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This week is Stress Awareness Week! :yes: Lots of us are no stranger to feeling stressed, :afraid: so here you'll find all the threads offering helpful advice or discussions about stress. :grouphugs: Keep an eye out as more get added as the week goes on!
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I'm sure a lot of people including me will find this useful, particularly those doing any type of major qualification
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That's the aim! So many people struggle in silence with stress, so we hope that by talking about it and being aware of the ins and outs of it will help a lot
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I'm so stressed, I'm turning into a insomniac...

Like fr I think I get on average 4 hours of sleep a day. On mock-exam days I do all nighters...

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I'm so stressed, I'm turning into a insomniac...

Like fr I think I get on average 4 hours of sleep a day. On mock-exam days I do all nighters...

If you're really struggling with your sleep, please see your GP.
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omg, i literally need this right now. like, seriously, i feel so stressed & the thing is, it probably isn’t healthy for me to be feeling so stressed this early on.

i’m only a month & a bit into year10, yet those looming gcses give me an image of terror & horror. i’m already doing revision on top of my mountain of homework & it’s eating away at my social life. i feel like all my friends are beginning to dislike me because i always zone out of their conversations & probably give the impression i couldn’t care less about what they’re saying. which is not the case, i do care, well, a lot of the time i do, but i just have so much going on in my head, that it seems inevitable, i can’t ignore my head.

when i have a test, i always tend to have this feeling of disappointment in myself no matter what the outcome of it is, because the outcome is never the best, it’s never full marks. & the thing is, after looking through it again, after it’s been marked & the results recorded wherever they get recorded, i realise that i could have done significantly better, perhaps even full marks was achievable. i just get the idea that because it happens now, it’s exactly how my final gcses will go, i won’t achieve as much as i wanted to because i make silly mistakes. it doesn’t help that there’s people in my classes, that i know for a fact don’t revise yet they end up doing better than me, who has revised a great deal. i guess their natural intelligence intimidates me. & the thing is, i don’t know how to go about improving my mindset about this, because every time a test is upcoming i will revise, no matter how big or small it is, because at the end of the day, it’s good practice. so what more can i do?

& I know one of the best things to do about all this is go & talk to people about it, because if i keep it all bottled up inside, well, that’s not going to help anybody. but i feel like i’m incapable of that, so to speak. i’m a very shy person in real life, so socialising & talking to different people is quite difficult for me. i have quite low confidence in myself too, so often, i don’t speak up because i’m scared of being humiliated. my peer group is very judgmental, or at least, that’s how i see them. so i don’t speak up for the fear of being wrong & saying something wrong & stupid that they’ll take the Mickey out of me for. i have a small group of friends, but i feel like i can’t go to them for support or advice because they don’t seem at all stressed so they wouldn’t understand how i’m feeling. & i don’t even have the foggiest idea what i’d say to a teacher, if i had the courage to do so. my stress revolves entirely around school, & it’s not impacting my relationship with my family, so i don’t think talking to them would be much use. so a teacher would be ideal really. there is one teacher i feel i can trust more than the rest but like i said before, i wouldn’t know what to say to her. have i any reason to raise concern in the first place? i don’t know. so TSR, what should i do?

thank you if you read this far on, i understand it was a long message, i was just trying to get my feelings out
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& i read your disclaimer on another post, & i’m not severely stressed, i’m almost certain of it. i think it’s just typical school stress, but I felt it was a little early on for me to feel stressed. am i right to feel stressed is basically my question.
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omg, i literally need this right now. like, seriously, i feel so stressed & the thing is, it probably isn’t healthy for me to be feeling so stressed this early on.

i’m only a month & a bit into year10, yet those looming gcses give me an image of terror & horror.
Firstly, it's perfectly normal to feel stressed. You have a really significant part of your school life coming up, so it's natural to feel a bit overwhelmed with it. GCSEs are hard, but they aren't terrifying or horrifying. I'm assuming that because you're in year 10, you haven't yet been given that much information about your GCSEs, their structure, how the exams work etc. This could be what's worrying you - the fact that you don't know all the details yet. I know that this worries me when I don't know something. See if you can speak to your head of year or a trusted teacher about this, ask them to give you more information about what GCSEs actually are, how they work, what you'll need to do etc.

