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So at the moment I've said I'll share a house next year with a few of my current flatmates… They're amazing, even though I'm extremely shy I talk to these specific flatmates quite a bit and they're very non judgemental and it makes me feel more comfortable talking to them. They're all just so much more confident than me though, and seem to be closer as friends than I am. But thats just because it takes me a very long time to open up to people. I'm scared of being the only person in the house who isn't a close friend... I'm very shy and in big groups I can never day a word, but when I'm talking to these flatmates specifically I'm a lot more comfortable talking to them, so sharing a house with them will probably be good for me as I will be able to talk to them more. At the moment I sometimes hide in my room when I hear that there are lots of flatmates in the communal room, but if its the flatmates I can talk to a bit more openly, I usually leave my room to say hi.

So... I have a huge crush on one of these flatmates, hes just really nice and always asks if I'm feeling comfortable when I'm in a big group of people. Hes a lot easier to open up to than most people I know and living in a house with him would be really reassuring, hes really fun too! The other flatmates who will be sharing the house are so nice as well and I'm finding myself getting more confident around them too! They're all definitely a lot closer to each other than I am, but like I said thats just because I'm not completely open with them yet, I'm still shy.

Now. Theres another group who I kinda want to share a house with next year... People on my course who have lots in common with me, people I'm really getting more confident around. Theres a group of them who are planning on house sharing next year...One person in this group specifically I know very well from back at school, we were never in the same friendship group back then but now we hang out a lot more since we go to the same uni and are on the same course, we have a lot in common too and I'm more myself around her. The others in this group are really cool too, and I talk to them quite a lot now. I just feel so comfortable around them all and kinda want to share a house with them... Back at school me and this one girl may not have hung out much a lot because our friendship groups were so different, but we always had so much in common and whenever we had classes together we would talk to each other a lot. We were really excited when we realised we were planning on doing the same course, she said it would be awesome to hang out more. And shes part of this group planning on housesharing… Ironically they're looking for just one more person and it hurts quite a bit because I would love to join them... But at the same time I see them every day on my course anyway, and if I don't live with these flatmates I might never see them much at all because we are all on different courses. But as lovely as these flatmates are, we don't have a lot in common which is probably why its taking me even longer to fully open up around them. They're very outgoing and confident, but still they're awesome and I really enjoy hanging out with them. They all drink quite a lot and party and stuff, but they never judge me for not being much of a drinker. I just don't know... Its still very early for deciding and if I'm going to switch housemates now is the time to do it before we start actually looking for houses and stuff. I'm just so split! Living with the people on my course would be really fun and I'd probably socialise with them a lot more considering we have literally everything in common, they're all very geeky like me so I'd feel more comfortable having conversations with them about the things I love. I could also play videogames and stuff with them in the house which would be awesome... But I'd really miss my flatmates! We may not have much in common but I really like them a lot, they always make me laugh and I just love hanging out with them. I'm very shy with them and don't talk a lot when we go out places together as a flat group, but I've improved a lot since we all met during freshers. And living with them next year will give me more of a chance to keep getting more confident around them. They're very encouraging and always make sure to include me. But still... My course friends! They would be really cool to live with too... and we would have so much to talk about as we are all complete geeks. I dunno…
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So at the moment I've said I'll share a house next year with a few of my current flatmates… They're amazing, even though I'm extremely shy I talk to these specific flatmates quite a bit and they're very non judgemental and it makes me feel more comfortable talking to them. They're all just so much more confident than me though, and seem to be closer as friends than I am. But thats just because it takes me a very long time to open up to people. I'm scared of being the only person in the house who isn't a close friend... I'm very shy and in big groups I can never day a word, but when I'm talking to these flatmates specifically I'm a lot more comfortable talking to them, so sharing a house with them will probably be good for me as I will be able to talk to them more. At the moment I sometimes hide in my room when I hear that there are lots of flatmates in the communal room, but if its the flatmates I can talk to a bit more openly, I usually leave my room to say hi.

So... I have a huge crush on one of these flatmates, hes just really nice and always asks if I'm feeling comfortable when I'm in a big group of people. Hes a lot easier to open up to than most people I know and living in a house with him would be really reassuring, hes really fun too! The other flatmates who will be sharing the house are so nice as well and I'm finding myself getting more confident around them too! They're all definitely a lot closer to each other than I am, but like I said thats just because I'm not completely open with them yet, I'm still shy.

Now. Theres another group who I kinda want to share a house with next year... People on my course who have lots in common with me, people I'm really getting more confident around. Theres a group of them who are planning on house sharing next year...One person in this group specifically I know very well from back at school, we were never in the same friendship group back then but now we hang out a lot more since we go to the same uni and are on the same course, we have a lot in common too and I'm more myself around her. The others in this group are really cool too, and I talk to them quite a lot now. I just feel so comfortable around them all and kinda want to share a house with them... Back at school me and this one girl may not have hung out much a lot because our friendship groups were so different, but we always had so much in common and whenever we had classes together we would talk to each other a lot. We were really excited when we realised we were planning on doing the same course, she said it would be awesome to hang out more. And shes part of this group planning on housesharing… Ironically they're looking for just one more person and it hurts quite a bit because I would love to join them... But at the same time I see them every day on my course anyway, and if I don't live with these flatmates I might never see them much at all because we are all on different courses. But as lovely as these flatmates are, we don't have a lot in common which is probably why its taking me even longer to fully open up around them. They're very outgoing and confident, but still they're awesome and I really enjoy hanging out with them. They all drink quite a lot and party and stuff, but they never judge me for not being much of a drinker. I just don't know... Its still very early for deciding and if I'm going to switch housemates now is the time to do it before we start actually looking for houses and stuff. I'm just so split! Living with the people on my course would be really fun and I'd probably socialise with them a lot more considering we have literally everything in common, they're all very geeky like me so I'd feel more comfortable having conversations with them about the things I love. I could also play videogames and stuff with them in the house which would be awesome... But I'd really miss my flatmates! We may not have much in common but I really like them a lot, they always make me laugh and I just love hanging out with them. I'm very shy with them and don't talk a lot when we go out places together as a flat group, but I've improved a lot since we all met during freshers. And living with them next year will give me more of a chance to keep getting more confident around them. They're very encouraging and always make sure to include me. But still... My course friends! They would be really cool to live with too... and we would have so much to talk about as we are all complete geeks. I dunno…
Just tell one of your friends to tell your flat mate you have a crush on them.
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