his profile says into women. His last relationship with a girl was 6 years ago, he tagged himself in a relationship in 2014 but the girl said they never dated and i thought this was odd to still have this on your profile, he also had an ex manager who posted a meme 'tag someone who enjoys watching gay porn in private', this was shared in 2016.
The dude has had comments made about him being camp etc and he wears a silver earring in the left ear which is quite big and glittery but I can't really gage if he is.
Last year we were watching a movie alone and out of nowhere he said 'I can't wait to get a girlfriend to watch films with'
This played on my mind when I got home and I never outright told him I was gay, I messaged him on FB and said did he say this cause he's straight and he replied 'correct mate', I said I saw him as a good friend and didn't want to ruin things and he said that's fine, no worries.
After this he became massively attentive, at Uni I would play online games constantly, just to amuse myself, well I did this for over 10 days until I logged in one evening and saw this guy played a recent game, intrigued I checked his profile out, he played every single game I did and shared the same content as me. This was somewhat strange, he was obviously monitoring my account and checking my activity. I addressed this to him but he was cagey, even though I addressed this, it carried on for over 3 months, everyday nearly and I didn't understand why.
After this point, I started watching a show I like on tv in the early hours of the morning, this guy started messaging me in the early hours of the morning, 1am, sending several messages till I responded, we would chat till after 4am! and it became a weekly thing for awhile, he seemed to be showing some interest but for what reason who knows.
after the show came to an end, he started up copying what I was doing again, so I acknowledged this to him.
he went off that he was straight, heavily invested in women, only saw me as a friend, and didn't swing that way, seemed a bit aggressive for just chatting.
well having had enough I took him off Facebook and thought best to move on, 5 weeks later and it's me keeping a distance this guy sends me a friend request at 1.45am , I accepted days later and he actually asked me why I deleted him, after his outburst it should have been clear, he seemed pretty annoyed that i removed him, but again for what reason who knows.
Sadly at uni it became apparent that students knew my sexuality, someone drew a sketch on a board of the guy I like and me in a derogatory manner for students to see and my lecturer, horrified I had been outed.
The guy didn't do the drawing but a girl told me that he had told her everything about me liking him.
I messaged him on Facebook and went off big time, never to speak to me again and I was done with him for this.
But I do really miss him, massively so. I can't tell why he invested so heavily in me and monitored my movements for so long truthfully, it doesn't sound like the actions of a straight guy and for 3 months? Am i being naive or is this friendship behaviour, I'm blocked off Facebook permanently and I am wondering should I reach out on twitter and try and salvage the relationship. Advice welcome.