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So it's been 2 weeks since I started uni & living out in student halls. After living on my own, I've realised I'm a home girl & I'm just not ready to live away from my family. I like city life in the sense it's busy & there's always so much to see & do but actually living away from home is something I thought I could do but I've realised I can't. After first year, I'm thinking to transfer to a uni closer to home & use the train everyday(or whenever I have uni as this year I only have 3 days so might be the same next year). I love going out but I've realised I like it better knowing I can always come back home. Will I look like a wuss if I transfer closer to home or will anyone say anything? I know if I didn't live away I would've regretted too as I never would've got the student experience of living out so In that sense I'm glad as I'm getting to experience it for the next 8 months but ultimately I don't think it's for me
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You probably just haven't settled in properly yet so I'd give it a few more weeks. You're going to have to move out eventually so just use this as sort of a practice run.

Remember that university terms are very short and go very quickly when the work starts to pile up so you'll be home for Christmas and the summer before you know it.
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home and commute if living away isn't working out for you, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Not everyone is ready to leave the family home for months at a time at X age, some just need a few more years to feel comfortable making that step. I do agree with the above poster about giving it some time before making such a big decision, though. An awful lot of people feel lonely and homesick in the first few weeks or even months of uni, it's totally normal, but most of the time they settle down into a new routine, make friends and start enjoying themselves. But only time will tell, you may start to feel better, you may not.
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(Original post by MinaBee)
You probably just haven't settled in properly yet so I'd give it a few more weeks. You're going to have to move out eventually so just use this as sort of a practice run.

Remember that university terms are very short and go very quickly when the work starts to pile up so you'll be home for Christmas and the summer before you know it.
yh that's why I'm sticking it out for 8 months & I wouldn't mind living at home with my parents for life :P & yh that's so true so I wanna make the most of my time in the city
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home and commute if living away isn't working out for you, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Not everyone is ready to leave the family home for months at a time at X age, some just need a few more years to feel comfortable making that step. I do agree with the above poster about giving it some time before making such a big decision, though. An awful lot of people feel lonely and homesick in the first few weeks or even months of uni, it's totally normal, but most of the time they settle down into a new routine, make friends and start enjoying themselves. But only time will tell, you may start to feel better, you may not.
thank you & yh I suppose so but u know in ur mind wen u know you've low key already made a decision I do feel like that. I just think I'll miss my fam too much & I'll study better if I'm at home. I think I like the separation of home vs uni & wen ur living out that line merges & ultimately thr homesickness occurs. I think I'll be a lot happier commuting but I'm going to make the most of my time living in the city
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So it's been 2 weeks since I started uni & living out in student halls. After living on my own, I've realised I'm a home girl & I'm just not ready to live away from my family. I like city life in the sense it's busy & there's always so much to see & do but actually living away from home is something I thought I could do but I've realised I can't. After first year, I'm thinking to transfer to a uni closer to home & use the train everyday(or whenever I have uni as this year I only have 3 days so might be the same next year). I love going out but I've realised I like it better knowing I can always come back home. Will I look like a wuss if I transfer closer to home or will anyone say anything? I know if I didn't live away I would've regretted too as I never would've got the student experience of living out so In that sense I'm glad as I'm getting to experience it for the next 8 months but ultimately I don't think it's for me
That's fine. Do what will make you happy. You dont have to feel bad. You are not harming anyone are you by wanting to be nearer to home? So what if anyone says anything? Is it their business though?
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yh that's why I'm sticking it out for 8 months & I wouldn't mind living at home with my parents for life :P & yh that's so true so I wanna make the most of my time in the city
You will find it harder to grow as an adult with responsibility if you just live at home with your parents for decades! You might want to reconsider that particular idea !
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That's fine. Do what will make you happy. You dont have to feel bad. You are not harming anyone are you by wanting to be nearer to home? So what if anyone says anything? Is it their business though?
