Crushes give me anxiety Watch
Hi everyone, I'm a 20 year old girl and I've never dated anyone before. I don't lack guys who show interest in me so that's not the problem. The problem is I avoid contact with every guy who I might potentially crush on, because crushing on someone gives me a bunch of anxiety. For one, I tend to crush on any guy who gives me a bit more attention, and then I feel like I need to please them even at my own expense, which makes me feel really cheap. For another-- and this is the main reason-- I can't get my mind off my crushes, which is really annoying and affects me when I'm trying to work or spend time with my family. So I avoid speaking with guys who I find attractive in real life, and I avoid speaking with guys at all online because I'm afraid I might fall for them. Yep it's weird, I know, but it's true. Anyway, I'd like to make male friends even with guys I find cute (!) and I'm not opposed to actually trying my hand at dating as well. Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop feeling anxious about developing feelings for someone? This is really starting to get ridiculous and if this continues I'll never get a boyfriend because I'll just continue to cut off contact with any guy who I feel attracted to. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance!