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I’m nearing the end of my first semester at university and I don’t feel like I’ve made any friends. I’m shy and anxious but I did make an effort to try and talk to people I met in lectures in the first few weeks; none of those conversations seemed to lead anywhere though. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like it’s gotten too late to make friends; I head to all of my lectures alone and see most people sitting in groups or pairs, and no one seems to be interested in talking or making friends like in the first few weeks. I get on fine with my flatmates but we don’t really click and they all have lots of friends outside the flat they hang out with; I’ve also made an effort to go to societies but there seems to be different people at each meeting and none of the interactions I’ve had have gone anywhere. It really feels like everyone has already made some friends and I feel completely alone, I honestly feel on the edge of tears a lot of the time because it’s making me feel so bad... I’m wondering if anyone else had/has an experience like this and if it got better/ what your advice would be? I’m really struggling
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I’m nearing the end of my first semester at university and I don’t feel like I’ve made any friends. I’m shy and anxious but I did make an effort to try and talk to people I met in lectures in the first few weeks; none of those conversations seemed to lead anywhere though. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like it’s gotten too late to make friends; I head to all of my lectures alone and see most people sitting in groups or pairs, and no one seems to be interested in talking or making friends like in the first few weeks. I get on fine with my flatmates but we don’t really click and they all have lots of friends outside the flat they hang out with; I’ve also made an effort to go to societies but there seems to be different people at each meeting and none of the interactions I’ve had have gone anywhere. It really feels like everyone has already made some friends and I feel completely alone, I honestly feel on the edge of tears a lot of the time because it’s making me feel so bad... I’m wondering if anyone else had/has an experience like this and if it got better/ what your advice would be? I’m really struggling
For introverts, making friends and socialising takes a lot longer. It’s not your fault but ideally, you should be taking your time with making friends. Make the effort to look friendly and get active in societies and on your course. It’s okay to struggle and feel lonely sometimes but let it motivate you to think about ways to get friends
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I’m nearing the end of my first semester at university and I don’t feel like I’ve made any friends. I’m shy and anxious but I did make an effort to try and talk to people I met in lectures in the first few weeks; none of those conversations seemed to lead anywhere though. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like it’s gotten too late to make friends; I head to all of my lectures alone and see most people sitting in groups or pairs, and no one seems to be interested in talking or making friends like in the first few weeks. I get on fine with my flatmates but we don’t really click and they all have lots of friends outside the flat they hang out with; I’ve also made an effort to go to societies but there seems to be different people at each meeting and none of the interactions I’ve had have gone anywhere. It really feels like everyone has already made some friends and I feel completely alone, I honestly feel on the edge of tears a lot of the time because it’s making me feel so bad... I’m wondering if anyone else had/has an experience like this and if it got better/ what your advice would be? I’m really struggling
I'm also introverted and have the same struggles so this resonates with me also. I guess it really does take time, are you apart of any group chats? if so suggest something like seeing a movie or getting dinner, what uni do you go btw? if you're in bristol we could be friends
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I'm also introverted and have the same struggles so this resonates with me also. I guess it really does take time, are you apart of any group chats? if so suggest something like seeing a movie or getting dinner, what uni do you go btw? if you're in bristol we could be friends
Aw I don’t go to Bristol- that’s a shame! It’s good to hear someone else can relate. I am a part of the main course group chats but there’s hundreds of people on there so it’s hard to try and find people to meet with I guess
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Aw I don’t go to Bristol- that’s a shame! It’s good to hear someone else can relate. I am a part of the main course group chats but there’s hundreds of people on there so it’s hard to try and find people to meet with I guess
I'm literally going through the same thing, my course is smaller than yours though and there is a lot of small group work type stuff, but I feel like I just have acquaintances rather than friends. it feels like uni isn't meant for introverts most of the time. we can still be friends even if we don't go to the same uni, dm me your no. i'd really like to talk about this more.
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I know exactly how you feel. On top of being an introvert I struggle with anxiety which just makes me not want to leave my room most of the time. We should just make a huge introvert group chat for all the lonely students who are struggling out there haha
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Same here it feels impossible to make friends
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I know it can be difficult, but have you thought of asking someone that you know is friendly if you can join them whilst waiting in between classes. I’m always happy to have people joining my group x
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I know exactly how you feel. On top of being an introvert I struggle with anxiety which just makes me not want to leave my room most of the time. We should just make a huge introvert group chat for all the lonely students who are struggling out there haha
YESS!!! i'm so on board with that, let's make it happen
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How should we do it?
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Did you guys make a chat?
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Did you guys make a chat?
yes we did, dm me, ill add you
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I know exactly how you feel. On top of being an introvert I struggle with anxiety which just makes me not want to leave my room most of the time. We should just make a huge introvert group chat for all the lonely students who are struggling out there haha
Omg this sounds super similar to me, I’m a really anxious person which just makes it so much harder :/ haha I’d definitely like to be part of the group chat!
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I know it can be difficult, but have you thought of asking someone that you know is friendly if you can join them whilst waiting in between classes. I’m always happy to have people joining my group x
That’s good to hear, I guess I always presume at this stage people won’t want to talk to me or have me join their group but maybe I should try and stop thinking like that xx
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