(Original post by ellaswords)
i’m already doing revision on top of my mountain of homework & it’s eating away at my social life. i feel like all my friends are beginning to dislike me because i always zone out of their conversations & probably give the impression i couldn’t care less about what they’re saying. which is not the case, i do care, well, a lot of the time i do, but i just have so much going on in my head, that it seems inevitable, i can’t ignore my head.
Firstly, stop revising so much. You've only just started year 10, so you don't actually have that much you need to be revising now. If you keep on revising a lot now, then when it comes to year 11 and when it really matters, you'll burn out and that'll end up going really wrong. At this stage, just do your homework and nothing more. Chill and relax. I completely understand what you mean about not being able to ignore your head - mine can feel quite loud at times, and I can't block out a lot of thoughts. If you tone down or stop the revision completely, and make it a priority to go out and see your friends, I think you'll feel a lot better.

(Original post by ellaswords)
when i have a test, i always tend to have this feeling of disappointment in myself no matter what the outcome of it is, because the outcome is never the best, it’s never full marks. & the thing is, after looking through it again, after it’s been marked & the results recorded wherever they get recorded, i realise that i could have done significantly better, perhaps even full marks was achievable.
Honestly, this is good that you realise that you can improve. Don't think of it like "I failed because I didn't get 100%". Think of it like "I still have a year and a half until my exams, if I keep going I can get the grades I want". You have the motivation and drive to improve your exam technique, so don't be disheartened. This is a really good quality to have, and it shows me that you want to do well and you will succeed.

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i just get the idea that because it happens now, it’s exactly how my final gcses will go, i won’t achieve as much as i wanted to because i make silly mistakes.
This is a mindset you're gonna need to chuck out of your mind. It's good that you're making the silly mistakes now. You'll learn from them and grow, so when it comes to the real thing you'll be absolutely fine. Just keep in your mind you have lots of time until your real exams. You have lots of time to improve.

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it doesn’t help that there’s people in my classes, that i know for a fact don’t revise yet they end up doing better than me, who has revised a great deal.
How do you know for a fact that they don't revise? Do you sit in their homes with them and watch them not revising? Are you with them all the time to see them not revising? I'm going to jump to conclusions and assume that this isn't the case. They may claim that they never revise, but a lot (if not all) of them will just be saying that to "look cool". Don't listen to them, because they do revise. Some people, yes, are naturally better at being able to recall information without revising, but that's not very common. The only person you need to compare yourself with is your past self. Not with your classmates, only yourself.

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i guess their natural intelligence intimidates me. & the thing is, i don’t know how to go about improving my mindset about this, because every time a test is upcoming i will revise, no matter how big or small it is, because at the end of the day, it’s good practice. so what more can i do?
It's definitely a good idea to revise for tests. The key is to know how much to revise. For a quick end-of-topic test, just look over your notes, make flash cards or whatever on the areas your a bit fuzzy on, but don't go full-out study mode for it. For the bigger end-of-term tests, yes put a bit more effort in. Basically, consider how important the grade is at the end of it. If it doesn't make any difference, don't worry yourself too much. If it carries a bit more importance, then do a bit more work.

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& I know one of the best things to do about all this is go & talk to people about it, because if i keep it all bottled up inside, well, that’s not going to help anybody. but i feel like i’m incapable of that, so to speak. i’m a very shy person in real life, so socialising & talking to different people is quite difficult for me. i have quite low confidence in myself too, so often, i don’t speak up because i’m scared of being humiliated. my peer group is very judgmental, or at least, that’s how i see them. so i don’t speak up for the fear of being wrong & saying something wrong & stupid that they’ll take the Mickey out of me for.
I know what you mean about not feeling quite comfortable enough to speak to someone about it. I'm the same. Have you tried writing down all your feelings in a notebook? I've found this incredibly therapeutic. I write everything down, get it all out, and then it's like I've purged all my feelings and irrational worries and I feel so much lighter. I feel ready to tackle whatever it is that's causing me to feel like that. Then I shred the paper or throw it away because it's out of my system. Over time you will develop confidence, as you get more life experience and talk to more people in different situations.

