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Hi, I have only just started Uni but really don’t know if it is right for me. I have literally only been here a few days but I can’t help feeling it’s not for me. Here are my reasons why:
1) Only going because I have no direction of what I want to do career wise (which I feel bad about because I know there are people really wanting to go but can’t)
2) I am really shy and quite and am not a good socialiser
3) I don drink alcohol at all
4) I miss being at home
5) My flat mates are all boys and I am a girl which kind of makes me feel uncomfortable even though they seem like nice enough people
7) am only doing the course I chose because i didn’t know what else to do

The only problem is I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t go to uni, I understand I could have a gap year and get a job but have no clue what I would do after as I have not found a passion yet and don’t think anything would change if I were to have a gap year.
There is also the fact that I would be thousands in debt for nothing.
Any help would be really appreciated, and I know It is only the first week and I will keep going a bit longer, but if I do end up not wanting to be there anymore, what shall I Do? Thank you so much! 😊
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What are you studying if you don't mind me asking
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i'd at least ride it out a little longer, I was in the same situation as you. Absolutely hated it for the first month, but once I got more settled down and got into the swing of things I ended up loving it. Now I'm just wishing everything else would hurry up and start again.
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What are you studying if you don't mind me asking
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i'd at least ride it out a little longer, I was in the same situation as you. Absolutely hated it for the first month, but once I got more settled down and got into the swing of things I ended up loving it. Now I'm just wishing everything else would hurry up and start again.
Thank you, that’s the plan for now but glad to know I am not the only one and that it worked out for you
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Maybe the uni can transfer you onto another course, since it's still early. That would be the least disruptive option.
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Thank you, that’s the plan for now but glad to know I am not the only one and that it worked out for you
Well I hope it works out well for you too! Just remember it's still early days.
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Have you started your lectures yet. I am on freshers week right now. Give it until Christmas but i bet you will enjoy it more then you think. It seems like a good course to do. And the main thing about uni is to study and get your degree. The friends can come later at any time
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Hi, I have only just started Uni but really don’t know if it is right for me. I have literally only been here a few days but I can’t help feeling it’s not for me. Here are my reasons why:
1) Only going because I have no direction of what I want to do career wise (which I feel bad about because I know there are people really wanting to go but can’t)
2) I am really shy and quite and am not a good socialiser
3) I don drink alcohol at all
4) I miss being at home
5) My flat mates are all boys and I am a girl which kind of makes me feel uncomfortable even though they seem like nice enough people
7) am only doing the course I chose because i didn’t know what else to do

The only problem is I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t go to uni, I understand I could have a gap year and get a job but have no clue what I would do after as I have not found a passion yet and don’t think anything would change if I were to have a gap year.
There is also the fact that I would be thousands in debt for nothing.
Any help would be really appreciated, and I know It is only the first week and I will keep going a bit longer, but if I do end up not wanting to be there anymore, what shall I Do? Thank you so much! 😊
1) Most people don't know what they want to do career wise. A degree is still handy to have under you belt.

2,3,4,5) Why not study at home instead, whilst working? It can sometimes work out cheaper too.

7?) You don't want to torture yourself with something you despise for three years. Sometimes you do need to take a step back from the whirlwind of everyone going to uni to put things into perspective.

If you want to leave, you have the right to and there's nothing wrong with that. Uni isn't for everyone. You can always do your degree another time if you felt like it was the right time for you.
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Have you started your lectures yet. I am on freshers week right now. Give it until Christmas but i bet you will enjoy it more then you think. It seems like a good course to do. And the main thing about uni is to study and get your degree. The friends can come later at any time
No I haven’t started lectures next, like you I’m on freshers. Yep I think the course is quite good tbf. Thank you for responding, and I definitely agree that the degree is the most important thing
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1) Most people don't know what they want to do career wise. A degree is still handy to have under you belt.

2,3,4,5) Why not study at home instead, whilst working? It can sometimes work out cheaper too.

7?) You don't want to torture yourself with something you despise for three years. Sometimes you do need to take a step back from the whirlwind of everyone going to uni to put things into perspective.

