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Amongst the over 30s it tends to be hardcore- way beyond spanky and handuffs.
Emphasising the m-d-s-b in that order with violence.
I walked out on the ex when I realised what vile bdsm stuff he was into.
From the violence to the age range, you have a very pornographic point of view about this...also you said you had a bdsm partner but you told me you're mid 20s, yet just said BDSM is extreme for over 30s, for..some weird reason


Anyway I can see where op is getting at. Pedophilia will have to involve restraining, at least for the first couple times, and restraints is a key essential to most if not all forms of bdsm...
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I meant that others can often view it as a disorder in itself, as though theres a pathological reason behind it, rather than it simply being a sexual interest.
Oh okay I was just about to get offended like there was something wrong with me because I like it 😂
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I guess so many people say that people into bdsm are mentally ill/have a disorder
Citation needed
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I have done BDSM where my partner roleplayed as a young child. This is not pedophilia, and the attraction was not connected to the age she was playing but rather the sub's innocence in this situation.

A lot of people use dd/lg as a coping mechanism for abuse as a child. But this is not a necessary condition. I'm not sure why my partner liked it, but I liked playing the dd role.
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(Original post by Drewski)
Citation needed
Yup, there is no proven connection.

Anecdotally, one might suspect this to be the case. As I mentioned, there is a good proportion of people participating in ddlg that were abused as a child. Some were abused by former partners. That may or may or not be linked to their interests. It does not mean that BDSM is for abused people at all.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
An adult's consent only extends so far- legally.
For example- consenting to strangulation until unconscious or being subjected to repeated violence with the type of weapon that cannot be lawfully carried in a public place.
It seems that some people enjoy a significant danger element, hazardous to their health or not.
The pillars of BDSM are basically safe, sane and consensual.

TW is probably a good idea, idk.

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The third is irrevocable. BDSM without consent is rape, obviously. However there are some situations where the partner will be unable to withdraw consent. This might be because they are gagged, or in very extreme circumstances intoxicated or unconscious. These go against safe and sane, and are generally discouraged. However, some people choose to accept the risk associated. The safe sane and consensual rules don't merely apply to physical danger, but things that can possibly be emotionally damaging such as consensual-non-consent play. (ie. rape-play) This makes aftercare even more than it is usually.
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No.
A pedo might well be into BSDM but there is absolutely no link between the two other than particular individuals preferences.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
A lot of it occurs outside of private residential premises, bdsm events and sex worker's premises.
Those with an appetite for the hardcore stuff seem none too keen on risk assessments and safety precautions.
Clubs are still private places, and that last line is nonsense. Obviously there will be some that don't take adequate precautions but they are far from the norm.
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(Original post by Bang Outta Order)
From the violence to the age range, you have a very pornographic point of view about this...also you said you had a bdsm partner but you told me you're mid 20s, yet just said BDSM is extreme for over 30s, for..some weird reason
I have never participated in any bdsm activities.
The ex was paying sex workers large sums to reenact his vile bdsm fantasies and extremely violent scenes from his illegal hardcore porn stash.
The consequence was std's for the whole lot of them and both sex workers had serious visible injuries requiring painkillers.

There are different bdsm circles.
The hardcore crowd tend to be the over 30s whose favourite activities generally include all four letters (b,d,s,m).
As opposed to the under 30s bdsm participants, who seem to favour the non-violent b and d elements.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I have never participated in any bdsm activities.
The ex was paying sex workers large sums to reenact his vile bdsm fantasies and extremely violent scenes from his illegal hardcore porn stash.
The consequence was std's for the whole lot of them and both sex workers had serious visible injuries requiring painkillers.

There are different bdsm circles.
The hardcore crowd tend to be the over 30s whose favourite activities generally include all four letters (b,d,s,m).
As opposed to the under 30s bdsm participants, who seem to favour the non-violent b and d elements.
I don't think this is true in general. I know plenty of people into S/M at my uni, including myself.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I have never participated in any bdsm activities.
The ex was paying sex workers large sums to reenact his vile bdsm fantasies and extremely violent scenes from his illegal hardcore porn stash.
The consequence was std's for the whole lot of them and both sex workers had serious visible injuries requiring painkillers.

There are different bdsm circles.
The hardcore crowd tend to be the over 30s whose favourite activities generally include all four letters (b,d,s,m).
As opposed to the under 30s bdsm participants, who seem to favour the non-violent b and d elements.
okay as people have said. Where are these facts your saying from. Can you link anything?
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okay as people have said. Where are these facts your saying from. Can you link anything?
I was replying to another user who erroneously believed that I did bdsm with the ex.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I was replying to another user who erroneously believed that I did bdsm with the ex.
okay but my point still stands. you keep saying these facts and I dont see any sources or proof. If you have some I am generally curious as to where you are getting these from.
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