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There was a school party going on. My friends kept on pushing me to go.It was pretty friendly in the beginning but then it started to become rather awkward and bad.It was getting pretty frustrating.When we played pool whenever I missed they said it was karma for not going to the party.That night sucked so much and they still kept on pushing.They said that they want me ,so the gang would be together and stuff.They made feel so bad for not going.I had already told them that I didn't want to go because I don't like bars and clubs.When we left the Cafeteria where we play pool they said it once more.Come ,so it can be the three of us,be there for us.And I was like ,have fun, and left because it was such an unpleasant night and I was so angry.I don't know but it felt good but I was still very sad that day.Is anything wrong with me?
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They should not be making you feel bad for not wanting to go! I can understand how it could be frustrating for them, but as long as you calmly explain to them how you're feeling it's up to them to try and understand and not something you should worry about. If they continue to make you feel guilty about things like this, I would suggest confronting them calmly (arguments get you no where!) or walk away. I don't think there is anything wrong with you! There is no point in going out if you're feeling frustrated, especially with the people causing you to feel this way. Hope you feel better soon
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(Original post by Anonymous)
There was a school party going on. My friends kept on pushing me to go.It was pretty friendly in the beginning but then it started to become rather awkward and bad.It was getting pretty frustrating.When we played pool whenever I missed they said it was karma for not going to the party.That night sucked so much and they still kept on pushing.They said that they want me ,so the gang would be together and stuff.They made feel so bad for not going.I had already told them that I didn't want to go because I don't like bars and clubs.When we left the Cafeteria where we play pool they said it once more.Come ,so it can be the three of us,be there for us.And I was like ,have fun, and left because it was such an unpleasant night and I was so angry.I don't know but it felt good but I was still very sad that day.Is anything wrong with me?
To be honest it just sounds like camorardary among your group, it sounds like they want you to be apart of there group. I understand you feel uncomfortable with there 'peer pressure' (peer pressure is usually bad if it evolves drugs, exploitation and crime) but this peer pressure isn't quite the same. Basically they have a certain lifestyle and you don't fit it at the moment hence why the peer pressure.

How old are you? Are you quite young 18 - early 20's? Usually in western culture young people spend there time in pubs/clubs. Life is too short for these people.

Its more than ok for you not to want to go to pubs/clubs but realise you will eventually lose your group.
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No.
You just don't like socialising in the party, bar and club environment.
But you may want to explain and consider making alternative arrangements to socialise with your two friends.
If they believe that you are deliberately being anti-social they might feel offended, go find another friend who shares their enjoyment for partying and have you end up feeling like the fourth wheel.
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look up the definition of "friend." there you will find your answer.
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