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Hi,

So, I am 24 years old (I am actually posting this on my birthday, the 16th November) and I've yet to be in a relationship in my entire life. I'm a really socially active person but I can never seen to be in a relationship since I'm a below average-looking, South Asian (British born though) who is in attractively short at 5"3'. I can't even get a single match on Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, etc. I haven't even had sex before too and I am unable to pull a girl on a night out because every girl I try laughs at me or is disgusted at me, again most likely due to my poor looks or my height.

That was until in January 2018, where I decided to get an escort. Ever since then, I'd always get an escort for sex because I know that no girl would be interested in me without paying them. I am now addicted to them, constantly looking on an escort website everyday to find my next escort booking. I've yet to have sex without paying and it's really affecting my mental state. Then it becomes an endless cycle where I feel awful that no girl would want me so I keep paying to make a girl like me.

Any thoughts or advice on how I could stop this or how to make my mental health better despite this situation I'm in?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi,

So, I am 24 years old (I am actually posting this on my birthday, the 16th November) and I've yet to be in a relationship in my entire life. I'm a really socially active person but I can never seen to be in a relationship since I'm a below average-looking, South Asian (British born though) who is in attractively short at 5"3'. I can't even get a single match on Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, etc. I haven't even had sex before too and I am unable to pull a girl on a night out because every girl I try laughs at me or is disgusted at me, again most likely due to my poor looks or my height.

That was until in January 2018, where I decided to get an escort. Ever since then, I'd always get an escort for sex because I know that no girl would be interested in me without paying them. I am now addicted to them, constantly looking on an escort website everyday to find my next escort booking. I've yet to have sex without paying and it's really affecting my mental state. Then it becomes an endless cycle where I feel awful that no girl would want me so I keep paying to make a girl like me.

Any thoughts or advice on how I could stop this or how to make my mental health better despite this situation I'm in?
Loads of these threads.

If it injures your self esteem then stop it.
Build up confidence.
Build up social skills.
Make the most of yourself
Get out and meet people then you might have a better chance of actually attracting someones interest.
It may change the way others and you see yourself.

Perhaps the escorts are helping you avoid doing something longer term to benefit yourself and if its making you lose hope then some common sense about it being more damaging than good is the signal you need to stop.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi,

So, I am 24 years old (I am actually posting this on my birthday, the 16th November) and I've yet to be in a relationship in my entire life. I'm a really socially active person but I can never seen to be in a relationship since I'm a below average-looking, South Asian (British born though) who is in attractively short at 5"3'. I can't even get a single match on Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, etc. I haven't even had sex before too and I am unable to pull a girl on a night out because every girl I try laughs at me or is disgusted at me, again most likely due to my poor looks or my height.

That was until in January 2018, where I decided to get an escort. Ever since then, I'd always get an escort for sex because I know that no girl would be interested in me without paying them. I am now addicted to them, constantly looking on an escort website everyday to find my next escort booking. I've yet to have sex without paying and it's really affecting my mental state. Then it becomes an endless cycle where I feel awful that no girl would want me so I keep paying to make a girl like me.

Any thoughts or advice on how I could stop this or how to make my mental health better despite this situation I'm in?
Just wondering, which escort website do you go to and how do you meet them (do you meet them in public first or do they come to your place)?
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Addicted to prostitutes and yet you've "never had sex before"? :confused:
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(Original post by 999tigger)
Loads of these threads.

If it injures your self esteem then stop it.
Build up confidence.
Build up social skills.
Make the most of yourself
Get out and meet people then you might have a better chance of actually attracting someones interest.
It may change the way others and you see yourself.

Perhaps the escorts are helping you avoid doing something longer term to benefit yourself and if its making you lose hope then some common sense about it being more damaging than good is the signal you need to stop.
Did you actually read what the guy wrote? lol. He's saying that he is socially active so most of the traits you tell him to learn he already has?

For OP:
You sound kind of an obnoxious type that doesnt understand what leagues are. try to seek a girl that's in your own league and stop looking for girls in clubs unless you're pretty good looking.
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Did you actually read what the guy wrote? lol. He's saying that he is socially active so most of the traits you tell him to learn he already has?