If you want to leave, you have the right to and there's nothing wrong with that. Uni isn't for everyone. You can always do your degree another time if you felt like it was the right time for you.
Thank you so much! I didn’t actually consider an Open University Degree but now you mention it I think it’s a really good idea. I wonder if it would be possible to transfer over to it? I was thinking the exact same about not wanting to be unhappy for three years... it wouldn’t be worth it. I think knowing I have the freedom to leave definitely helps too, so I really appreciate you saying it as well so thank you
P.s. yes the 7 was supposed to be a 6 😂
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No I haven’t started lectures next, like you I’m on freshers. Yep I think the course is quite good tbf. Thank you for responding, and I definitely agree that the degree is the most important thing
Awww yeah, just remember everyone is feeing the same. I am so passionate about the course i am doing but even i have nerves and thought it wasn't the best option for me but i know it is. Where are you going to be based. Im in Chester?
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Hello. I experienced something similar to this 2 years ago so I shall share my experience. I finished my A-levels 2 years ago and narrowly missed out on my firm choice uni by 1 UMS mark and I was looking forward to going to my firm for a while. When I arrived at my halls for my insurance uni during freshers it took me 3 days before I was on my way back home again. I was several hours away from home which isn’t something I wanted, I was unsure about the course and my future aspirations so didn’t want to waste time at uni, and also I had feeling of loneliness but I understand that is to be expected. I spent the last 2 years working, earning and saving money and finding myself and what I REALLY want out of life. I am a different person now and other people see that, and today is my first day of university, at a closer university which I feel very comfortable attending. Leaving and taking time to think was the option that worked out for me so if you do leave it isn’t the end of the world and I hope you realise that!! Good luck with whatever you decide to embark on in the upcoming year.
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Hey.

Very common feelings: cold feet, anxiety. I would advise most people to stick it out for a little longer. I, like some of the others in the thread, have had the same feelings.

In the end, here I am, working for HallamStudents and going into my third (technically 4th, as I changed course) year.
There's things for everyone: people don't have to drink. You can join societies and get involved with things that way.

Hope this helps a little
Joshua
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Awww yeah, just remember everyone is feeing the same. I am so passionate about the course i am doing but even i have nerves and thought it wasn't the best option for me but i know it is. Where are you going to be based. Im in Chester?
I’m based in Leicester 😊
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Hello. I experienced something similar to this 2 years ago so I shall share my experience. I finished my A-levels 2 years ago and narrowly missed out on my firm choice uni by 1 UMS mark and I was looking forward to going to my firm for a while. When I arrived at my halls for my insurance uni during freshers it took me 3 days before I was on my way back home again. I was several hours away from home which isn’t something I wanted, I was unsure about the course and my future aspirations so didn’t want to waste time at uni, and also I had feeling of loneliness but I understand that is to be expected. I spent the last 2 years working, earning and saving money and finding myself and what I REALLY want out of life. I am a different person now and other people see that, and today is my first day of university, at a closer university which I feel very comfortable attending. Leaving and taking time to think was the option that worked out for me so if you do leave it isn’t the end of the world and I hope you realise that!! Good luck with whatever you decide to embark on in the upcoming year.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! If you don’t mind me asking, how did the financial aspect work (assuming you took a loan), did you have to pay any back or did they just write it off because you hadn’t been there for the first term? Glad to know it all worked out well for you.
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Hey.

Very common feelings: cold feet, anxiety. I would advise most people to stick it out for a little longer. I, like some of the others in the thread, have had the same feelings.

In the end, here I am, working for HallamStudents and going into my third (technically 4th, as I changed course) year.
There's things for everyone: people don't have to drink. You can join societies and get involved with things that way.

Hope this helps a little
Joshua
Thank you, that definitely does help! And happy to know all went well for you
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Thank you so much for sharing your experience! If you don’t mind me asking, how did the financial aspect work (assuming you took a loan), did you have to pay any back or did they just write it off because you hadn’t been there for the first term? Glad to know it all worked out well for you.
I didn’t have to pay a penny. Although I had moved in and spent a couple of nights there I hadn’t actually enrolled on the course as that later on in the week luckily.
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Thank you so much! I didn’t actually consider an Open University Degree but now you mention it I think it’s a really good idea. I wonder if it would be possible to transfer over to it? I was thinking the exact same about not wanting to be unhappy for three years... it wouldn’t be worth it. I think knowing I have the freedom to leave definitely helps too, so I really appreciate you saying it as well so thank you
P.s. yes the 7 was supposed to be a 6 😂
Society puts pressure on everyone to go to uni, whether they think it's a good idea or not. Sometimes you need someone to help you realise that's it's okay to leave if you're not happy. Don't do something if it doesn't feel right. The OU let's you study and work so it's a win/win.😁 Just let student finance know what you're doing and it shouldn't affect you if you decide to do a degree with them, seeing as you're just starting out.
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Society puts pressure on everyone to go to uni, whether they think it's a good idea or not. Sometimes you need someone to help you realise that's it's okay to leave if you're not happy. Don't do something if it doesn't feel right. The OU let's you study and work so it's a win/win.😁 Just let student finance know what you're doing and it shouldn't affect you if you decide to do a degree with them, seeing as you're just starting out.
Thank you so much 😊
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