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Im a guy, its only a few weeks in but I really like her.

I know its too soon to say it to her as my last relationship I said it really early and she hurt me a lot and I was too trusting and believed her so much.

This girl now likes me a lot, shes still a virgin and in her early 20's but seems to want to sleep with me, signalling trust shes never had before.

We click on so many levels and I havent met a girl I'm so similar too.

Dont want to say it too soon but at same time I wont/dont mean it competly.

I love everyone I date, but im not in true love just love being with them and the way they make me feel.

Just like I love my brother and my dog etc.

But saying that to a girl im dating means something different.

I think shes going to say it to me soon, and not sure how to reply, I want to say it back but worried its too soon, or if I dont shes going to get hurt.
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Never never never never ever say that expression. Ive never know three words that can completely bugger you up as much as those!!!

The only time to say it that isnt the kiss of death is after she says it first.
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Either wait until they say it first or 6 months.

Infatuation lasts an average of 6 months - that's why you have to wait six months before you dare wager that it's the real thing.
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(Original post by !n$oMniA)
Never never never never ever say that expression. Ive never know three words that can completely bugger you up as much as those!!!

The only time to say it that isnt the kiss of death is after she says it first.
Please ignore this guy, he's a bit too paranoid.

Anyway, well, just tell her how you feel. You don't have to say "I love you", you can express your love in other ways. At the end of the day, they're just words, and they don't really strengthen your relationship all that much, as when someone loves you, you already know, and respond in kind.
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Does it matter?
It's just words..
Action and affection are more important!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Im a guy, its only a few weeks in but I really like her.
well then just TELL her you really like her.
'love' is a strong word and if you want to to mean something significant then wait to see that its not infatuation but there has never been anything wrong with expressing how much you like someone. embrace the moment and dont worry about getting hurt- thats life.
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Tell her you love her when you know you love her (and not before, and not after).
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so it when you feel it. but if you have a feeling she wont react well it might be best to reconsider.
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a few weeks?
you don't love her, don't say it.
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Wait a while until you're certain that even if she might not be ready to say it back, she'd at least not get freaked out. Saying it too soon often wrecks things though, so it's better to know that you feel that way but keep it quiet for a while, rather than mouthing off and scaring your other half.
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when you're totally sure you do, and you think she won't freak out

(just don't have that bloody annoying song by The Ordinary Boys playing!)
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(Original post by generalebriety)
Tell her you love her when you know you love her (and not before, and not after).
Exactly.

If you don't love her just yet, dont say it, you'll only dig yourself into a hole. Wait until you actually do.
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(Original post by screenager2004)
Either wait until they say it first or 6 months.

Infatuation lasts an average of 6 months - that's why you have to wait six months before you dare wager that it's the real thing.
is that an arbitrary figure or do you actually have something supporting it?

not every guy/relationship is the same
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(Original post by nuttygirl)
when you're totally sure you do, and you think she won't freak out

(just don't have that bloody annoying song by The Ordinary Boys playing!)
Oh god, yeah. That'd be awful, like having sex to "Sexual Healing".
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I said "I Love You" to my boyfriend after approximately 4 days. It didn't scare him off and I'm just gushingly sentimental. I don't understand how it would freak anyone out but then I'm a bit unusual. I'd just use your best judgement.
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(Original post by paperclip)
is that an arbitrary figure or do you actually have something supporting it?

not every guy/relationship is the same
Hence the word's "average", which indicates there is differentiation in the timespan from person to person.
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I said it after about 6 weeks, and it took about another 2 weeks for my boyfriend to say it back. It was worth the wait though.

As everyone else has said, if you don't feel it, don't say it, just like my boyfriend didn't at first. I'm glad he made me wait, and said it when he meant it, rather than feel obliged to say it back to me.
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Straight away, keeps them on there toes..
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(Original post by tired yet?)
a few weeks?
you don't love her, don't say it.
Ummm I told my girlfriend I loved her after a grand total of 5 days together. We're still together after 7 1/2 months and i've never been more sure about anything. OP; If you know it, say it, but try to do it at a time when she'll say it back. Girls can get freaked out if you say the 'L' word too early.
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(Original post by screenager2004)
Hence the word's "average", which indicates there is differentiation in the timespan from person to person.
where did you get that 'average' from then?
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