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i have a small group of friends, but i feel like i can’t go to them for support or advice because they don’t seem at all stressed so they wouldn’t understand how i’m feeling. & i don’t even have the foggiest idea what i’d say to a teacher, if i had the courage to do so.
Your friends may not seem stressed, but that doesn't mean they aren't. Maybe they're just really good at hiding their feelings. Remember, what you know about someone is only as much as they want you to know about them.

(Original post by ellaswords)
my stress revolves entirely around school, & it’s not impacting my relationship with my family, so i don’t think talking to them would be much use. so a teacher would be ideal really. there is one teacher i feel i can trust more than the rest but like i said before, i wouldn’t know what to say to her. have i any reason to raise concern in the first place? i don’t know. so TSR, what should i do?
I definitely think you should talk to this teacher. Say something like "hey sir/miss, I'm feeling a little bit stressed about GCSEs. I'm not sure how much I should be revising now or what I really should be doing. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed so I was wondering if you had any advice for me." Teachers always have pupils talking to them about this kind of thing, so please don't feel embarrassed or awkward. And remember, it'll be confidential between the two of you.

I really hope what I've said helps, even just a little bit.
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Firstly, it's perfectly normal to feel stressed. You have a really significant part of your school life coming up, so it's natural to feel a bit overwhelmed with it. GCSEs are hard, but they aren't terrifying or horrifying. I'm assuming that because you're in year 10, you haven't yet been given that much information about your GCSEs, their structure, how the exams work etc. This could be what's worrying you - the fact that you don't know all the details yet. I know that this worries me when I don't know something. See if you can speak to your head of year or a trusted teacher about this, ask them to give you more information about what GCSEs actually are, how they work, what you'll need to do etc.



Firstly, stop revising so much. You've only just started year 10, so you don't actually have that much you need to be revising now. If you keep on revising a lot now, then when it comes to year 11 and when it really matters, you'll burn out and that'll end up going really wrong. At this stage, just do your homework and nothing more. Chill and relax. I completely understand what you mean about not being able to ignore your head - mine can feel quite loud at times, and I can't block out a lot of thoughts. If you tone down or stop the revision completely, and make it a priority to go out and see your friends, I think you'll feel a lot better.



Honestly, this is good that you realise that you can improve. Don't think of it like "I failed because I didn't get 100%". Think of it like "I still have a year and a half until my exams, if I keep going I can get the grades I want". You have the motivation and drive to improve your exam technique, so don't be disheartened. This is a really good quality to have, and it shows me that you want to do well and you will succeed.



This is a mindset you're gonna need to chuck out of your mind. It's good that you're making the silly mistakes now. You'll learn from them and grow, so when it comes to the real thing you'll be absolutely fine. Just keep in your mind you have lots of time until your real exams. You have lots of time to improve.



How do you know for a fact that they don't revise? Do you sit in their homes with them and watch them not revising? Are you with them all the time to see them not revising? I'm going to jump to conclusions and assume that this isn't the case. They may claim that they never revise, but a lot (if not all) of them will just be saying that to "look cool". Don't listen to them, because they do revise. Some people, yes, are naturally better at being able to recall information without revising, but that's not very common. The only person you need to compare yourself with is your past self. Not with your classmates, only yourself.



It's definitely a good idea to revise for tests. The key is to know how much to revise. For a quick end-of-topic test, just look over your notes, make flash cards or whatever on the areas your a bit fuzzy on, but don't go full-out study mode for it. For the bigger end-of-term tests, yes put a bit more effort in. Basically, consider how important the grade is at the end of it. If it doesn't make any difference, don't worry yourself too much. If it carries a bit more importance, then do a bit more work.



I know what you mean about not feeling quite comfortable enough to speak to someone about it. I'm the same. Have you tried writing down all your feelings in a notebook? I've found this incredibly therapeutic. I write everything down, get it all out, and then it's like I've purged all my feelings and irrational worries and I feel so much lighter. I feel ready to tackle whatever it is that's causing me to feel like that. Then I shred the paper or throw it away because it's out of my system. Over time you will develop confidence, as you get more life experience and talk to more people in different situations.



Your friends may not seem stressed, but that doesn't mean they aren't. Maybe they're just really good at hiding their feelings. Remember, what you know about someone is only as much as they want you to know about them.



