How do I stop feeling extremely lonely? Watch
I'm a 20 y/o female uni student and I feel really depressed and lonely. I have people to talk to here and there but I don't have any proper friends, and my daily routine mostly consists of going to university and then going home. I feel overwhelmed with the amount of work I have to do that I hardly have time for myself, when I try getting to know people men just want to get me in bed and girls are always b*tchy. Nothing makes me happy, I feel like I don't have time to do anything, if I spend a day watching TV instead of revising I feel like I massively fall behind on work. I don't know how to stop feeling like sh*t everyday, it's driving me insane because I've been living like this for the past four years as i've always been doing really difficult subjects.
Honestly i just want to enjoy myself and go out, but I don't really have any proper friends to hang out with plus my parents are strict so it just adds pressure on me to do well at uni, I'm always just expected to study all the time. i'm doing engineering so obvs its super difficult and theres loads of content that's why i feel so overwhelmed and sh*tty
Okay I know it's really difficult but you need balance, do you commute in to your university? If so that might be a reason that you're struggling to make friends as a lot of friendship foundations are made by being in halls/private accomodation. But that is definitely not the only way, as 99% of "closest" friends are on my course/met through societies. Are you able to join any societies?
yeah i commute, i find it hard to make friends on my course because in lectures nobody can talk to each other and when i try initiating conversation it's just basic and we don't talk outside of university. i don't really know which societies i should join
It's completely normal to have basic conversations at first, as no one really knows each other and people probably feel nervous as well! I know it's really challenging but ask if someone wants to go for a coffee after your lecture/seminar, or if they want to go for a drink. If not that then get their snapchat/instagram. Anything that will help you to get to know the person. Most unis have so many societies... what interests you??
thank you for replying btw
I'm sure there'll be a music society, however it'll probably involve playing an instrument or singing so I'm not sure if that's what would interest you. There could also be an engineering society? you might feel more comfortable talking to people there as it's more of a relaxed environment, and you all have something in common! Another option is just trying something new, like a sport society. From experience I know it's really hard to find the motivation to go to places/events that are out of your comfort zone but it'll make you feel so good afterwards.