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I haven't made any friends and it has been bothering me. I've tried my best speaking to people, but even when we get along and exchange contacts, the next time I see them they seem uninterested. This has happened so many times, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've joined societies and made friends, but they seem to be part of the 'popular crowd' and I don't fit in. I've joined sports clubs but I also seem to be excluded.

I do have social anxiety which explains why I'm bad with making friends but I don't know what to do. The fact that I haven't made friends makes me feel like I'm just too boring and ugly to make any.

I've also been struggling with my course. I like the topic but I'm already behind and it takes me a longer time to understand topics than other people. I've been waiting since freshers week for things to get better but they haven't. My friends from home are either too busy with their uni life or don't care about the situation I'm in so I have nobody to talk to. It just feels very lonely. Any advice?
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I haven't made any friends and it has been bothering me. I've tried my best speaking to people, but even when we get along and exchange contacts, the next time I see them they seem uninterested. This has happened so many times, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've joined societies and made friends, but they seem to be part of the 'popular crowd' and I don't fit in. I've joined sports clubs but I also seem to be excluded.

I do have social anxiety which explains why I'm bad with making friends but I don't know what to do. The fact that I haven't made friends makes me feel like I'm just too boring and ugly to make any.

I've also been struggling with my course. I like the topic but I'm already behind and it takes me a longer time to understand topics than other people. I've been waiting since freshers week for things to get better but they haven't. My friends from home are either too busy with their uni life or don't care about the situation I'm in so I have nobody to talk to. It just feels very lonely. Any advice?
I think this is a normal thing for a first year tbh and I wouldn't be too worried. If you remember when you first started out school, it was quite similar?
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There are many similar threads to this. Just have a search of those and see if you could get any advice from there. We’re all saying the same things, Hun x
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I think this is a normal thing for a first year tbh and I wouldn't be too worried. If you remember when you first started out school, it was quite similar?
When I started school I either made friends straight away or never did (eg: in some clubs I went to). So that's why I'm quite worried
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There are many similar threads to this. Just have a search of those and see if you could get any advice from there. We’re all saying the same things, Hun x
I've been doing that and I feel like I've read most of the threads already, but I'll find new ones
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Honestly it’s as if I wrote this. I’m in the exact same position and I know how you feel. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but if you need someone to talk to, I’m here.
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What course do you do, if you don't mind?
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Honestly it’s as if I wrote this. I’m in the exact same position and I know how you feel. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but if you need someone to talk to, I’m here.
honestly same here, fully want to drop out at this point.
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Honestly it’s as if I wrote this. I’m in the exact same position and I know how you feel. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but if you need someone to talk to, I’m here.
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What course do you do, if you don't mind?
I do biochemistry
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I do biochemistry
I feel as if the science students are a lot more anti-social than humanities lot
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University is tough. Make no mistake about it. What helped me in my first year was getting to know people on the course through group work. You can also try and join other societies - chess, table tennis. Sometimes the "unusual" ones have the most interesting people..
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I feel as if the science students are a lot more anti-social than humanities lot
You think so? Lots of the science students have already made friends from day 1 here
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University is tough. Make no mistake about it. What helped me in my first year was getting to know people on the course through group work. You can also try and join other societies - chess, table tennis. Sometimes the "unusual" ones have the most interesting people..
The group that I'm in are nice, but once again I get easily excluded, probably because I'm so quiet. I could join more societies but I don't have any more time to spare atm
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You think so? Lots of the science students have already made friends from day 1 here
My course group chat is rammed full of people asking for study help since the course first started, but that's just my experience.
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same man, it's just less natural for some people to keep conversation going. just keep trying. never give up . talk to a new person everyday. after 100 people there will be a few that you will have connections with. it gets easier
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I haven't made any friends and it has been bothering me. I've tried my best speaking to people, but even when we get along and exchange contacts, the next time I see them they seem uninterested. This has happened so many times, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've joined societies and made friends, but they seem to be part of the 'popular crowd' and I don't fit in. I've joined sports clubs but I also seem to be excluded.

I do have social anxiety which explains why I'm bad with making friends but I don't know what to do. The fact that I haven't made friends makes me feel like I'm just too boring and ugly to make any.

I've also been struggling with my course. I like the topic but I'm already behind and it takes me a longer time to understand topics than other people. I've been waiting since freshers week for things to get better but they haven't. My friends from home are either too busy with their uni life or don't care about the situation I'm in so I have nobody to talk to. It just feels very lonely. Any advice?
At uni by the end of 2nd year you'd wish you didn't take much friends especially when you do a course that requires ultimate focus.
Content becomes harder and harder; so don't try too hard to fit rather just be yourself and the right ones would be attracted. Perhaps join more societies , the more you expose yourself to the world the more the world notices you. You are beautiful btw
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I haven't made any friends and it has been bothering me. I've tried my best speaking to people, but even when we get along and exchange contacts, the next time I see them they seem uninterested. This has happened so many times, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've joined societies and made friends, but they seem to be part of the 'popular crowd' and I don't fit in. I've joined sports clubs but I also seem to be excluded.

I do have social anxiety which explains why I'm bad with making friends but I don't know what to do. The fact that I haven't made friends makes me feel like I'm just too boring and ugly to make any.

I've also been struggling with my course. I like the topic but I'm already behind and it takes me a longer time to understand topics than other people. I've been waiting since freshers week for things to get better but they haven't. My friends from home are either too busy with their uni life or don't care about the situation I'm in so I have nobody to talk to. It just feels very lonely. Any advice?
You copied my life ... do you need friends... I have friends and all they do is hurt me and watch me bleed ... I suggest that you study... it’s just 4-5 years you can do it ... (sorry I’m not that helpful)
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I haven't made any friends and it has been bothering me. I've tried my best speaking to people, but even when we get along and exchange contacts, the next time I see them they seem uninterested. This has happened so many times, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I've joined societies and made friends, but they seem to be part of the 'popular crowd' and I don't fit in. I've joined sports clubs but I also seem to be excluded.

I do have social anxiety which explains why I'm bad with making friends but I don't know what to do. The fact that I haven't made friends makes me feel like I'm just too boring and ugly to make any.

I've also been struggling with my course. I like the topic but I'm already behind and it takes me a longer time to understand topics than other people. I've been waiting since freshers week for things to get better but they haven't. My friends from home are either too busy with their uni life or don't care about the situation I'm in so I have nobody to talk to. It just feels very lonely. Any advice?
OMG I literally made a similar thread with similar problem!!

Please PM me, it's nice to chat to someone who actually gets it!

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho....php?t=6196050
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same man, it's just less natural for some people to keep conversation going. just keep trying. never give up . talk to a new person everyday. after 100 people there will be a few that you will have connections with. it gets easier
Good advice, thank you
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