I definitely think you should talk to this teacher. Say something like "hey sir/miss, I'm feeling a little bit stressed about GCSEs. I'm not sure how much I should be revising now or what I really should be doing. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed so I was wondering if you had any advice for me." Teachers always have pupils talking to them about this kind of thing, so please don't feel embarrassed or awkward. And remember, it'll be confidential between the two of you.

I really hope what I've said helps, even just a little bit.
okay, thank you!
i can’t be bothered to cut it all down to the specific parts so i’ve attached it all & quote anything i wanted to ask or give my comment on or whatever

firstly, i feel as though, i can’t stop revising completely, because although i am fully aware the tests i have to take now aren’t majorly serious, i just feel as though if i don’t revise, i’ll arrive to the test with a blank mind. revising means i can recall stuff, even if i don’t physically make many notes, it just enables my mind to turn back on & recall stuff on it’s own accord, which ideally, is something i’d like a lot to happen in an actual

also, i used to keep a sort of diary, but digitally, to record & recall my feelings & get things un-jumbled in my head but i got rid of it not long ago because it was using up most of my storage it definitely helped, but it still left me with a load of unanswered questions i had, that’s partly the reason i decided to join TSR, to get my questions answered, & to be able to say what’s on my mind freely, without being as harshly judged on it.

& yeah, you’re right, my friends may be stressed, & i may just not know that. but i don’t know, i just feel like i can’t go to them for help, i feel like they wouldn’t be able to help me or give me advice or whatever.

i really want to go to this teacher, it’s something i want to do. but i almost feel embarrassed about how much i rely on teachers in general. my friends just don’t seem to get why i feel like i have to speak to or email a teacher about something little, but to me, it’s a natural response really. if i’m doing homework at the weekend & i don’t understand it, i’ll email them. i’m used to emailing teachers about my concerns in the actual assigned work. but this feels like it should be said vocally, rather than said through an email. & well, my friends will question me if i say i need to go & find this teacher to ask her something. because i don’t even have her this year as a teacher & they don’t really like this teacher themselves. i guess i could just say something about her being our head of year or something... idk
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firstly, i feel as though, i can’t stop revising completely, because although i am fully aware the tests i have to take now aren’t majorly serious, i just feel as though if i don’t revise, i’ll arrive to the test with a blank mind. revising means i can recall stuff, even if i don’t physically make many notes, it just enables my mind to turn back on & recall stuff on it’s own accord, which ideally, is something i’d like a lot to happen in an actual
That's fair enough, and makes sense. Maybe instead of completely stopping, just greatly reducing to half an hour every couple of days. It's just important that you give yourself down time and time away from school work. Otherwise it'll consume you and that's the start of a downwards spiral.

(Original post by ellaswords)
also, i used to keep a sort of diary, but digitally, to record & recall my feelings & get things un-jumbled in my head but i got rid of it not long ago because it was using up most of my storage it definitely helped, but it still left me with a load of unanswered questions i had, that’s partly the reason i decided to join TSR, to get my questions answered, & to be able to say what’s on my mind freely, without being as harshly judged on it.
It doesn't have to be a diary. I just have a notepad I write in occasionally and then get rid of the stuff I wrote. It's purely for that therapeutic release. You can do it on your phone, but then just delete it afterwards so it is out of your system and out of your mind. I definitely think you should consider having a notebook or a place on your phone again to just write whenever you're feeling overwhelmed, but then get rid of it afterwards, as well as keep asking questions on here. We are here to help

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& yeah, you’re right, my friends may be stressed, & i may just not know that. but i don’t know, i just feel like i can’t go to them for help, i feel like they wouldn’t be able to help me or give me advice or whatever.
That's okay. You may feel like you can talk to them more later in the year or in year 11 when the pressure really comes on, because then you'll know that everybody is stressed for certain.

