Embarrassed about where I live

Anon or delete please...

So, I meet girls quite often an currently looking for a girlfriend I guess, I hooked up with a girl form school the other night, but I'm kind of embarrassed about not living in a nice house, It's not a horrible place, my mum sold a real nice house and bought 2 houses with that money so it's an isolated bungalow near some shops basically.

I don't know what I'm getting at here...

Is there anything I can do to make it easier on me kind of??? I'm scared it'll change impressions of me or whatever, I know it's not something I can change at the moment but it's always going through my head. :frown:

Sounds petty, but I don't want to be considered 'poor' kind of, even though I'm not.

Reply 1

River85

If they are that shallow to be put off you because you live in a bungalow then they aren't worth knowing?

What's wrong with it being isolated?

Reply 2

groovychez89

I dont think that any girl would judge you because of where you live.. if she does genuinely like you, it would be because she likes YOU for who you are, not from where you live!

Reply 3

River85

With respect I think you're making problems where there aren't any. You say it's quite isolated, do you mean rural?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Maybe I am worrying a bit too much.

No it's more like a row of houses then some car shops then 2 houses next to each other (1 mine) with some opposite. It's just got too much of an industrial type feel, I don't know.

It just feels awkward...

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

I'm in a similar situation. I live in a council estate and the lad I like lives in a little village outside my town, in a really nice house. I know it's stupid but I do feel a bit embarrassed about it. He even asked me about it the other day. He was walking me home and I got him to walk me to a pub over the road so he didn't come any closer and he asked me why I didn't want him to walk me to my house, so I just had to make up a stupid excuse lol.

Anyways, I know this is stupid but I can't help but feel a bit embarrassed and so I know how you feel. I suppose we should just get over our embarrassment because they should like us for us not for where we live or how much money we may or may not have.

Reply 6

michaela_banana

I wouldn't worry too much. Go watch pretty in pink, Molly Ringwald is embarrassed by her house but overcomes it with the help of the nice but dim but rich Blane "Because I don't want you to see where I live!!" (I love this film soooo much!) Basically, any girl that cares about where your parents live above all of your qualities isn't worth having.

Reply 7

River85

I recently (well, two years ago) moved into an ex-council house. Nothing really wrong with that, it's a solidly built house in a fairly nice village. Still, it's next to some ugly looking pebble-dashed houses, was in a terrible unfurnised state for most of the time and still has the "ex-council house" stigma.

I have had visitors (my friends, brother's girlfriend) from a wide variety of backgrounds. One of them being the daughter of two doctors, lives in a massive country house with a swimming pool. No one gave a darn about the house, there are more important things in life.

Reply 8

suek

If someone is put off of you because of where your parents chose to live, they aren't worth knowing at all IMO...

When they get their OWN house, sure, they're better placed to criticise, but it'd still point to them not being worth your efforts.

Reply 9

Smoobla

My house is literally The Burrow from the Harry Potter books and I survive. Most people think it's quaint. You should focus on things that really matter; noone's going to judge you because of where you live!

Reply 10

thats funny

should be thankful for what you got, don't give a crap about how others judge you

Reply 11

Luize

I don't have the greatest house, and it's not in the best area.
I used to be worried about it and only a few of my closest friends have been over. Now it's just where I live. I've lived in a few different places and I'm the same person, no matter where I've lived.
If someone wants to judge me on my house and the area it's no problem for me. It happened at uni and the person wasn't worth knowing anyway. turned out to be a bad character.

Reply 12

KelZee

Just think yourself lucky you're not living in an utter ****hole like I am XD

[Roll on Uni accommodation!]

As for constructive advice, I don't think you should worry. As I said, your house could be MUCH worse, so be thankful for that. If this girl is bothered about where you live, then she's an idiot and not worth it.

Reply 13

anongreenx

im a girl and im embarrassed about where i live too and it always runs through my head and im scared itll change what people think of me and honestly girls really dont care about where you live as long as its...clean!!