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I’m make and couldn’t feel anything in sex

I recently had sexual contact 3 times with the same girl and each time I didn’t feel a single thing, is it because I’m too small, she said it is.

I’m 4.2 girth and 4.7 in length

I’m scared as I feel like this can affect me in futures

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I'd be extremely concerned... ...that I had leprosy.

So you couldn't feel her pubic bone against yours?

You couldn't feel your testicles touching anything?

The feel of a naturally lubricated vagina of an aroused woman around the penis of a man, especially one wearing a condom, is very different to that of a dry hand around a penis with no condom. Just because it's different, more gentle and more subtle, doesn't mean to say there's no feeling at all.
Blimey what are you putting it in, the Grand Canyon ?
Reply 3
Original post by Rotting Corpse
While 4.7 is small, I don't see how you wouldn't feel anything. I mean, if you can feel your finger go inside a vagina then surely you'd also feel your penis penetrating her?


Sadly I mean like their was no feeling it just felt wetness if that makes sense
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Original post by Dunnig Kruger
I'd be extremely concerned... ...that I had leprosy.

So you couldn't feel her pubic bone against yours?

You couldn't feel your testicles touching anything?

The feel of a naturally lubricated vagina of an aroused woman around the penis of a man, especially one wearing a condom, is very different to that of a dry hand around a penis with no condom. Just because it's different, more gentle and more subtle, doesn't mean to say there's no feeling at all.


No like I had no feeling it was just wetness, like she felt upset because i could not ejaculate and she tried to use her hand but still had no feeling of anything
Original post by Anonymous
No like I had no feeling it was just wetness, like she felt upset because i could not ejaculate and she tried to use her hand but still had no feeling of anything

You probably just didn't fancy her that much or felt uncomfortable in some way with the situation.

You're not that small and she doesn't sound very nice for saying it was all your fault, but maybe she felt defensive. Don't let one bad experience make you feel too upset
See a doctor asap
Original post by Marymelon123
See a doctor asap

I know you're joking but OP might take this seriously so it's not helpful
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Original post by harrysbar
You probably just didn't fancy her that much or felt uncomfortable in some way with the situation.

You're not that small and she doesn't sound very nice for saying it was all your fault, but maybe she felt defensive. Don't let one bad experience make you feel too upset


Thanks Harry you seem nice 😊

Yeah I think I was uncomfortable as I was insecure due to my size and also I don’t think I was ready but got pressured into it slightly. I’m not even sure. We’re not together now for similar reasons as apparently it wasn’t pleasing her aswell but she just said it’s my size
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks Harry you seem nice 😊

Yeah I think I was uncomfortable as I was insecure due to my size and also I don’t think I was ready but got pressured into it slightly. I’m not even sure. We’re not together now for similar reasons as apparently it wasn’t pleasing her aswell but she just said it’s my size

The size of a man's penis is not that important to a woman (I am a woman myself although often get mistaken for a man on TSR because of my username, and have had chats with several other women on this topic, so that is where my belief comes from). Most women do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone in any case, although I can't go into more details .....but rest assured, your size will be ok for most women, and I expect you will enjoy sex more when you are doing it with the right person in the right circumstances
Original post by harrysbar
The size of a man's penis is not that important to a woman (I am a woman myself although often get mistaken for a man on TSR because of my username, and have had chats with several other women on this topic, so that is where my belief comes from). Most women do not orgasm from penetrative sex alone in any case, although I can't go into more details .....but rest assured, your size will be ok for most women, and I expect you will enjoy sex more when you are doing it with the right person in the right circumstances


Oh sorry not bad.

Yeah I guess it’s because of all the misconceptions and with what she said that’s made me worry.

What do you mean by you can’t go into it more?

Thank you I hope so aswell
Original post by Anonymous
What do you mean by you can’t go into it more?

I'll probably get banned if I get more explicit but I'm sure you can google it :colondollar:
Original post by Anonymous
No like I had no feeling it was just wetness, like she felt upset because i could not ejaculate and she tried to use her hand but still had no feeling of anything

Yeah, that sounds about right.

As I said, it's a subtle feeling.

The vagina has to be highly elastic and naturally self lubricating. It's where babies come out!

I don't see the problem if you couldn't ejaculate. Just carry on doing that and other things till she's had an orgasm, or 2 or 3 or 4. And then she'll be fine and happy with you.
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
Yeah, that sounds about right.

As I said, it's a subtle feeling.

The vagina has to be highly elastic and naturally self lubricating. It's where babies come out!

I don't see the problem if you couldn't ejaculate. Just carry on doing that and other things till she's had an orgasm, or 2 or 3 or 4. And then she'll be fine and happy with you.


Yeah like she had a orgasm each time she said but after the first one she wanted to stop and go to sleep each time I’m not even sure lol
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah like she had a orgasm each time she said but after the first one she wanted to stop

Hmmmmm
You're not even that small sooo... please don't worry about your size haha. It's pretty average, I wouldn't even class that as 'small' and I've seen a lot of D's so trust me hahahah
Original post by harrysbar
Hmmmmm


She said it’s because she’s tired and wants to sleep
Original post by Anonymous
You're not even that small sooo... please don't worry about your size haha. It's pretty average, I wouldn't even class that as 'small' and I've seen a lot of D's so trust me hahahah


Oh aha I think it’s just made me worry because of people internet who shows them off in photos or videos and it’s like double/triple then with what she said
Original post by Anonymous
Oh aha I think it’s just made me worry because of people internet who shows them off in photos or videos and it’s like double/triple then with what she said


Yeah i get that, people who have huge D's seem to be the people taking photos and videos etc, but honestly as long as you're over 4in (but preferably over 4.5) you're totally ok and it won't effect your life in relationships at all unless it's with a girl who has a huge interested in 10 inchers lol

but your problem with feeling stuff i can't help u with, maybe it was just a 1 time thing with that particular person
Are you circumcised? This can reduce sensation. Do you watch pornography? This can also cause sexual dysfunction

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