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So a few months ago I became close friends with a couple of people who I knew before but weren't close with. We started going out a lot (over the summer holidays) and we all got very close to each other and liked going out as a three.

However, near the end of summer, one of my friends messaged me saying they feel excluded from this little group and they want to be invited out along with us. (mind that for two years before, they all excluded me from their group too- and somewhat still do.)

We haven't gone out in a while because of school but are trying to organise another time for going out this coming week and we all seem up for it. Although today, another one of my friends has said that they think I should invite them out (it turned into a very tense argument) - even though we like going out as a three and it would feel weird to invite someone else out.

Surely I'm allowed to go out with whoever I want and not have to invite everyone who wants to join us. So yeah, what should I do?
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Who excluded you? I thought it was just one of your friends? sorry I’m confused lol.

I sort of had the same situation before, well multiple times. Friendships come and go and we’re human beings. Our emotions can change very quickly or stay for a very long time. Which is what happened to me.
I think when your friendship group is smaller, you get attached easily building up this wall that you don’t even know is there. It can exclude many people out. If your not comfortable with hanging out with this friend then you shouldn’t force yourself to. If you do want to hang out with her, but she’s not really friends with ur other two friends, then I dont think you should invite her to a hangout with ur girls. You should hang out with her separately and maybe take a step back as well and see whats been going on with other peeps too ya know?
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I absolutely hate trio friendships 😂. It’s either 2 or 4 for me.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So a few months ago I became close friends with a couple of people who I knew before but weren't close with. We started going out a lot (over the summer holidays) and we all got very close to each other and liked going out as a three.

However, near the end of summer, one of my friends messaged me saying they feel excluded from this little group and they want to be invited out along with us. (mind that for two years before, they all excluded me from their group too- and somewhat still do.)

We haven't gone out in a while because of school but are trying to organise another time for going out this coming week and we all seem up for it. Although today, another one of my friends has said that they think I should invite them out (it turned into a very tense argument) - even though we like going out as a three and it would feel weird to invite someone else out.

Surely I'm allowed to go out with whoever I want and not have to invite everyone who wants to join us. So yeah, what should I do?
Is there one friend or two asking to join?
If they havent invited you then you dont have to invite them, but what you are really saying is you are no longer friends imo. Your choice. You cna ofc talk to the other two as well.
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I absolutely hate trio friendships 😂. It’s either 2 or 4 for me.
Lol, why four?
Trios can be toxic sometimes, I’ve experienced it. Talking behind each others backs like taking turns🙄🙂🤷🏻*♀️
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Lol, why four?
Trios can be toxic sometimes, I’ve experienced it. Talking behind each others backs like taking turns🙄🙂🤷🏻*♀️
Because you can still be together but in twos (if you know what I mean). Plus I’m not, nor are my friends, the type of people to talk behind each other’s backs 👌😂 but I get your point
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Why don't you go out with just the friend who says they feel excluded?
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How did the argument end? Perhaps she got the message. Ask the other two in your trio and tell them what happened.
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