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im sorry another one of these but my girlfriend phoned me up earlier today to say she got really drunk last night as it was cheap student night and said she had sex with another guy but also said she had no control of herself and barely remembers it. Obviously I am angry and upset at what she did and I told her I could not be with her as I now don't trust her which made her cry and said I was her everything, I told her if that's how I was then why did she cheat and she couldn't respond so I cut the phone off, since shes been constantly ringing and texting pleading for forgiveness but I don't think I can take her back after this, we have been together just over a year, what should I do?
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imo its hazy when someone's under the influence, and the fact that she was prepared to come clean is saying a lot, as many choose to carry on as if nothing changed, doesn't change what happened, but in the end its your decision...
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whatever you do, don't go back to her. she's proven herself irresponsible, so leave before you're stuck with her for life

that's just what I would do though, I don't know how strong your feelings are towards her and stuff.
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im sorry another one of these but my girlfriend phoned me up earlier today to say she got really drunk last night as it was cheap student night and said she had sex with another guy but also said she had no control of herself and barely remembers it. Obviously I am angry and upset at what she did and I told her I could not be with her as I now don't trust her which made her cry and said I was her everything, I told her if that's how I was then why did she cheat and she couldn't respond so I cut the phone off, since shes been constantly ringing and texting pleading for forgiveness but I don't think I can take her back after this, we have been together just over a year, what should I do?
For myself I would have done the same.
There is no excuse for cheating.. drunk or not.

If you think you might want her back then maybe tell her you need time to think things through...that you have lost all trust in her .. and if she still wants to be with you to get in touch in a couple of weeks
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yeah thing is I feel you cant use being drunk as an excuse, she willingly went back with him which is why I feel I am best off out of it
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I don’t like the way she tried to justify by absolving herself of responsibility; she did have control and she chose to cheat. Only you can decide whether you can live with that. I would move on personally.
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I mean, respect to her that she told you. It's so easy just to keep something like that hidden away, but she didn't.

I think you need to give yourself a little space from her, then question if you still trust her or not. I don't blame you if you don't because I wouldn't either, if the trust is gone then there's no point trying to fix it.
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once a cheat, always a cheat.
if she knew she could get drunk and lose control, she shouldn't have gone out.
sorry to hear, but you will heal from this.
it's her loss.
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I mean, respect to her that she told you. It's so easy just to keep something like that hidden away, but she didn't.

I think you need to give yourself a little space from her, then question if you still trust her or not. I don't blame you if you don't because I wouldn't either, if the trust is gone then there's no point trying to fix it.
I cant trust someone who cheats on me as much as I loved her, it's not the first time I have had a girl cheat on me as well and I was a mug to take the last girl back because she cheated on me again
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Well alcohol isn't an excuse.
Cheating is not acceptable.
If she's drinking to the point she can't control herself, that's not a problem you should have to deal with that's her problem. Therefore she is responsible for her actions and should take whatever decision you make head on.

Personally I'd say If a person can do it once they can do it again. She can plead for forgiveness all she wants but at the end of the day she is not entitled to you and you can draw the line and end it.
Even in the event you take her back the trust won't be there judging by your response so I'd just say cut it and move on.

Fook dat bich
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(Original post by Leviathan1611)
whatever you do, don't go back to her. she's proven herself irresponsible, so leave before you're stuck with her for life

that's just what I would do though, I don't know how strong your feelings are towards her and stuff.
100% Agree
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(Original post by Amon-ster)
Well alcohol isn't an excuse.
Cheating is not acceptable.
If she's drinking to the point she can't control herself, that's not a problem you should have to deal with that's her problem. Therefore she is responsible for her actions and should take whatever decision you make head on.

Personally I'd say If a person can do it once they can do it again. She can plead for forgiveness all she wants but at the end of the day she is not entitled to you and you can draw the line and end it.
Even in the event you take her back the trust won't be there judging by your response so I'd just say cut it and move on.

Fook dat bich
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Ditch her.

Otherwise it will happen again.
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im sorry another one of these but my girlfriend phoned me up earlier today to say she got really drunk last night as it was cheap student night and said she had sex with another guy but also said she had no control of herself and barely remembers it. Obviously I am angry and upset at what she did and I told her I could not be with her as I now don't trust her which made her cry and said I was her everything, I told her if that's how I was then why did she cheat and she couldn't respond so I cut the phone off, since shes been constantly ringing and texting pleading for forgiveness but I don't think I can take her back after this, we have been together just over a year, what should I do?
Her being drunk is no excuse, move on and find someone whose more loyal
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im sorry another one of these but my girlfriend phoned me up earlier today to say she got really drunk last night as it was cheap student night and said she had sex with another guy but also said she had no control of herself and barely remembers it. Obviously I am angry and upset at what she did and I told her I could not be with her as I now don't trust her which made her cry and said I was her everything, I told her if that's how I was then why did she cheat and she couldn't respond so I cut the phone off, since shes been constantly ringing and texting pleading for forgiveness but I don't think I can take her back after this, we have been together just over a year, what should I do?
I would take her back. There is nothing i respect more than honest. Honest woman is hard to get. There is bunch of woman out there who are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends but saying nothing at all or feel guilty. She told you and she feels guilty so forget about it and take her back but obviously let her feel you're upset for what she did.
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You should be calling her your ex-girlfriend now
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If you don't trust her then there's no point in trying to make it work. Block her number if the calls/texts are constant.
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To me, sounds like she made a mistake that she massively regrets. Hope she used protection. The rest is between you both. There’ll be posts here in favour and against, but once the emotions have subsided, you and your partner should discuss this as adults, to see if there’s a way through it. For a positive outcome, however, you would need to discuss this to a complete resolution, and that includes not bandying this about in subsequent arguments, in the event that you stay together.
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(Original post by thelocalkid)
I would take her back. There is nothing i respect more than honest. Honest woman is hard to get. There is bunch of woman out there who are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends but saying nothing at all or feel guilty. She told you and she feels guilty so forget about it and take her back but obviously let her feel you're upset for what she did.
Sorry but just cause she told him doesn't make her an "Honest" woman. Cheating is an unfaithful action. All she did was the bare minimum she should of cause she cheated.

Plus who knows if she's telling the full truth :dontknow:
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i this it depends on if the person she has sex with was drunk too because they could’ve taken advantage of her to the point where she had little to no control. everyone here is telling you to nip it in the bud but i think give yourself some time and then ask her the details. a drunken kiss? maybe but sex is another step....
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