Like I have Tuesday Wednesday off so on Monday I basically commuted & ive never felt happier going to uni knowing that I could come home
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You will find it harder to grow as an adult with responsibility if you just live at home with your parents for decades! You might want to reconsider that particular idea !
I mean lots of people do it for various reasons. If one day I decide to work in London I might decide to live there but at the end of the day whilst uni is about having fun the sole purpose is to get a degree & I won't be able to concerate if I'm away from home. I can still socialise & go out with friends from home so still lead somewhat student life but generally living away isn't for me
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See how it goes, I really struggled with moving out and wanted to transfer, I felt home sick all the time. I’m in second year and I regret not transferring. If it really isn’t for you after this year, I suggest moving back home because you’ll be a lot happier.
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See how it goes, I really struggled with moving out and wanted to transfer, I felt home sick all the time. I’m in second year and I regret not transferring. If it really isn’t for you after this year, I suggest moving back home because you’ll be a lot happier.
Why didn't u transfer after first year?
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Why didn't u transfer after first year?
I didn’t transfer after first year because i felt like it was a long process contacting universities and letting them know my grades and getting transcripts, if I done this earlier it would have been an easier process, so I made a mistake there. Not all universities allow transfers into second year so you will have to look into this, I would email the universities to find out.
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I didn’t transfer after first year because i felt like it was a long process contacting universities and letting them know my grades and getting transcripts, if I done this earlier it would have been an easier process, so I made a mistake there. Not all universities allow transfers into second year so you will have to look into this, I would email the universities to find out.
Wdym done this earlier?& the one I want to transfer to do allow transfers I called them. So how u finding 2nd year? Is it easy for u to focus? I'm assuming it's hard due to u being so homesick?
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Transferring, is not the easiest thing to do as you need to get references etc from ur tutor so do it around 3 months before first year, if you decide to transfer. second year is a lot different to first year. It is hard as I do want to go home more often but I’m not able to. I am trying to get work done before it piles up and I keep myself busy so that I can avoid being homesick
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Transferring, is not the easiest thing to do as you need to get references etc from ur tutor so do it around 3 months before first year, if you decide to transfer. second year is a lot different to first year. It is hard as I do want to go home more often but I’m not able to. I am trying to get work done before it piles up and I keep myself busy so that I can avoid being homesick
3 months before first year ends? My plan was after I sit first year exams once I get the results for those apply through ucas to the uni closer to home. How is 2nd year diff?& this is my worry, I feel I can concentrate more if I'm at home
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3 months before first year ends? My plan was after I sit first year exams once I get the results for those apply through ucas to the uni closer to home. How is 2nd year diff?& this is my worry, I feel I can concentrate more if I'm at home
If you contact the university after ur exams, they’ll tell you what they want you to do. The work load is much more in second year
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So it's been 2 weeks since I started uni & living out in student halls. After living on my own, I've realised I'm a home girl & I'm just not ready to live away from my family. I like city life in the sense it's busy & there's always so much to see & do but actually living away from home is something I thought I could do but I've realised I can't. After first year, I'm thinking to transfer to a uni closer to home & use the train everyday(or whenever I have uni as this year I only have 3 days so might be the same next year). I love going out but I've realised I like it better knowing I can always come back home. Will I look like a wuss if I transfer closer to home or will anyone say anything? I know if I didn't live away I would've regretted too as I never would've got the student experience of living out so In that sense I'm glad as I'm getting to experience it for the next 8 months but ultimately I don't think it's for me
you can't live at home with your parents forever so you best get used to it
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If you contact the university after ur exams, they’ll tell you what they want you to do. The work load is much more in second year
ok & yh figured
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you can't live at home with your parents forever so you best get used to it
maybe but at 18 its not for me & if i cant concentrate whilst being at uni, theres no point
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Don’t feel bad about living at home, I live at home and drive 40/45 miles ( one way! ) to uni as I didn’t like living alone and away from all my home comforts.
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