guys, have you ever rejected a girl?

As a girl I have rejected a guy by saying "I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now" but in reality he just wasn't my type.

If you are gonna reject a girl, offer the option of being friends. Friendzone isn't that bad, and if she really likes you she'll settle for friends, because sometimes it's like that. You two will probably drift apart if you are already friends, if not you may have just made a friend or she'll give up and move on. But be polite towards her. But don't lead her on in anyway. Be discrete with what you say. Girls will overanalyse everything you say and do. So just be very discrete with what you say. Use stuff along the lines of "I can't accept your feelings, I'm sorry" Just don't be ambiguous with what you say.

and how did you do it?

think the key is not to be ambiguous.

find it quite funny how people try to be diplomatic to the point where the other person is completely lost and they wonder why.

Hey, yes I think we all will have to at some point in our lives. I just told her that I didn't see her in that way and essentially friend zoned her when she asked me out. Here are the main things to do:


1. Complement her (LOTS), its nothing to you to give her a few complements and it'll go a long way to making her feel better.
2. Offer to stay friends, chances are she will feel awkward and wont want to but at least you've made the effort to and other people will see that and respect you for it.
3. Don't lie. Don't make up a fake girlfriend, strict parents or something about not being ready for a relationship (Of course if these are true then lead in with that). Tell her you don't see her like that or some other generic response, in my experience the reason why not only matters if it's something really major like if your really rude or if its one of the above.
4. Reassure her. Tell her that you think she's pretty and she's really nice etc. she just isn't the one for you. Tell her that she'll easily be able to get someone else and she shouldn't worry about you.
5. Be rude about yourself. Tell her she can do better and that your not actually amazing, there are better people for her etc. etc. You don't want to date her so saying a few depreciating things, whilst making her feel much better, will be no skin off your back.
6. Apologise. Apologise. Apologise.
7. Try and hang about and talk with her (this will avoid awkwardness if you do want to stay friends) but if she makes to leave, let her, its obvious that she wants to be alone in that case.
8. Hug her if she starts crying and tell her its okay, just be kind, be a decent human and think how you'd least hate to be rejected.
9. Make it a YOU problem not a HER problem. Tell her its your fault for stringing her along or that your the one who's not good enough, don't ever tell her its because she isn't good enough.
10. Do it in person.
11. Try to do it in front of people, the crowd will see how kind you were and it'll make it harder for her to make you look bad if that's what she tries to do later and also she'll be less likely to make a scene if all her friends are looking on.

These are all easier said than done and chances are she will still be upset and/ or mad at you but this will help her get over you quicker and will avoid a scene. Remember unless you have been leading her on, her upset isn't your fault and really you should take this as a complement.

Hey, yes I think we all will have to at some point in our lives. I just told her that I didn't see her in that way and essentially friend zoned her when she asked me out. Here are the main things to do:


1. Complement her (LOTS), its nothing to you to give her a few complements and it'll go a long way to making her feel better.
2. Offer to stay friends, chances are she will feel awkward and wont want to but at least you've made the effort to and other people will see that and respect you for it.
3. Don't lie. Don't make up a fake girlfriend, strict parents or something about not being ready for a relationship (Of course if these are true then lead in with that). Tell her you don't see her like that or some other generic response, in my experience the reason why not only matters if it's something really major like if your really rude or if its one of the above.
4. Reassure her. Tell her that you think she's pretty and she's really nice etc. she just isn't the one for you. Tell her that she'll easily be able to get someone else and she shouldn't worry about you.
5. Be rude about yourself. Tell her she can do better and that your not actually amazing, there are better people for her etc. etc. You don't want to date her so saying a few depreciating things, whilst making her feel much better, will be no skin off your back.
6. Apologise. Apologise. Apologise.
7. Try and hang about and talk with her (this will avoid awkwardness if you do want to stay friends) but if she makes to leave, let her, its obvious that she wants to be alone in that case.
8. Hug her if she starts crying and tell her its okay, just be kind, be a decent human and think how you'd least hate to be rejected.
9. Make it a YOU problem not a HER problem. Tell her its your fault for stringing her along or that your the one who's not good enough, don't ever tell her its because she isn't good enough.
10. Do it in person.
11. Try to do it in front of people, the crowd will see how kind you were and it'll make it harder for her to make you look bad if that's what she tries to do later and also she'll be less likely to make a scene if all her friends are looking on.

These are all easier said than done and chances are she will still be upset and/ or mad at you but this will help her get over you quicker and will avoid a scene. Remember unless you have been leading her on, her upset isn't your fault and really you should take this as a complement.