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Getting turned on by things I seriously shouldn't...
I can't tell if I'm just a freak with abnormal thinking behaviour but it's disturbed me for a while. That I have sadistic tendancies.
My last memory of this odd behaviour was when reading a book, a very sad story of horrible parents with their children. When there are narrative scenes where sexual acts take place, I can't seem to stop myself from getting turned on. However it's not purely directed towards children, since it'd be the same with adult cases. I don't get turned on by violent physical harm, but sexual. Arrgh. It seriously pisses me off.
I hate how I feel like this. I don't understand why I feel this, especially when it goes against all my core values.
It's like an incredibly disturbing fantasy, one that I'd have no interest in doing at all in real life. I don't tolerate the behaviour at all, in fact I'd use all my might to stop such thing if it ever occured around me.
I'm not a troll. Please keep topic serious, although I don't know what to expect.
My last memory of this odd behaviour was when reading a book, a very sad story of horrible parents with their children. When there are narrative scenes where sexual acts take place, I can't seem to stop myself from getting turned on. However it's not purely directed towards children, since it'd be the same with adult cases. I don't get turned on by violent physical harm, but sexual. Arrgh. It seriously pisses me off.
I hate how I feel like this. I don't understand why I feel this, especially when it goes against all my core values.
It's like an incredibly disturbing fantasy, one that I'd have no interest in doing at all in real life. I don't tolerate the behaviour at all, in fact I'd use all my might to stop such thing if it ever occured around me.
I'm not a troll. Please keep topic serious, although I don't know what to expect.
Don't worry, everyone gets turned on by stuff they wouldn't consider doing in real life. As far as I can tell it's just wired into your brain that way. Your frustration about it shows you have no reason to worry; since you clearly have no intention to do these things in real life, what's the problem? It's not as though deep down you really want to do it or anything, this is just how sexuality works.
Reply 2
we all enjoy different things.. I wouldnt say it turns me on but I enjoy hurting myself/being hurt.. Its pretty common.
Reply 3
You know it's fantasy, that's completely different to reality. These sort of things are more common than you might like to think amongst girls. I once had this female friend whose two biggest fantasies were to have sex with a stranger, and being watched whilst having sex (don't ask why she told me that lol) but that don't mean she'd ever want it to happen in reality.
Reply 4
If you're not happy with it, think about seeing a clinical psychologist and maybe getting CBT, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. That is designed exactly for your kind of problem, getting people out of thought processes and routines they don't want to be in.
Reply 5
CBT sounds good, sort of. I'm not sure if I could ever admit it though without having my mental health checked.
These are essentially rape fantasies minus violence. It can't be that common if people are disguisted by such thing.
These are essentially rape fantasies minus violence. It can't be that common if people are disguisted by such thing.
Anonymous
CBT sounds good, sort of. I'm not sure if I could ever admit it though without having my mental health checked.
These are essentially rape fantasies minus violence. It can't be that common if people are disguisted by such thing.
These are essentially rape fantasies minus violence. It can't be that common if people are disguisted by such thing.
Very occasionally I have had rape fantasies, so I know how bad you must feel. I've found they just pass after a while, especially if you remind yourself that the reality would be really horrible
Good luck
Reply 7
Of course it's common, but because rape is seen as a bad thing in society, people don't talk about it. There's no harm in being turned on by things like rape or abuse, as long as you know that yiou'd never act on them.
Reply 8
OP as long as these are just fantasies and not things you are acting upon for real, don't worry about it. You obviously know that they are wrong. Try not to feel guilty, I'm sure plenty of other people have these fantasies but it's a pretty taboo subject so isn't spoken about too much.
Reply 9
Joanna May
There's no harm in being turned on by things like rape or abuse, as long as you know that you'd never act on them.
I think this is the key point, as long as you can separate fantasy from reality I don't think you should be worried. If you still are worried though have a look at a psychology book called My Secret Garden.
Reply 10
Anonymous
I can't tell if I'm just a freak with abnormal thinking behaviour but it's disturbed me for a while. That I have sadistic tendancies.
My last memory of this odd behaviour was when reading a book, a very sad story of horrible parents with their children. When there are narrative scenes where sexual acts take place, I can't seem to stop myself from getting turned on. However it's not purely directed towards children, since it'd be the same with adult cases. I don't get turned on by violent physical harm, but sexual. Arrgh. It seriously pisses me off.
I hate how I feel like this. I don't understand why I feel this, especially when it goes against all my core values.
It's like an incredibly disturbing fantasy, one that I'd have no interest in doing at all in real life. I don't tolerate the behaviour at all, in fact I'd use all my might to stop such thing if it ever occured around me.
I'm not a troll. Please keep topic serious, although I don't know what to expect.
My last memory of this odd behaviour was when reading a book, a very sad story of horrible parents with their children. When there are narrative scenes where sexual acts take place, I can't seem to stop myself from getting turned on. However it's not purely directed towards children, since it'd be the same with adult cases. I don't get turned on by violent physical harm, but sexual. Arrgh. It seriously pisses me off.
I hate how I feel like this. I don't understand why I feel this, especially when it goes against all my core values.
It's like an incredibly disturbing fantasy, one that I'd have no interest in doing at all in real life. I don't tolerate the behaviour at all, in fact I'd use all my might to stop such thing if it ever occured around me.
I'm not a troll. Please keep topic serious, although I don't know what to expect.
seriously, dont worry - Im S&M freak. Love that kinda stuff...sometimes I feel ashamed of what I feel but everyone has a 'thing'.
Reply 11
I know quite a few women who get turned on by rape fantasies. They don't want to actually be raped or anything like that but they are all quite strong women and they get turned on by the fact that they aren't in control of the situation etc.
Reply 13
...perhaps not quite the same, but similar in not understanding it...i am really struggling to understand why some things from my past turn me on so much that i can't stop thinking about them now!...i just can't work out what it is! - sex outside (which current boyf wont do) or sex dressed in certain clothes or what...
...going back to your problem...the balance between pain and pleasure is very small (according to psychology) and i guess this is a spin of from this...very strange thing the mind! - but i wouldnt worry about it - as long as its stays as fantasy
...going back to your problem...the balance between pain and pleasure is very small (according to psychology) and i guess this is a spin of from this...very strange thing the mind! - but i wouldnt worry about it - as long as its stays as fantasy
Reply 15
I honestly wouldn't worry about it.. everyone has little things like this, and the fact you've realised whats happening is a good thing.. just try to avoid books like that and you'll end up feeling better about yourself, but like i said, its not a major deal 
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