Feeling lonely at uni

drop out.

drop out.

Hi there,

I've been at uni now for about 5 weeks. I get on well with my flatmates in halls but I just haven't made any really close connections with them, like to the point where we're close friends. They hardly ever come out of their rooms and a couple are mature students so they often go off and do things. I have two friends I've made on my course, but they rarely suggest we do things together.

I see all my friends who have moved to uni have groups and most people on campus seem to as well, but I just don't seem to have made any concrete friendships with people I can rely on and be myself around. I can be quiet, but I'm also outgoing too. I just find myself sitting in my room by myself, or planning to go and do things like shopping or going to the cinema, but always by myself. I am worried its too late now to join any new societies. I have already joined one but I tend to sit on my own.

Sorry for the rant!

I don't know if my advice will be completely relevant in this situation since I haven't gone to uni yet but I'll try.
I was scared about making new friends in sixth form too since none of my close friends came with me to my new school. I know a lot of people in the sixth form but that's about it. We were at the smiling when you see them in the corridor stage.
So I went out of my way to sit at tables with people I didn't know and talk to all of the students in my classes, asking them about themselves etc etc
And it has seemed to work for me, I don't exactly have any close close friends yet but I have many people I can talk to about literally anything.
As long as you don't keep yourself closed off and go and talk to new people, you'll make new friends in no time. Sometimes it may be that other people are waiting for you to talk to them but they're too nervous to approach you first.
Try it

Hi there!

Thank you, your reply is really appreciated. I think you're right, I just need to try and make an effort to sit with different people during lectures and stuff I guess. It's just really difficult, I'm not a very confident person at all 😂 but no, I will definitely try to just make conversations with anybody and everybody.

Thank you!

I’ve just started uni but I’m commuting which is equally lonely. I still get to see my friends at home but when I’m at uni I only chit chat to the people on my course, I don’t have anyone to go on a night out with in my uni city, or to stop over at their halls. Just know you aren’t the only one who isn’t making mates at uni

I’ve just started uni but I’m commuting which is equally lonely. I still get to see my friends at home but when I’m at uni I only chit chat to the people on my course, I don’t have anyone to go on a night out with in my uni city, or to stop over at their halls. Just know you aren’t the only one who isn’t making mates at uni

Hi there,

I've been at uni now for about 5 weeks. I get on well with my flatmates in halls but I just haven't made any really close connections with them, like to the point where we're close friends. They hardly ever come out of their rooms and a couple are mature students so they often go off and do things. I have two friends I've made on my course, but they rarely suggest we do things together.

I see all my friends who have moved to uni have groups and most people on campus seem to as well, but I just don't seem to have made any concrete friendships with people I can rely on and be myself around. I can be quiet, but I'm also outgoing too. I just find myself sitting in my room by myself, or planning to go and do things like shopping or going to the cinema, but always by myself. I am worried its too late now to join any new societies. I have already joined one but I tend to sit on my own.

Sorry for the rant!

Hi there,

I've been at uni now for about 5 weeks. I get on well with my flatmates in halls but I just haven't made any really close connections with them, like to the point where we're close friends. They hardly ever come out of their rooms and a couple are mature students so they often go off and do things. I have two friends I've made on my course, but they rarely suggest we do things together.

I see all my friends who have moved to uni have groups and most people on campus seem to as well, but I just don't seem to have made any concrete friendships with people I can rely on and be myself around. I can be quiet, but I'm also outgoing too. I just find myself sitting in my room by myself, or planning to go and do things like shopping or going to the cinema, but always by myself. I am worried its too late now to join any new societies. I have already joined one but I tend to sit on my own.

Sorry for the rant!