That doesn't sound normal, and you could actually cause permanent damage to your body. I'd say to hold off until you see a doctor. And sex is always painful the first few times, an actual penis is much different from a toy. I am a 34 year old woman and I have never been able to use any toys that are to be inserted inside without extreme pain. So I do not use them, only the real thing, which does not cause intense pain. Please take care of yourself and don't hurt yourself. Sounds like you're trying to force this to appease the man...That's not how pleasure or intimacy is supposed to work. Best of luck to you.