For OP:
You sound kind of an obnoxious type that doesnt understand what leagues are. try to seek a girl that's in your own league and stop looking for girls in clubs unless you're pretty good looking.
But he doesnt have them and they arent effective because hes convinced himself he cant find a gf.
Did you actually read what he wrote?
Socially active doesnt mean he is socially skilled, when it boils down to it his opinion of himself is low and he cant get a gf.
So no he doesnt have the skills or traits im suggesting he gets otherwise he wouldnt be writing this post , becoming addicted to escorts and then making himself deeply unhappy about it.

Liking your league advice, that really addresses the issue.
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(Original post by Bukalemun123)
Did you actually read what the guy wrote? lol. He's saying that he is socially active so most of the traits you tell him to learn he already has?

For OP:
You sound kind of an obnoxious type that doesnt understand what leagues are. try to seek a girl that's in your own league and stop looking for girls in clubs unless you're pretty good looking.
You’re pretty obnoxious yourself.

You should think about seeing a therapist OP. You’ll never find someone if you keep going along this self-destructive path. You’re worth more than that and you can find someone. You need to take a step back from the chaos.
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You’re pretty obnoxious yourself.

You should think about seeing a therapist OP. You’ll never find someone if you keep going along this self-destructive path. You’re worth more than that and you can find someone. You need to take a step back from the chaos.
why's he obnoxious?:confused:
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why's he obnoxious?:confused:
He was condescending to another poster and insulting to the OP.
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(Original post by 999tigger)
But he doesnt have them and they arent effective because hes convinced himself he cant find a gf.
Did you actually read what he wrote?
Socially active doesnt mean he is socially skilled, when it boils down to it his opinion of himself is low and he cant get a gf.
So no he doesnt have the skills or traits im suggesting he gets otherwise he wouldnt be writing this post , becoming addicted to escorts and then making himself deeply unhappy about it.

Liking your league advice, that really addresses the issue.
being socially active does mean he has enough social skills to be socially active?
getting a girlfriend isnt all about being the loudest in the room though. OP sounds like he has/had enough self esteem to go up to a girl let alone multiple ones. thats a pretty ballsy thing to do in the first place.
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(Original post by YaliaV)
He was condescending to another poster and insulting to the OP.
I might've sounded like a cockhead but trust me I'm pretty self-aware irl.
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bet its adultwork
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(Original post by Bukalemun123)
being socially active does mean he has enough social skills to be socially active?
getting a girlfriend isnt all about being the loudest in the room though. OP sounds like he has/had enough self esteem to go up to a girl let alone multiple ones. thats a pretty ballsy thing to do in the first place.
Being socially active just means you go out a lot. It doesnt mean you are effective at relationships, starting or maintaining them. The whole point of the thread is that the OP is failing at this and what drove him to escorts in the first place. Did you even read it? The OP clearly states where his weaknesses are, yet you seem to ignore that.
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Addicted to prostitutes and yet you've "never had sex before"? :confused:
“That was until January 2018.....”
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short at 5"3'. I can't even get a single match on Tinder, OkCupid, Bumble, etc. I haven't even had sex before too and I am unable to pull a girl on a night out because every girl I try laughs at me or is disgusted...
Any thoughts or advice on how I could stop this or how to make my mental health better despite this situation I'm in?
I am sorry this is painful to read and must have been very painful to write
:hugs:

dating sites are not for honest short men. only dishonest short men or tall men will do ok on those...and if you really want to meet up with someone without them feeling annoyed at being lied to about height....probably not worth your time and effort

in fact the dating sites harm mental health, imo

nights out are a really bad place to get to know someone. can you even hear inside a club? how will you get to know her? How will she get to know your SCINTILLATING and POWERFUL character? if you have a hobby or interest where there's a chance to meet petite women, that would be a better place to start... basically any hobby except womens rugby they're a bit larger than average usually I hope they don't mind it being pointed out
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btw when you've built up your confidence in a few months you can try your "cold approach" (try that in the search bar on tsr) out on tall women, john bercow style
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