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i really want to go to this teacher, it’s something i want to do. but i almost feel embarrassed about how much i rely on teachers in general. my friends just don’t seem to get why i feel like i have to speak to or email a teacher about something little, but to me, it’s a natural response really. if i’m doing homework at the weekend & i don’t understand it, i’ll email them. i’m used to emailing teachers about my concerns in the actual assigned work. but this feels like it should be said vocally, rather than said through an email. & well, my friends will question me if i say i need to go & find this teacher to ask her something. because i don’t even have her this year as a teacher & they don’t really like this teacher themselves. i guess i could just say something about her being our head of year or something... idk
Ignore what your friends are saying. Your teachers, whether they actually teach you or not, are there specifically to help you learn and grow. It is definitely good that you're going to them when you're stuck or unsure, and you can talk to them about your emotions regarding your studies too. Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed - they are literally paid to be helping you out! If they are helping you then that's all that matters
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omg, i literally need this right now. like, seriously, i feel so stressed & the thing is, it probably isn’t healthy for me to be feeling so stressed this early on.

i’m only a month & a bit into year10, yet those looming gcses give me an image of terror & horror. i’m already doing revision on top of my mountain of homework & it’s eating away at my social life. i feel like all my friends are beginning to dislike me because i always zone out of their conversations & probably give the impression i couldn’t care less about what they’re saying. which is not the case, i do care, well, a lot of the time i do, but i just have so much going on in my head, that it seems inevitable, i can’t ignore my head.

when i have a test, i always tend to have this feeling of disappointment in myself no matter what the outcome of it is, because the outcome is never the best, it’s never full marks. & the thing is, after looking through it again, after it’s been marked & the results recorded wherever they get recorded, i realise that i could have done significantly better, perhaps even full marks was achievable. i just get the idea that because it happens now, it’s exactly how my final gcses will go, i won’t achieve as much as i wanted to because i make silly mistakes. it doesn’t help that there’s people in my classes, that i know for a fact don’t revise yet they end up doing better than me, who has revised a great deal. i guess their natural intelligence intimidates me. & the thing is, i don’t know how to go about improving my mindset about this, because every time a test is upcoming i will revise, no matter how big or small it is, because at the end of the day, it’s good practice. so what more can i do?

& I know one of the best things to do about all this is go & talk to people about it, because if i keep it all bottled up inside, well, that’s not going to help anybody. but i feel like i’m incapable of that, so to speak. i’m a very shy person in real life, so socialising & talking to different people is quite difficult for me. i have quite low confidence in myself too, so often, i don’t speak up because i’m scared of being humiliated. my peer group is very judgmental, or at least, that’s how i see them. so i don’t speak up for the fear of being wrong & saying something wrong & stupid that they’ll take the Mickey out of me for. i have a small group of friends, but i feel like i can’t go to them for support or advice because they don’t seem at all stressed so they wouldn’t understand how i’m feeling. & i don’t even have the foggiest idea what i’d say to a teacher, if i had the courage to do so. my stress revolves entirely around school, & it’s not impacting my relationship with my family, so i don’t think talking to them would be much use. so a teacher would be ideal really. there is one teacher i feel i can trust more than the rest but like i said before, i wouldn’t know what to say to her. have i any reason to raise concern in the first place? i don’t know. so TSR, what should i do?

thank you if you read this far on, i understand it was a long message, i was just trying to get my feelings out
GCSEs have little or no value in the real world
The only people that are interested in them are your teachers because their jobs effectively depend on what you get. The pressure on you to pass or the encouragement to do well is artifical. It was always aim for this or work hard for that but no one ever said why. Why should I am for an A in media studies and for what exactly? It was never for my benefit but the teachers. If I could go back I would have done the bare minimum which was the 5 Cs for college and had fun and enjoyed being 15/16.
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GCSEs have little or no value in the real world
The only people that are interested in them are your teachers because their jobs effectively depend on what you get. The pressure on you to pass or the encouragement to do well is artifical. It was always aim for this or work hard for that but no one ever said why. Why should I am for an A in media studies and for what exactly? It was never for my benefit but the teachers. If I could go back I would have done the bare minimum which was the 5 Cs for college and had fun and enjoyed being 15/16.
but surely they have some significance because you need to pass them to a certain level to be able to do a certain job. for example, gcse scores matter a lot to doctors & surgeons etc because they need people performing these jobs that have knowledge in the suitable areas. on a more realistic note for me, i aspire to be a teacher in the future. in order to do that, don’t i have to achieve a pass of a certain level to show i’m capable of the job. & aren’t these required into getting into uni to take a more specific course making it all the more likely you’ll get the job?

idk, i just can’t see them as being practically meaningless when all of my teachers are making so much fuss & drama over them
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