Girlfriend questioning me about masturbation (answer quick) Watch

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Please answer quickly cos she'll be expecting a text back soon..

last night when i was drunk i talked with my friend about ******* (we'ree both in long term relationship) and it surfaced that we both **** and think about other people other than our girlfriends SOME of the time.

My girlfriend remembered this and now this morning she's texted me angrily asking why i LIED to her (i told her i dont do it anymore unless she's away on holiday) and WHO ELSE i think about and HOW OFTEN etc etc

I half feel like saying 'Seriously its none of your business" but i know she'd get upset so dont know what to say.

The main point is that its in her best interest, most of the time i only really do it so that i can last longer when i see her.. if you know what i mean.
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tell her to stop being so immature and who you fantasize while you **** is up to you. it's only fantasy! unless you fantasize about a friend or someone she hates.. :ninja:

tell her you also watch porn, that'll blow **** out of the water.
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why did you lie to her in the first place?
i don't see why guys try to make up stuff like "i dont ****". what's the point?! i know my bf does and it doesn't bother me in the slightest...
and tell her that you "really only do it so you can last longer" for her.
she's being a bit silly, but i can see where she's coming from. you did lie to her. and it must have come as a bit of a shock that you fantasise about other people. just tell her they're famous, and not people you know.
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why are u not allowed to do it if she's not on holiday
just tell her u do it to make urself last longer for her, and maybe u say u think about a celebrity u like? doesn't sound so bad..
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Just tell her that it's normal. I bet she's masturbated.

Seriously, she needs to calm down about it - all guys get themselves off, and so do lots of girls, tell her it's not that you find her unattractive. DON'T tell her it's none of her business, that won't be pretty. Also, don't tell her it's always because you're thinking of someone else! That's about the worst thing possible.
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just be honest and tell her that you do it. Sometimes its out of boredom or whatever and its a guy thing. Make sure you tell her that it doesn't mean that the sex isn't great, it's just something most guys do even if they have a gf.......

but about the 'thinking about someone else' thing... I really don't know what to say lol
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she expects you to look and think about no girl...ever...ever again? She's being a complete **** in all honesty, its your business if you ****, its your business who you think about and not hers. And you haven't been lying to her....tell her to grow up
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DON'T tell her it's none of her business, that won't be pretty.
But it is none of her business :/
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Just say that you're a guy and that you felt pressured into saying stuff like that cos you actually dont but other guys will look at you weird if you say you stopped
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You think of your girlfriend MOST of the time when you beat off?
Are you going out with Angelina Jolie or something?

Then again, I'd think of my girlfriend too, but only out of fear if she was gonna punish me for being a guy :P

But on a serious note, I would explain to her that its perfectly normal for guys to do this. If we don't, then the body finds other ways to get rid of it. Science.
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But it is none of her business :/

And you think she'd like to hear that?
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Seriously.
Just say you were drunk and felt peer pressured into it.
*oops... almost spelt that pier!*
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And you think she'd like to hear that?
Seeing as she appears to want to control what he does, well, obviously not. If my girlfriend tried that on me, though, unless I REALLY liked her other qualities, I'd probably say it in a "if you don't let this go I'll let you go" kinda way.
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Tell her it was only her sister you were thinking about...
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Seeing as she appears to want to control what he does, well, obviously not. If my girlfriend tried that on me, though, unless I REALLY liked her other qualities, I'd probably say it in a "if you don't let this go I'll let you go" kinda way.

If he wants to stay with her, saying it's none of her business is NOT going to help him in any way, shape or form. It may well be none of her business, but it's clearly something she doesn't understand, and thus needs to be talked around gently. If he says it's none of her business, she will automatically assume that he just wants other girls and doesn't give a damn about her. Believe me, I've seen it happen.
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If he wants to stay with her, saying it's none of her business is NOT going to help him in any way, shape or form.
you see, this is the major point at which I'm in disagreement with you. I think it will be good for him because of what the eventualities are:

-she has an absolute fit and leaves him. Congratulations, now you're free to find a girl who isn't a *****.

-she capitulates but holds a grudge. Pretty bad from most angles but at least you're exhibiting some sort of control over the relationship.

-she holds a temporary grudge but eventually puts up with it. Probably the most likely eventuality. I find it hard to believe that many people would actually seriously care about whether their partner masturbated, and eventually she should realise she's making a massive mountain over the smallest of mole hills.

You're right that going upto her and saying "NONE OF YOUR ****ING BUSINESS" is going about it the wrong way, but if you express that opinion in a more articulate and polite way then you are, in my opinion, doing what you should do. If a girl didn't give up on this point I really wouldn't want to continue the relationship unless I was absolutely crazy about her.
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you see, this is the major point at which I'm in disagreement with you. I think it will be good for him because of what the eventualities are:

-she has an absolute fit and leaves him. Congratulations, now you're free to find a girl who isn't a *****.

-she capitulates but holds a grudge. Pretty bad from most angles but at least you're exhibiting some sort of control over the relationship.

-she holds a temporary grudge but eventually puts up with it. Probably the most likely eventuality. I find it hard to believe that many people would actually seriously care about whether their partner masturbated, and eventually she should realise she's making a massive mountain over the smallest of mole hills.

You're right that going upto her and saying "NONE OF YOUR ****ING BUSINESS" is going about it the wrong way, but if you express that opinion in a more articulate and polite way then you are, in my opinion, doing what you should do. If a girl didn't give up on this point I really wouldn't want to continue the relationship unless I was absolutely crazy about her.


Not at all. A lot of girls don't understand why guys masturbate. It's like girls and porn - a lot of them don't understand why guys watch it, and thus think it's due to them being unnattractive/sexually unfulfilling etc. It's not that she is necessarily a *****, it's that she doesn't understand it.
It's just one of those things - I never had a problem with it, but a lot of girls do.

I'm assuming the rep was from you, btw. Thanks
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I think you should **** over her face.
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Does she happen to be this woman?
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so OP, did you text her?
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